Why Men Go Hot and Cold 3 Reasons Why Men Go Hot and Cold

I get a lot of emails from confused women asking me why men go from hot to cold, back and forth, so I wanted to write this article to explain the three main reasons why men will go hot and cold, confusing you in the process by such inconsistent behavior.

The number one reason men will blow hot and cold is that the woman herself starts acting too pushy too early on and pushes him away. When a man you are dating hasn’t decided yet he is ready to commit to a more serious relationship with you, and you already hear the wedding bells in your head, the emotions you project during your dates and the things you say to him make it transparent that you are looking for a relationship that is more serious than what he is currently offering you.

In this situation you need to re-assess your own behavior and how you come off. If you are finding that after a heartfelt confession on how much you like him he is pulling away, you’ve just scared him off. Take the time for his feelings for you develop with the same intensity before he makes a commitment to a serious relationship.

The most important thing to remember is that it has to come from him.

Reason number 2 men blow hot and cold is that they often need time to process their emotions and need a little readjustment before taking a plunge to make a more serious commitment to the woman in his life.

You may find that after spending a fabulous weekend together he doesn’t call you for three days or immerses into his work.

Don’t worry and give him time. Sometimes after smelling roses for a couple of days a man will want to get back to pursuing his goals. He may get scared that spending romantic time on the beach will take over his life and leave nothing else, so he will want to jump into work just to feel like nothing has changed and he is still the man he was before he met you.

Lastly, reason number three why men blow hot and cold is that he wants to keep you in his life but doesn’t want to commit to you completely. He starts pursuing you when you pull back out of fear to lose you entirely, but when he feels that he is back in the comfort zone in which there is no threat that you will leave him, he goes back to the cold mode.

Astonishingly in studies that I talk about in Guide To Commitment which were done on unmarried couples, majority of men currently living with their girlfriends said they did not want to marry their girlfriends because they didn’t see them as their soulmates. Those men also identified what they’d consider their soulmates and the kind of woman they’d commit. You can learn more about it on This Page – Click Here To Read!

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What That Means When You Stop Hearing From Him

I get a lot of e-mails from women (and men as well) asking me why would someone they’ve gone out on several dates with suddenly disappear or gradually vanish in thin air?

The very obvious explanation is that the person who stops contacting us is not longer interested in us. But obviously we don’t see it that way, so we keep making up excuses for them in our head because the loud and clear message is just too painful to accept.

Yes, it is painful to admit that someone we are interested in is not interested in us in return especially after we have time and feelings invested in that person.

We think that unless we hear from the horse’s mouth that they don’t want to see us anymore we should not assume that they have lost interest.

So, why won’t they just tell us? For one, someone we hardly know does not always feel (and most times they don’t) that they owe us an explanation.

Unless you are boyfriend/girlfriend, it is unreasonable to put them on a spot and demand an explanation after three or four dates. Dating does not equal a relationship. When we date, we meet up with a purpose to get to know the person and to determine if we want to see them for another date. If after three dates a person decides that he does not want to see someone for a fourth date, there is no reason they should be held liable for an explanation. They’ve simply decided after three dates that this is not going to work.

Calling them and confronting them will be of no use. It’s just as pointless as asking a person on a dating site why they don’t want to date us. In any case the answer you will receive if you were to ask would not please you.

Worse yet, getting an answer to your question as to why someone has rejected you can often lead to conflict, arguments, attempts to change their mind, tears, and other very negative consequences. So, why in the world would we want to put ourselves through so many unpleasant emotions when it is so much more painless to just disappear hoping that the other person gets the hint?

If you are on the receiving end of such disappearing act, you are probably mad thinking that they must have given you an explanation as if they owe you one. But really, think about it! Would that make you happy to have been rejected straight in the face or would it be easier for you to get a great deal of confusion but no insults and put-downs such direct rejection represents?

And it certainly is easier for the rejector to let you down easy rather than explain to someone they barely know after a few dates and whom they’ve already decided not to see again why they decided not to see them again.

Worst case scenario, the person who is rejecting another will lie and to make up the reason for the rejection. They can say they are still not over their ex and don’t want a relationship; they can make up a lie that they are actually getting together with the ex; or they may make up a lie that they are just too busy and do not have time for a relationship or don’t want a relationship at this time.

All these things mean one thing really – they do not want a relationship with the other person and they make up white lies to lessen the pain of the rejection.

But you may be saying, I felt such intense chemistry and connection; we seemed to have so much in common, etc. That can’t be the case with me!

