He Says He Is Not Ready 3 Choices You Can Make When He Says He Is Not Ready

When a man you’ve been dating or even your serious boyfriend suddenly tells you that he has been thinking about your relationship and is now not sure if he is ready for the kind of a relationship you want or the kinds of relationship you deserve; or that he actually knows that he is not ready for a relationship, or anything serious; or that he just doesn’t want a relationship at the moment, or that he is just not ready to date after all, and all this other bull crap, you will more than likely be devastated and rightfully so.

You may be feeling lied to and mislead. And you are probably wondering, does it mean that all these great dates didn’t really mean anything? All the intense feelings and loving words; are they just fluff?

Unfortunately men do this often and say the exact same thing often; and the reason men say these dreadful words is because they get the vibe from you that you want something more which they are not willing to give you at this time.

What should you do?

There are three choices you can make.

First and the most often chosen by most women option is to stay in a relationship in a waiting mode hoping that it’s the time that he needs.

It’s actually pathetic that men who were the ones to push the relationship forward in the beginning now come up with excuses and even drop hints that they’ve heard somewhere or read somewhere that you need to spend at least a year with the person to decide if you even want a serious commitment with that person. Or two year; or whatever the case is in your situation; he’ll come up with something to justify his lack of commitment toward your relationship.

Ever wonder how that is? He was the one pushing forward and now he is discounting his promises by taking back what he had said.

Let me tell you; staying in a relationship that is uncertain hoping for it to change with time is a sure-fire way to get yourself nowhere in this relationship.

Trust me; because I have seen this happen to so many women. They patiently waited for years since hearing the ‘not ready’ excuse and they are still there in the waiting mode; and he is still not ready, even years later.

The second choice you have (and about ten percent women chose this option) is to tell him that if he is not ready she is ready for a relationship with someone else – anyone, the one who is ready for a relationship with her.

This is a plausible and honorable choice to make; and I am sure a lot of relationship coaches will give you kudos for this.

This is what you want to do, well, unless the guy you are with is the one you want and no one else!

This is where the hard part comes – you don’t want thousands of guys who want a serious relationship and want it now; you want this one guy!

This is where the option number three becomes available at your disposal; unfortunately most women don’t know there is an option three; but there sure is a way to stay with the same guy AND encourage him to take the relationship to the next level.

I explain how to give him that little encouragement and to make him really see the benefits of committing to you on this page – Read This >>>

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Dating Unavailable Man Are You Dating Mr Unavailable

Are You Dating Mr. Unavailable Waiting For Him To Change His Ways? Try THIS…

Are you sitting at home alone on a Sunday night eating dinner, watching DVD, reminiscing about your weekend without him and wondering why the heck he didn’t call and ask to see you this weekend?

He knew you’d be available waiting for him to call you and ask you out. And you know he didn’t have any exciting plans. No family coming over from out of town; no baseball games to attend with his buddies. Why the heck didn’t he call?

You know he’s not seeing anyone else. You are pretty sure of that.

He was online on a dating site on which you met Saturday night apparently having nothing better to do. You know he didn’t have a date; and you know he didn’t hook up with anyone else.

And you have a great time together; only WHEN you are together. But you were not – not this particular weekend. And you wonder why.

But he still calls you and texts you. Not every day, but he is on the horizon.

What’s going on? Why would he choose to be at home this weekend with not much excitement when he could have been with you? Why did he prefer the company of his laptop and TV over an exciting romantic dinner, movies and cuddling by the fireplace with you?

Or perhaps you both share a passion for walking on the beach. It’s very romantic indeed. This is something you totally envision yourself doing with someone you are falling in love with. You’ve told him you would be excited to do this sometime; but this weekend (you found out from a mutual friend, or from his Twitter for that matter) he went to the ocean (to walk on the beach) BY HIMSELF!

You probably have a lot of questions, and I am going to answer them right here in this article.

