Best Ways To Test A Man
Many couples will tell you that true love doesn’t need to be tested. In some cases that is true, but in others a woman needs to test a man to see just how much, if at all, he loves her. No relationship is just moonlight and roses, every couple will have their ups and downs. I’m not talking about the type of test that you take in Cosmopolitan to see if you are compatible, I’m talking about testing your man to see how he reacts in certain situations, to see if he will stick by you no matter what.
Even when testing a man however, you don’t want to go too far with it. There is such a thing as testing and then such a thing as pushing him away. With that being said here are some things that you can do to test the man that you want to settle down with for a long time to come.
Say No For A Change
In a new relationship especially, women tend to agree more often than they should. A man can quickly become used to that, and never expect you to say no. One way to test his love, and his loyalty, is to tell him no about something. It doesn’t have to be a big thing, for example, if he wants to go bowling Saturday night, and you would prefer to stay home and watch a movie, tell him no. If he truly loves you he will stay in with you, if not he will get angry or even say that he is going by himself. I’m not saying this is the case in every situation but you can try it and see.
Open Up To Him
Another mistake that women make is not letting a man that they are dating know how they really feel, or what they want out of life, and their relationship. Make him a nice dinner, sit him down afterwards with a glass of wine, and tell him exactly what you want. If you want to move to Maui and be a beach bum tell him so. If you want to settle down with him, and him alone, and have children, let it be known. He may run for the hills, or he may just surprise you and want the exact same thing that you do.
Don’t Hide Anything
You have probably been being Ms. Perfect for the majority of your new relationship. It’s time to let it all out. If you put your elbows on the table during dinner, do it! If you would prefer to read a book than watch his boring football game, don’t pretend to like it, just tell him, “hey, you watch your game, I’m reading this book.” You will be surprised and how he may react, if he loves you he’ll agree, men don’t want you up under them 110% of the time anyway, everyone needs their space remember.
Reach Out to him if you are Upset
If your tears run him off then he is probably not a good man. A man who loves you will be right there to wipe away your tears, pick up the pieces, and give you a much needed hug. He will even try to help you find a solution to your problem if he cares about you. A man that doesn’t care will make an excuse to leave and not come back until you have calmed down and dealt with the issue on your own.
Show him your Weird Side
Of course, in the beginning of a relationship you don’t want your man to know that you are “quirky.” If you intend to keep him however, he needs to know. If you color code your pantry tell him. If you have a habit of arranging your shoes in a certain way by the front door then do it! What I’m saying is don’t be afraid to show him your weird side, he may tease you but if he loves you he will think your quirks are cute and do them along with you as well.
Take him to Meet your Family
One sure fire way to test a man is taking him to meet your family. Do you have an aunt that drinks too much and dances on the table, or an uncle that talks about his war stories until everyone falls asleep? Maybe you have a mother that is over-bearing and will pick your new man apart. Let him meet them; if he truly loves you there will be no family member, on your side or his that can tear that love apart. After all, it’s you he wants to be with, not your family.
Test his Intelligence
While this really has nothing to do with if he loves you are not, it is a good test to use. If he is led astray easily by peer pressure, can’t seem to make his own decisions, or is constantly making up excuses for his flaws, he is probably not a good man for a long-term relationship. If he stands up to these little tests then he is probably the man for you and loves you to distraction.
If your man passes the tests above, you can be assured that you will have a long and prosperous life together. Try the tests and find out if your man is the man for you!