If you think this situation does not apply to you, and you are just different, and this can’t be applicable to you, and you want to get the guy back even if you weren’t boyfriend/girlfriend but rather dated casually, check out my other page on How To Get Him Back == > Click Here To Read!

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How To Get This Relationship Back The Way It Was

Has your relationship gone sour? If so, you are not alone. Many folks can relate to this.

Here is a message I got on my blog from a guy. He wants to hear from my subscribers who are women as to what they think about this situation. Please read this story and leave your comments in the comment section down below.

He writes:

I am a man 50 yrs old, I have been in a relationship with the most wonderful woman I have ever met in my entire life for a little over a year now.The first 4 months were crazy with intimacy, desire and the true feeling of love. She told me early on how much see wanted me in her life forever. I in time said I wanted her the same way. Then, boom, she broke up with me… I stayed away and had no contact for about 6 weeks, she called me and we started back up where we left off. It was great for months again, I stayed at her house half the week at her request. Then, again she broke it off, never really giving me a reason. Again I stayed away, with no contact for two months, she called me back, started right where we left off again. We were having a great time, all was good…and then again after 4 months, she broke it off again. I did the same thing again, no contact for about 3 weeks when she called me back again.

This time though she has kept the relationship more as a booty call, she will ask me to come over, we have a terrific time for the evening, and most of the next day, she has a hard time letting me leave. If I call her to see how she is doing, the call is short and sweet, If I ask to meet her, she puts me off, then in a few days calls to have me over.

I am perplexed, I know she loves me because she shows me and tells me Im the best guy she has ever known and that she loves me. Now I dont know what she wants in our relationship. If I ask her she moves away from the topic and tells me she doesnt know what she wants and what to do….

What do you think about all of this, she knows I want her, what advise can you give me, I want her involved in my life and I want to be involved in hers. How do I bring her back the way we were?

 Peter

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He Says He Is Not Ready 3 Choices You Can Make When He Says He Is Not Ready

When a man you’ve been dating or even your serious boyfriend suddenly tells you that he has been thinking about your relationship and is now not sure if he is ready for the kind of a relationship you want or the kinds of relationship you deserve; or that he actually knows that he is not ready for a relationship, or anything serious; or that he just doesn’t want a relationship at the moment, or that he is just not ready to date after all, and all this other bull crap, you will more than likely be devastated and rightfully so.

You may be feeling lied to and mislead. And you are probably wondering, does it mean that all these great dates didn’t really mean anything? All the intense feelings and loving words; are they just fluff?

Unfortunately men do this often and say the exact same thing often; and the reason men say these dreadful words is because they get the vibe from you that you want something more which they are not willing to give you at this time.

What should you do?

There are three choices you can make.

First and the most often chosen by most women option is to stay in a relationship in a waiting mode hoping that it’s the time that he needs.

It’s actually pathetic that men who were the ones to push the relationship forward in the beginning now come up with excuses and even drop hints that they’ve heard somewhere or read somewhere that you need to spend at least a year with the person to decide if you even want a serious commitment with that person. Or two year; or whatever the case is in your situation; he’ll come up with something to justify his lack of commitment toward your relationship.

Ever wonder how that is? He was the one pushing forward and now he is discounting his promises by taking back what he had said.

Let me tell you; staying in a relationship that is uncertain hoping for it to change with time is a sure-fire way to get yourself nowhere in this relationship.

Trust me; because I have seen this happen to so many women. They patiently waited for years since hearing the ‘not ready’ excuse and they are still there in the waiting mode; and he is still not ready, even years later.

The second choice you have (and about ten percent women chose this option) is to tell him that if he is not ready she is ready for a relationship with someone else – anyone, the one who is ready for a relationship with her.

This is a plausible and honorable choice to make; and I am sure a lot of relationship coaches will give you kudos for this.

This is what you want to do, well, unless the guy you are with is the one you want and no one else!

This is where the hard part comes – you don’t want thousands of guys who want a serious relationship and want it now; you want this one guy!

This is where the option number three becomes available at your disposal; unfortunately most women don’t know there is an option three; but there sure is a way to stay with the same guy AND encourage him to take the relationship to the next level.

I explain how to give him that little encouragement and to make him really see the benefits of committing to you on this page – Read This >>>

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How To Get Your Ex Back In 7 Steps

Do you want to get your ex boyfriend back? Watch this video that shows you how to get your ex boyfriend back in seven steps!

Find Out How To Get Him Back – Click Here Now!

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How To Make a Man Fall In Love With You

How to make a man fall in love with you – while there is a lot to learn about men which can’t be covered in a two minute video or a seven page report, I hope that these tips will be of help!