When a man acts the way I’ve just described herein, this is what it means – he likes to keep you hanging, but he wants to keep your expectations low.

This does not mean he is a commitment phobic. But he senses (and men know it when women start to have higher expectations) that you want more than what he is offering you right now.

And after spending a great weekend together; when your time together is filled with exciting activities, lots of passion and kissing, he suddenly turns ambivalent and mysterious, which makes you wonder why he changed!

Being a wise woman you decide that perhaps he’s changed his mind about you and start moving on. You don’t call him and confront him, because you know better. You pressure yourself to move on with your life. And just as you start to move on he re-appears as if nothing had happened.

The reason he is re-appearing is because he doesn’t want to lose you in a capacity in which he has you!

He doesn’t want to lose you completely because obviously he is getting lots of perks from your relationship.

He may be telling you he’s busy but wants to see you as soon as his schedule clears up. He calls you and texts you to stay in contact, but he’s got too much drama in his life, or is very busy with work and other commitments.

But you wait patiently because you believe that he likes you. And you are right on the money here – he does.

Perhaps he can’t see you more often because he is busy and has other priorities in life; or he lives too far away to drive to see you often; you he’s made commitments to his family, his buddies, his fishing and hunting friends, his neighbor, his kids, his kid’s mother, WHATEVER…

And you, being a wise woman again, know that in order to develop a healthy relationship with a man you should give him the freedom to do the things he enjoys. You don’t want to take anything away from him because you know that as soon as you start taking things away from a guy he will resent you.

So, you are waiting patiently until he finally gets around to his last priority – YOU.

But the truth is; HEAR ME OUT! – when a man is falling in love with a woman he will MAKE YOU HIS PRIORITY!

But don’t worry, because I am about to tell you how to turn your relationship around, and finally become HIS FIRST PRIORITY!

You may be saying, ‘but he’s got kids’ that he is responsible for’… ‘but he is playing poker with his buddies’ and that’s what he’s been doing for years…. Etc.

Listen! When I dated a man who raced a Ferrari, he didn’t have to chose between racing and me… He invited me with him to a race…

When a dated a man who was into playing baseball with his buddies (and this is something he’s been doing for 20 years), he invited me to the game!

When a man is truly falling for you he will want to be with you every waking moment. He will want to merge your lives together; and he will want to introduce you to his life and the things he loves. He will want you to be with him at his house when his family comes over; he will want you to get to know his kids!

Asking a man why he didn’t call you this weekend will only add aggravation… The answer you are looking for is there – he didn’t call you because he didn’t feel like it.

If you give a man shit about disappearing on you; scold him for not inviting you with him; tell him you thought you were a couple, and other things like that… it may TEMPORARILY get his compliance because he doesn’t want to interrupt a continuous stream of sex he is getting from you…

…but it will piss him off eventually…

The only really thing that works here to make him CHANGE HIS WAYS – is to MAKE SURE HE FALLS FOR YOU! And I have outlined a plan that’s based on scientifically proven facts to make any man fall in love with you right on THIS PAGE!

Once you learn what makes men tick, you will HOLD THE POWER to make any man fall in love with you, so CLICK HERE NOW TO LEARN HOW TO MAKE HIM FALL IN LOVE WITH YOU!

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Dating Exclusively and What Exclusive Dating Means

Dating exclusively means that two people in a relationship do not spend time with other members of the opposite sex as anything more than friends. You are able to explain what you were doing when you are away from your mate without having done anything wrong or deceiving them. Your partner can unexpectedly stop by your home and you will welcome them with open arms.

You are always looking for ways and reasons to spend time with that special person in your life. You enjoy having your free time spent with them. Two people in an exclusive relationship communicate with each other and they know nearly everything that is going on in each other’s lives.

