Building a Relationship
In our everyday life, there is a very important sphere that cannot be logically explained, programmed or analyzed. It’s of course the human relationship, friendship and love. It’s probably one of the few sides where only the notorious and unpredictable human factor is actual. How we meet this or that person, in friendship or falling in love is often connected with our intuition. For those people which it is well developed, it’s rather usually the first impression, and it lasts no more than a few seconds. We are able to know whether a person is approachable to us or not. We can then decide for ourselves whether they are worth knowing. Of course the first and such a short-term impression can with time and change, but you shouldn’t be afraid of it as it urges us on to work with our inner world and awaken endless possibilities in our soul.
If friendship is more or less clear, then, relationships are very much difficult and boundless. As there are various periods and stages. It would be quite good to understand it as it will help not to break further the boat of a happy relationship on the sharp rocks of life.
Initially, when falling in love at the first stage, all of us see as if we are wearing pink goggles. We don’t notice shortcomings of our partner, they do irritate us but we only admire everything that they do. The reason of this feeling of euphoria is present in our brain. Our brain stimulates emission of a number of hormones of happiness in this stage of passion and love such as: vasopressin and oxytocin. Also these hormones quash the feeling of anxiety and fear. We stop thinking about tomorrow and safely go to a whirlpool with our head into the relationship.
This stage of the relationship, strangely enough, is very necessary and important to us. Initially, many will decide not to build a strong and serious relationship in advance because they fear getting hurt in the future.
But it is necessary to get tangled at this early stage when we don’t feel yet and we don’t realize any problems, conflicts, we don’t want any changes or elect not to speak about anything frankly. The most important thing is to learn about our needs, fears and desires. To be frank and to allow our partner to express themselves freely and to accept them as they are. After all, we are all different and unique beings. This frankness will become the strong base in the relationship and future life together. The ability to trust each other is a great art and the creation of relationships is an everyday laborious work with the road to long-term family happiness.
Ideal people and ideal relationships will simply be boring and thus will end very quickly. We have the ability to understand, accept our partner and compromise, but it’s not for all.
For a harmonious and happy relationship, the main desire is to go forward together and to look in one direction, and then all barriers will never become a hindrance. This will create an incentive and will cause a passion to live.