Thank you everyone who came and read the report. I got lots of emails and positive feedback on it. Taking it down now.

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Why You Keep Attracting The Wrong Men

Do you ever wonder why in the world with all these available single guys you keep attracting the wrong ones?

It’s not that you can’t attract a man, it’s just that every time it is the WRONG MAN

Have you ever thought of that?

You keep attracting the wrong type of guys, and can’t seem to meet the man to settle down with.

I know this for a fact that many times women settle for less than they deserve.

Are you settling for less than you deserve because A man, ANY man is better than being single?

And when a man is not up to par you keep making excuses for him.

Perhaps he did not offer to help you move the furniture when you were moving into a new apartment. All your friends came to help, but he told you he would be busy that day, which was Sunday. Yeah, right.

And you make excuse after excuse. Oh yeah, he is just tired; he is just busy; he just doesn’t have time for me; he is just lazy, etc.

Have you ever done this?

Or perhaps you met a guy who you weren’t particularly attracted to but you went out with him anyway, and after a number of dates you still feel that there is no attraction on your part; but you think that dating SOME GUY is better than being alone because at least you have the status of ‘having someone to date’. Ever experienced that?

If you are like most women you will say YES to at least one of these questions.

Even the best quality women fall into the trap of the wrong guy.

Liz was an attractive outgoing woman in her forties. She had a great job working for a major law firm in San Francisco. She had a house in an affluent area. She had everything.

She met her boyfriend Paul several years ago. Paul had a Master’s Degree because his parents put him through school but he never used it. He couldn’t keep a job, was running from child support for his two kids from his ex girlfriend he never took any interest in, and was ultimately staying with his wealthy parents.

Liz dated Paul for several years, in the course of which he also cheated on her when he had an opportunity. She gave him a job at the firm she was working at but he didn’t like the boss or what the boss said and quit.

Finally after years Liz woke up, broke it off and found a new guy. And last thing I heard was that she is now engaged.

If you keep dating the wrong men, perhaps it’s not the men. When you realize that a faulty guy will not turn into a prince no matter how much you invest in him, you will move on and find THE RIGHT GUY.

If you want to know how to identify the Right Man, read This Page!

If you have ever found yourself settling for less than you deserve and want to share your story, leave a comment down below.

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How To Get Your Ex Back Video

If you are looking for free video tips on how to get your ex boyfriend back, watch this video. It describes seven steps to getting your boyfriend back that you need to take in order to get him back. If you already know these things great; if you don’t watch this video and learn. In any case, I hope you enjoy this free video and the cover music provided by youtube! If you like it, leave a comment here or on the youtube video itself! or share it on FaceBook!

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How To Find True Love

If you are tired of dating, tired of going out on a lot of meaningless dates always ending up bad, tired of meeting men you have no chemistry with, or meeting men who you do have chemistry with but who for some reason don’t follow up, tired of dating the wrong men, tired of getting involved with men who never want to take the relationship to the next level, and tired of getting into a dating relationship only to get hurt and burned again, read this article because I wrote it for you.

I know how frustrating it could be when you look for love and not finding any.

At some point you may start to think that there must be something wrong with you.

But trust me, as a dating and relationship coach who has worked with hundreds if not thousands of women (I’ve lost count), I can tell you for sure – IT’S NOT YOUR FAULT!

And right in this article I want to tell you my personal secrets on attracting the true love into your life once and for all!

If you are sick and tired of dating, the information you will find on this page will give you a SHORTCUT to finding the MAN OF YOUR DREAMS!

The One Challenge That Stands On Your Way Of Finding The Man Of Your Dreams

If you are like most women who are presently single and looking, you don’t want just any man. You want the right man.

The good news is that right now, there are many great single men to choose from.

The bad news is that with so many single men to weed through it is extremely hard to find that rare man who is THE RIGHT ONE!

So, the number one secret to finding THE RIGHT MAN for you is to know exactly what you are looking for.

I know it may sound like common sense to you, but TRUST ME, if you think you know what you want you will be surprised to find out that many women know what it should feel like when you find that man, but at the same time we can be very vague about what that man has to be and represent in order for us to experience that feeling.

If you are not clear on what makes you feel a certain way about a man you need to really sit and think about it.

Is it his looks? Is it about his confidence? Is it about the way he treats you? Is it about him being attentive? Is it about doing things together? Is it about him sharing the things that he loves with you? Is it about him being responsive and accountable, and always calling you when he says he will?

What is it that you want your ideal man to be?

Once you figure out what you want, it will become easier to find what you are looking for.