Exclusive dating is a very serious thing. It should not be taken lightly. Several things are important when making a decision to enter into an exclusive dating relationship with another person. There has to be an attraction between both people. Most often the couple has dated for months and love spending time together and being with each other. The couple has dated other people and they have both decided that they want to be with each other and not with anyone else.

A decision to not date exclusively can have potentially negative effects. One partner in the relationship could be spending time with other single people that may not realize that there is a serious relationship between two people. These single people could end up trying to take your partner away from you and trying to start a relationship with them themselves. You will soon find yourself spending more and more time alone and you will not have that commitment and companionship as they move farther away from you.

It is essential to make sure that you spend time getting to know someone. Spend a great deal of time with a person that you are interested in. Find out all that you can about them and do it in different situations. People often act differently when they are with their friends than when they are with their family or people that they work with. People that change and have different personalities based on the people that they are around often bring problems with them. This is a potentially destructible behavior and can ruin any kind of relationship that they have.

It is important to realize that exclusive dating does not equal commitment. Exclusive dating does not mean that there will be marriage or that they have even discussed the possibility of marriage. Simply put, it means that they have decided not to date other people and to only date one person. This is a joint decision that is made and is an agreement that they will get to know each other better through only dating each other and not others.

A couple can date exclusively because they like spending time together and love each other’s company. However this does not mean that they are in love or are considering a possibility of marriage. Often one of the partners to an exclusive relationship will eventually become attracted to someone else he meets through work or social activities, and when this happens this partner will let the other know that they have fallen in love with someone else and thus they wish to end the exclusive relationship with you and start a relationship with the new person.

Commitment, on the other hand is a promise. This is a promise made to another with whom we are in love. Commitment does not exist without love. Commitment means wanting to spend your life with the other person. The difference between an exclusive relationship and a committed relationship is that in an exclusive relationship people are together because there is mutual attraction and things in common; in a committed relationship people are together because they are in love and are partners for life.

If you feel that your partner does not commit to you, this may be because even though your partner loves spending time with you, he is not in love with you. To learn how to make a man fall in love, download this short report How To Make a Man Fall In Love – Click Here To Download This Free Report Instantly!

Exclusive dating brings about major changes in your life. You have someone that you answer to about your life. If you do not want to answer to someone about your life and what you do, then you do not want to be in an exclusive dating relationship. You will give up some of your independence that you have when you are single. This can be a very good thing if you are ready for the commitment and what is involved. You must be prepared for these changes.

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How To Make Sure You Are More Than Friends With Benefits

Have you been dating a guy for a while but aren’t sure how he feels about you?

Are you sleeping with a guy but aren’t sure where you stand with him and what this relationship means to him?

Read this article very carefully because after you have read it you will have a very clear picture of what your relationship is for him.

When you and your guy are soul mates you just know it and you don’t question it.

If he takes care of you when you are sick and buys you your favorite ice-cream flavor when you have had a bad day at work you know he is in love with you.

When he turns down a night with the boys to cuddle on the couch and hang out with you know he is special.

When you can share your bed with him and feel like you have had the best night’s sleep ever you know it can last.

When you wake up next to him and smile at the sight of him lying beside you.

If he tells you, “You look amazing” while you are in your pajamas and have no makeup on he is for keeps.

If you aren’t sure he is all these things for you, you are probably making excuses for him.

You should not have to make excuses for anyone, especially for the man who is supposed to be closest to you.

Recently I have been asked a lot of questions about this subject.

Well here is the situation: you are in a relationship with a guy you really like. He starts behaving differently, missing dates and not calling so often.

Well to protect this man you love so much from the other people in your lives (friends and family) you make excuses; it starts with minor white lies.

He was supposed to take you to the movies, but cancels at the last minute without a reason. You just tell your friends he wasn’t feeling well.

Next, he doesn’t call you for a week. You tell your friends he is having commitment issues and he is scared. He is seen out with another girl and you tell people she is just a friend from work.

