3 Tips To Make a Man Want a Serious Relationship – Agree or Disagree

June 28, 2012 by  
Filed under Commitment

Have you ever paid attention to the advice people are giving to women on how to make a guy commit to a serious relationship? Some of my female friends often get into heated discussions which typically revolve around the men they date, their boyfriends, and even their ex’s. It seems that as long as their discussions don’t involve them directly or even indirectly, they are pretty insightful about giving advice to their women friends, but as soon as the topic of the conversation turns toward their own situations with men they become helpless. So why is it so easy to give dating and relationship advice when you are the one standing on the outside looking in, and so hard when you are trying to make a decision concerning your own relationship with your man? It’s hard to see the picture when you are in the frame!

So let’s take a quick look at some of those proposed methods for making a man commit to a serious relationship and list them here is order. Then I will share my opinion with you and state whether I agree or disagree, and you are invited to comment on each one of those points and add more of your own.

If you want to make a man commit don’t have sex with him until you know you are in a serious relationshipDisagree.

woman pushing man awayYou don’t have to wait for marriage to become sexually intimate with a guy, but if you want to make sure that the man you are sleeping with is your boyfriend, wait till he becomes your boyfriend and then only after that you can start having sex with him. This will guarantee that you are sleeping with a man who you are in a serious relationship with, and will give you peace of mind. This is done not because you are trying to make a man commit to a serious relationship. You are only doing it for yourself so that you will have a peace of mind.

If you however want to take chances and sleep with him without commitment, you have to be prepared for things to not go your way. If you are cool with that, go ahead and sleep with him when you want to. The fact of having sex with a guy without commitment will not automatically make him run in the other direction. If everything else works out well, he might commit to a serious relationship with you after the fact, or he might not. You just have to be prepared. I strongly advise for your own security is that you wait till he declares that he wants to be your boyfriend.

You have to be an independent woman if you want to make a man commitAgree.

Being an independent woman doesn’t mean that you don’t need a man. This merely means that you have your own independent from him interests and your own life. Not one wants to be solely responsible for making you happy, but you also need to show a man that you enjoy having him in your life.

You have to play hard to get if you want to make a man commitDisagree.

Playing hard to get, unavailable, and uninterested only makes an unavailable man chase you. He is not after a relationship with you; he is only after the chase. Once the chase is over he loses interest. This is not because you stop playing hard to get; this is simply because a man who is attracted to the thrill of the chase is not interested in a serious relationship to begin with. He is merely after the chase itself disregarding the woman who initiates the chase. This man is immature, and the woman who feels the need to play hard to get is immature as well. Water finds its own level. If you are playing hard to get you will attract the kind of men who are after the challenge. If you want to get a man who is looking for a serious relationship, you should be honest with him and not play games. When you want a guy to be honest with you, give him honesty and if he reciprocates in kind you know he is a keeper. Granted, honesty is scary, and only a truly confident woman can handle the amount of pressure honesty requires. Insecurity, on the other hand, is the trait that we don’t often recognize in ourselves. It is insecurities that drive women to play hard to get.

So, these are the most common things people advise when someone is trying to make a man commit to a serious relationship. Does anything else come to mind? Leave a comment, question, or response in the comment section below!

Do you agree or disagree?

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27 Responses to “3 Tips To Make a Man Want a Serious Relationship – Agree or Disagree”
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  4. alya says:

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    Gad made us and give us his own rolls if we follow that roll from our holy guran any will will be have just follow step by step and you will be happy like never before.

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  8. Clarisse says:

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  14. Katie says:

    Is there any way to tell when a man is getting serious with you?

  15. Laura says:

    I have a question. How do you make a man want to get serious if he is blowing hot and cold?

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  17. Jane says:

    I agree with what you said here, especially about women who play hard to get because of their own insecurities. I used to be like that too and I’ve lost a lot of good men because I was playing too unavailable to them. My current boyfriend and I have a completely different relationship. We are honest with each other and do not play games, and our relationship is simply wonderful. He told me from the beginning that he was looking for a serious relationship, and that he wants to get married and start a family some day. I know that it is not going to happen right away. We’ve been together for a year and he hasn’t proposed yet, but I know that I just have to wait and see, and I am not in a hurry. When the time is right he will propose, but I don’t want to put any pressure on him and that’s what makes our relationship so wonderful. We share some amazing things and experiences, and each of us has our own lives but we are very close. At some point I was worried about where this was going and if he was going to propose soon, but now I learned to relax and let our relationship develop naturally, thanks to your articles and your books that I got. I keep coming back to learn more because I want to make sure that I continue my personal growth through reading your stuff!

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  20. Elba says:

    These are very good tips on how to make a guy want to have a relationship with you. I will follow your advice. I haven’t met the man of my dreams yet but I will know what to do when I meet him.

  21. Caroline says:

    I don’t have a boyfriend now but I am dating someone. We went out of three dates. I want to know what I should do to make him want a relationship with me. I learned a lot from your tips, and you are right, all those things were said to me when I asked my friends about how I could make him want a serious relationship. I really appreciate your input and it really helped me see things clearly. I will follow your advice and let you know the results.

  22. Ester says:

    my boyfriend is committed to me and I didn’t sleep with him the first night we met. I waited for several months before we became intimate. Before I used to get intimate with guys very soon and none of those relationships lasted.

  23. Celma says:

    I’d like to read more of your tips on how to make a man committed to me. Please write more about it. I will keep coming to your site.

  24. Allie says:

    These tips are very helpful for me as I am just starting to see a new guy and want to make sure he wants a relationship with me and not just something casual. I’ve been divorced for 3 years now and I am just starting to date again. I put a profile on a popular dating site and met lots of nice men but this one is really special for me and I want to make sure I don’t screw up with him. Keep posting great articles! I will keep reading!

  25. Belle C says:

    Hi i just got to know this man .he said that he is looking for serious relationship and he want a family and a kid ,i asked him where i stand and he told i’m his girlfriend but i don’t feel it cos we hardly see each other and i find that i’ve lots of doubt on him . please advice …

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