It may not be that he’s got a great job and a fast car, but you will know what it is that makes you feel good when you are with a man.

Look for those things, and not the materialistic check marks on a piece of paper.

Perhaps the man you are looking for is much closer than you think.

In my book Find Your Future Husband I teach you exactly how to find the exact kind of man you want and who is also right for your relationship.

I get many emails from women who tell me they’ve read the book, met the man and started a relationship. I get lots of emails from women who actually have been in relationships and even gotten married after they read that book.

So, if you haven’t gotten your copy yet, I encourage you that you learn more about this program and you can read more about it on This Page >>>

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Ways To Make a Man Fall In Love With You

One of the most frequently asked question I get from women is ‘how do I make a man chase me and fall in love with me?’

It doesn’t matter if you have just met a guy and want him to take active interest in you.

It doesn’t matter if it’s your boyfriend who seemed to be pulling away.

It doesn’t matter if it’s your husband who is starting to act indifferent and disinterested toward you.

You can bring your man close to you NO MATTER WHAT! 

Read this page to learn how to == > Make Him Fall In Love With You

And right in this article I want to give you 3 strategies you can use right away to instantly become more attractive to any man!

1. Stop trying to impress him and enjoy your relationship in the moment.

Too many times we use the wrong strategies when we try to get a man attracted to us. Trying too hard to impress a man is a transparent game that men see through.

The easiest way to impress a man and make him take an active interest in you is by being yourself.

I know, this is no rocket science and you’ve heard it before.

But if this is the case, how come so many single women still try so hard to impress a man?

When you try too hard, a man will see it.

When you try to show off your smarts, brag about your career and accomplishments, show him your possessions, dress up in the latest and greatest fashion and designer labels, he will see through it.

What he is going to think is  – wow! She’s trying too hard. I wonder why she feels the need to try so hard to impress me. I wonder if there is something wrong with her that she has to work so hard to get a man.

2. Take pride in who you are without constantly competing with other women.

There is nothing wrong with being competitive when it comes to career, education and sports. But competing with other women for the man you want is the fastest way to repel a man. When you feel the need to compete with others what you are saying to a man is that you aren’t good enough, and have to prove yourself in order to get his love.

Men are preprogrammed to compete with other men in order to get women. When you start competing with other women for a man this sends him an instant signal – there is something entirely wrong with this relationship; it just doesn’t feel right.

The good news is that once you stop trying to compete with other women for his affection he will feel that there is something different about you. He will become curious about you, and he will want to know more about you.

He then will want to spend more time with you and to get to know you better. He will think, ‘hmmm, there is just something different about her; I don’t know what it is, and I can’t put a finger on it; but I want to invest more time in her and explore it further.’

3. Stop playing repulsive mind games.

When you play ‘hard to get’, or ‘mind games’ men know it.

When you play hard to get what you show a guy is that you aren’t good enough to genuinely attract a man, and that you are so ashamed of yourself the way you are that you have to pretend to be something you are not in order to hook a guy.

Your good intentions become a ‘hidden agenda’ as far as he is concerned. And sensing a ‘hidden agenda’ is the greatest men repellant.

There are many men attractors and men repellants. If you don’t know what they are, chances are you will get them wrong or at least some of them mixed up, and in an attempt to attract a man may use the things that actually repel him.

To find out more about how to be the woman of his desire, read this page == > How to Attract Men

If you want to learn:

-          Why men pull away when they start to get close to a woman and how to overcome this most common relationship killer which will otherwise kill your budding relationship

-          How to instantly gain more respect from a man and encourage him to listen and to understand you

-           One simple mindset that prevents women from truly attracting and connecting with a man on a deep emotional level

-          Why men pull away in long-term relationships and the single biggest reason why relationships fall apart

-          Why some women achieve deep long term commitment with men effortlessly and some women struggle moving the relationship to the next level

-          Why some women suffer a lot more due to a break up than others – it has nothing to do with the level of attachment or the length of a relationship, but it has to do with one simple practically technical matter that we have complete control over

-          One thing that creates a level of intimacy more so than the physical – if your relationship lacks that it’s deem to a failure

-          How being an ‘independent’ woman who has her own full life can kill a relationship or prevent it from getting to the next level

Read this page == > How to Attract Men

You will also learn about:

-          18 men repellants – if you display any one of these, every one of your relationships will die no matter how hard you try to save it

-          13 men attractors you must possess if you want men to feel at ease around you and want to be with you

-          What makes a woman irresistibly attractive to a man

-          One trait very few women possess that makes a man notice her as someone very special and how to develop it

… and there is more….

So read this page == > How to Attract Men

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