You are putting on a brave face but we all know how it feels to be hurting. The worst part is you are keeping all of that pain inside and that starts to damage you self-esteem.

Your friends will start catching on to these excuses and asking you about them,  asking what he is doing and that maybe just maybe he is not the great guy he is. However, you’ve spent so long making excuses; you almost have started to believe them yourself.

Then comes the defense stage. As soon as your good friends start saying bad things about that guy you love, you suddenly start to defend everything he does and almost alienate your friends from your life.

Remember girls, a friend will go through it all with you as long as you let them. A good friend won’t judge you, but try to give you advice. Their advice will be from the outside of the relationship and sometimes that’s exactly what you need to have a clearer view.

If you feel you need to make excuses for the man you love, it probably means his actions are not what you expect out of a relationship and therefore you should not be putting up with them.

Instead of ignoring your friends and family’s advice or even hiding your guy’s actions from these people, it’s time to listen and take action to change your relationship to be the kind of relationship you deserve!

So stop making excuses for him, accept the fact that your relationship is not exactly what you want it to be, and start making changes.

Trying to force your opinions on him will just push him further away from you and further into the arms of another woman. If you want to get the life-long love and commitment you desire more than anything with the man you’ve always dreamed about, it’s time to turn the tables around and to actively build the relationship you want for yourself!

On this page I teach you how to ensure your man develops a life-long emotional attachment for you that goes well beyond simple lust, how to get your dream man to commit to you and stay with you forever by simply understanding the basics of commitment and nurturing a relationship that lays a solid foundation for commitment and marriage!

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He Just Wants To Be Friends? You Can Change It

If you are like most women, you have encountered, or at least have heard of a man who just wants to be ‘friends’. But, really, no man ever wants to be ‘just friends’ with a woman. When a man says, he just wants to be friends, what he means is that he wants to continue sleeping with you but doesn’t want a relationship.

He may be giving you all kinds of plausible excuses for not wanting a relationship, but the truth is that a man cannot control – and this is a good thing for you – how he FEELS about a specific woman.

What this means to you is – this is great news!

Let me explain…

When a man has decided that he does not want anything serious, you can change it, because fortunately human beings cannot control who they fall in love with…. And when you know how to make a man fall in love with you, you know exactly what to do to HELP him fall in love with you!

When you make him feel that undying love and passion for you, combined with great friendship; when you become his best friend and a lover in one – you will melt his resistance and defenses away and he won’t be able to resist falling in love with you!

If you are familiar with my works in the love and commitment area, you know that there are several integral components without which a man will not feel that intoxicating feelings of being in love, and the deep emotional connection with a woman.

But once you have established all of the components of love and commitment which build strong bond and desire to be with a specific woman, no man will be able to resist this feeling!

Even if right now he is distant and withdrawn, you can still change it, because we don’t chose who we fall in love with, but we can consciously chose who we want to make feel that intoxicating emotional attraction and desire for us!

And if you have been dating for a while but feel that you get STUCK at a certain point and it NEVER goes beyond ‘just dating’…. And you want to have a REAL RELATIONSHIP but seemingly never get to that level with a man… you need to learn how to build every single component of a budding relationship from the stat to the final destination – your happily ever after!

This is not about manipulating someone to feel a certain way for you… Rather this is about showing the authentic YOU through the lens of what every man needs to see in a woman…

It’s about cultivating deep EMOTIONAL attraction, emotional DESIRE to be with you and YOU ONLY in a man, which will lead to the relationship of your life!

Trust me! He will thank you for showing him what love is all about and frankly, men deeply crave for a woman who will make them FEEL that deep, lasting emotional attraction!

If you know that YOU need that help and guidance in learning how to make a man of YOUR CHOICE to feel that strong desire and a deep emotional bond with you… If you feel that you need a step-by-step guide on how to strike a spark of desire from the moment you meet a man, cultivate that desire to be with you at all times, and become the woman he can’t live without, go to Make Him Fall In Love!

This is my most ADVANCED program that teaches THE REAL SECRETS on how to make a man FALL IN LOVE WITH YOU that you will never find anywhere else!

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Is He Ready To Commit Quiz – Will He Commit

Many women want to get commitment from their men. In an attempt to find out how he feels about commitment we often initiate ‘the talk’. But having a serious talk with a man about your relationship is often a sure-fire way to scare off a man who is not on the same page with you. Surprisingly, most people want commitment in their lives, but commitment often means different things to different people.

For women it often means getting married and having children. For men however, commitment means financial responsibility, and generally increased responsibilities. Because commitment is tougher on men than on women, and if you’ve heard this expression, ‘women are never happy until they marry, men are always happy until they marry’, this is not true but ironic, many men are leery of commitment.

So, how do you know when your guy is ready to commit to YOU?

Ask him these questions and you will not only be closer to the truth, but you will also get a deep and profound insight into his mind as well as yourself. Tell your man to ask HIMSELF these questions:

- Do I want to have a loving and supportive partner who supports my goals and helps me be a better man by my side?

- If and when I find that person, am I prepared to be a loving, devoted and supportive partner to them?

- Why do I not have that person in my life right now?

- What can I do to find that person, or what makes me disqualify the people I am dating right now? Tell specifics on why the person you are dating right now is NOT that loving and supportive partner. List things that would make that person an ‘ideal’ partner to whom you would commit in a heartbeat.

Now, list the things that make you NOT loving and supportive partner to them.

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Make A Men Fall In Love With You

Are you asking, how do you make a man fall in love with you? If you want to know the answer to this question, than what you really want to know if how to create such intense level of attraction in a man that he will not only fall in love but want to be with you forever. While this is a very broad subject, this article will summarize some key points that will give you a great head start in making a man fall in love with you.

When you ask your typical men what makes a man fall in love with a woman, your average Joe will tell you, give me food, give me sex, give me a TV remote control and I will be as happy as a clam. While those may seem like easily accomplished ingredients, do they really make up for the lasting love connection? Is there more to love then the bare necessities such as described?

The problem is that most men don’t know what attracts them in a woman and what creates a lasting connection. Having a woman care for her man is certainly a good thing, but having more than food on the table and sex in the bedroom is what really makes love last.

Very important ingredients that must be present in a relationship for a man to fall in love is the ability of the couple to communicate and to resolve conflicts when they arise. It is not the lack of conflict that creates the illusion of a connection but rather the ability to resolve conflicts and still be in love.

Another important quality of a woman who easily makes a man fall in love with her is giving her approval to be the man he wants to be. All too often women try to change men. Naturally men rebel.

If you want to ensure that the man you are with falls in love with you, you must allow him to be the man he wants to be.

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He Says He Loves Me But Won’t Commit

If your boyfriend says he loves you but refuses to commit, you may be wondering, how could that be? This article will help you understand why a man can tell you he loves you and still not want to commit. For the longest time I have researched the subject of commitment and how commitment works for men and after research and many realizations I have come to understand why a man can love a woman and still not want a commitment.

One reason a man does not want to commit to marriage even when he love a woman is that the kind of love he has for a woman, and is not that he is telling you lies, but he may love a woman in a different kind of love. There are many types of love.

There is a friendly love, the kind of love we have for a dear friend. If you have been with a man for a long time, and especially if romantic love has subsided a notch, he may very well love you as a friend. One guy I know told me that after being with a woman for several years, living together for two years, and marrying her eventually, he filed for divorce after being married for less than a year. He said he had the utmost respect for his wife, but the passion was gone. He started to feel as if they were very close friends, but romantic love was no longer present.

Another reason a man will not commit to a marriage even though he loves a woman is that his life goals are not aligned with hers. He loves her, but he simply doesn’t see a ‘forever’ future with her. It could be because his goal has never been to find a woman to spend the rest of his life with. He may love you, even be in love with you, but he can’t see past the two year mark in the future.

If you are suspecting his could be the case, ask yourself, can he commit to anything? A good test to put your man and relationship under is to review his life as a whole. Is he able to commit to at least five years on the same job? Is his residence a long-term arrangement? Does he own a home? Does he have strong ties that would keep him at the same place for years ahead?

If your man travels light, if he has moved five times in the last three years; if he has changed four jobs in the last year, this could be a red flag that your man cannot commit to a permanent arrangement.

Ask your man, where do you see yourself in five years? And if he says, I don’t know; I don’t even know what I am doing next weekend….. you should know that requiring this kind of man to commit to marriage may be pointless. He may love you, but if he can’t see past a couple of weeks, he certainly cannot envision spending the rest of his life with a woman.

When a man is not certain about his own future and a direction he is going, he certainly will not be able to see how you fit into this vague picture of his own future.

The last, and most important thing to understand about commitment and why men won’t commit is that often a man can love a woman, but the qualities he wants in a woman to whom he will commit to for life are missing. Make Him Commit explains what qualities must be present in a woman who gets the ring and what most men subconsciously want in a woman they commit to. Once you understand what it is your man needs in order to make commitment to you, you will be able to transform your relationship from a rocky, unstable casual dating into a deeply emotionally bonded relationship for life!

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Why Men Won’t Commit To Marriage

Why men won’t commit to marriage is a question many want to know the answer to. If you have been dating a man for a long time and he has yet to ask you to marry him, you may be wondering, why won’t he ask me to marry him? If your relationship seems to be good overall it seems like a logical step to take it to the next level. And yet, your man is not in a hurry to propose to you.

You may be going crazy trying to understand the underlying reasons for his lack of commitment or desire to formalize the relationship by making the wedding vows, and yet, the reason for a man’s reluctance to make a proposal is not as difficult to understand once you know the thought process of a typical man when he is involved in a serious relationship with a woman.

A typical man who doesn’t want to get married is happy with the way the relationship is as long as he is getting everything he needs from the relationship. If you are providing him with intimacy and companionship, if you are washing his clothes and cook meals for him, if you spend every weekend together and go away on a vacation together, unless he wants children he may not want to commit to a marriage. Why buy the cow when you can have all the free milk you want?

If you want to give your man an incentive to commit to a marriage, you must be willing to give him more in a marriage than you are already giving him. But if you are asking, what more can I possibly give him, you may already be giving him all he wants.

If you are spending every waking day together, why would he want to get married? The only incentive he has to marry you is if he sees that a marriage will provide more than what he is getting now.

And I am not saying you should stop what you are doing, at least not all of the things that you are doing, but just some selected things. If you have been overly pleasing to your boyfriend, perhaps you should put yourself first and ask yourself, what is it that I want? Am I getting all I want from this relationship or am I settling for less than I deserve? If the answer is the latter, change the dynamics of the relationship. Granted, it is good to put the person you love first, but only he is doing the same for you. If he puts his priorities above you, do the same. Only when both persons are on the same page, will you achieve harmony in your relationship.

Another reason that men don’t commit to marriage is because they are simply not sure they want to spend the rest of their life with their current girlfriends. Make Him Commit explains why men who currently have girlfriends, and are even living with their girlfriends are reluctant to making a marriage commitment. It’s not that they are commitment phobics; it is simply because they are killing time with their girlfriends so to speak. They are unsure whether they want to make a commitment to their current girlfriends. In fact, the opposite is true – they are sure that their girlfriends are NOT the ones to spend the rest of their lives with. As shocking as it is, a man can date a woman for months and years fully knowing that he does not see her as his future wife.

If you want to learn how to make a man commit to a marriage, read Make Him Commit!

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Before You Commit – Stop, Look, and Listen

When a woman decides to commit to a man, she gives not just her heart, but her soul and whole being as well. She surrenders her loyalty and faithfulness. She makes his needs a priority. She makes it a point to take care of him, help him with his plans and supports his goals. She encourages him when he hit rock bottom and inspires him to be on his best element. A man who is blessed with a woman’s love and commitment is truly an anointed man.

It’s just right that when a woman decides to love and commit herself, she must choose a man worthy of her love and commitment. This is only possible when she can set her standards right. And the right standards that every woman should have is find a man who can be equally loyal and faithful to her, a man who can love her for who she is, a man who is willing to provide and protect, a man who can be proud of her and let the whole world know that she is his woman.

And to make sure to that these standards are met, she should stop, look and listen before deciding to commit herself in the relationship. Not to rush things and test the waters first before deciding to dive deep. This is one secret in having a blissful and meaningful relationship.

Below are some of the scenarios you can create and questions to ponder upon to figure out just want kind of man your potential mate is, and whether he’s good enough for your unconditional love and commitment.

• How does he react when you have a problem?

For instance, your car broke down. Your stress and exhaustion are starting to show up in your face and your voice… if he asks you, “What’s wrong?” that’s a good start. It shows that he has been paying attention to know when you’re not your normal self. But when you answer him, “My car broke down and I don’t have the budget to get it fix right now so I’m just a bit worried how I’m going to get to work tomorrow,” and he answers, “Okay, I’m sure you can figure something out,” you can scratch him off. He is definitely not worthy of your love and commitment.

Be clear that you are not asking him for money to fix your car. You’re trying to see if he’s going to look deeper and find out if there’s anything he can do to help, whether to give you some advice on how to get the car fixed, or fix it himself. Did he offer to drive you to work while your car is in the shop? Or give you the number of a guy who can fix your car?

A real man gets out of his way to help the woman he cares about. If you have a problem and your man does nothing about it- he doesn’t try to make it better. He is not a good candidate for your love.

• How does he react under pressure?

Let’s say your ex boyfriend is starting to call again, and it’s making you uncomfortable because the break was just far too nasty and you just don’t want to go down that road again. You tell your new guy that you’re bothered and worried how to make your ex go away. A man worthy of you will immediately see what he can do, he can (a) make your ex stop calling, (b) make you feel safe and protected. Or he can tell you how to deal with unwanted phone calls, or may give you a few words to tell your ex to stop calling.

This is a pressure situation; it doesn’t require action, but reaction. Relationships encounter pressures time and time again, and you should know as early as possible if your new guy is ready to handle some of it.

• How does he handle bad news?

Let’s say you lose someone really close to you. A man worthy of your love and devotion will immediately offer some form of comfort and help so that you can take your time to grieve. He may offer to drive you where you want to go. He may offer to go with you to the funeral home while you see about the funeral arrangements, and extend his condolences to your family. Take note, ladies, your man is not going to sit there and let you recollect your childhood memories with the deceased. It’s not what men do. But a real man will respond with some kind of a solution. He will see what he can do to help you stop crying, because no man wants to see his girl crying. If your man is not doing anything to comfort you, if he is not offering some kind of solutions to make you feel better, then he needs to be buried away. He doesn’t deserve your unconditional love.

• How does he react when you told him “NO”?

When a man asks for sex, and you said no, his reaction to your answer will tell you everything you need to know about him. If the flowers stop coming, if the phone calls become limited, and the dating stop happening, then you have to accept that this man is in for the sex alone. You need to move on and forget about this guy. But if your refusal doesn’t deter, and he continues to woo you, then he’s really interested in you. Don’t get me wrong, he’s still interested in the sex, but he’s also interested in knowing how you feel and what your conditions about it are. This is when you realize that the relationship becomes about what you want and what your needs are… and that’s what every woman deserves.

So there you have it, ladies- the perfect way to find out if he is the right man for you. Never sell yourself short. You deserve the right man and the right kind of love.

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