If you are thinking about when to get back together with somebody you have broken up with and wondering if you should get back together with your ex, then this article is for you.
There is a reason why someone should get back together with their ex, and that is if you think your relationship can end up working out in the end. Have you ever seen those couples who are always on and off, back together and break up time and time again, and then keep getting back together and breaking up, and getting back together, and the emotional roller coaster goes on and on? It is very draining and exhausting, and it’s very painful, but it leads to nothing productive. That is not a healthy relationship. With that said, I would suggest that unless something changes when the two of you are actually able to work on your issues together, go on and work on yourself separately first in order to get back together.
But if both of you are fairly emotionally whole and healthy individuals, then a healthy relationship is possible. A healthy relationship means that two people themselves welcome themselves as individuals and then together as a couple and if both parties are able to do that then great! In order to have a healthy loving long-term intimate relationship it needs to feel safe and secure.
Jealousy and insecurity which leads to jealousy is never found in a healthy relationship, so if you continue to feel jealous or if your partner feels jealous, one of you needs to work on their issues and insecurities. Unless something is changed, getting together will lead to yet another breakup, so work on whatever issues lead to your breakup in the first place.
Perhaps you are not recognizing or ignoring the signs that lead to your breakup. Examine the reasons that lead to your breakup carefully, and see if you need to take responsibility somewhere.
When you are ready to make the first step to getting back together, Read How to Get Back Your Ex >>>
I have been where you are standing at this very moment; broken, confused, and scared. You don’t know where to go or even how you got here. Well, I am here to promise you that it won’t be this way forever. Your wounds will heal and you’ll start to see the light in the world again. It may not seem like it now, but take it from someone who has had her heart shattered.
No matter how rough the break up was or the circumstances surrounding it, they all hurt. Every time that someone tells you that you are not their “one” it feels like someone has stabbed you in the chest. Even if you act as if everything is fine, somewhere inside of you you are hurting and that’s okay. What’s not okay is to let yourself be consumed by it.
You can’t dwell on the things that have hurt you, nothing good will come from it. Instead you have to dust yourself off and remind yourself that you’re going to be okay. You were fine before him and you will be just fine after him. So call up your girlfriends, grab your dancing shoes, or grab a bottle of wine. It doesn’t matter what you’re doing as long as you are getting out there.
Although I know it is tempting, but sitting on the couch all night with Ben & Jerry’s will not get you a date anytime soon. It is okay to be sad and hurt as long as you understand that the world doesn’t stop spinning just because you feel this way. Everyone else around you is still putting actual pants on in the morning and you should be too.
So now what do you do? You start the healing process whatever yours might be. Dress up and go out on the town with your girlfriends. The glances and flirtatious acts might be just the confidence booster that you were needing. Let all the other guys at the bar remind you exactly what it was that he lost when he left you. Don’t cheapen yourself by any means, but make sure that you get a chance to remember that you are beautiful. Don’t let him steal that from you.
Reach out to your friends. I know that you feel lame but a burning night might be exactly what you need. Old pictures and reminders laying around your apartment? Burn them. Let the flames that engulf your memories make it all final. There is no coming back from charred ashes.
No matter what it is that helps you heal just remember that you have to heal. You can never expect someone new to love you if you can’t even love yourself. I know that it is much easier said than done, believe me, but just remember to never give up. There will be days that it seems pointless and like the pain will always be there, but I promise it won’t. There will come a day soon that you will find the perfect person who loves you for exactly who you are. But if you are convinced he is The One for you and you want to get him back , Read This Page
So, you and your boyfriend got into a big right. You may have sad some hurtful things to each other. You may both be feeling hurt, and feeling right at the same time. And neither one of you wants to take responsibility what the argument. Will he call you to apologize? You should you call him first? And what should you say if you decide to call him first?
Or, you may be thinking, perhaps a text message is a better way to start the conversation. But you fear rejection, because if you call him first and don’t hear back from him, it will feel like rejection.
You want him to be the one to initiate contact. And you want to know whether he’ll call you or text you first.
Although there is no certain way to tell for sure whether a guy will call you in this situation, fortunately there are telltale signs that he will call you sooner or later. Read on to find out what they are!
1. He is keeping tabs on your FaceBook activity.
When a guy really misses you, he will be checking on your social networks accounts to find out what you are up to. And he won’t just do it once, randomly, and out of boredom. He will literally obsess over your FaceBook, Twitter and Instagram.
You know he is checking up on you when he “likes” your photos on FaceBook, comments on your posts, etc.
If he does any of these, you can be sure, he will be contacting you very soon!
2. He’s been the one to contact you after a fight in the past.
Old habits die hard. Has he been the one to initiate contact in the past? People don’t change their habits. If he is the kind of guy who is the first to say sorry, chances are, you’ll be hearing from him soon. But if he is the kind whose pride is bigger than his heart, you may want to reach out to him first. He may be wanting to hear from you really bad, but making the first step to reconciliation is not his style.
3. He was the one to blame.
Ok, in an argument, there are always conflicting positions. And typically, each side of the fight thinks that their position is the right one. But this isn’t what I am talking about here. I am referring to something one should be really sorry for doing. Has he said mean things to you in the heat of the argument? Has he called you names? Did he put you down or did he intentionally hurt your feelings? If so, he should be the one apologizing for what he’s said. If he is a good person, you’ll sure be hearing from him very soon!
How many times have you seen a man start dating a new woman as soon as you walk out the door?
Unfortunately it is not uncommon for a man to run to a new woman as soon as a break up happens. It’s called a rebound relationship.
Why do men do that? And most importantly, does it mean you can’t get him back?
Well, as they say, the best way to get over someone is to get under somebody else. Can this really be the case in your situation?
One of my clients said she broke up with her boyfriend because he wouldn’t commit and he was active on a dating site they met through that same evening apparently looking for someone else.
Unfortunately, some men (and some women) are just like that. They can’t stand being alone for five minutes, and so they need someone to feel good about themselves.
These people don’t take the time to grieve the loss of the relationship because it is just too painful to not have somebody with them at all times.
Especially in light of being dumped. They need to rebuild their fragile egos, redeem themselves publicly and throw their new dates in your face.
You may have initiated the breakup hoping that your man will realize what he is about to lose and will take actions to change. But he, instead of begging you to stay with him, went onto a dating site and is meeting other women while you are at home alone thinking about him.
And while you are thinking of the things you can do to get him back, he is out on a date with someone else. And what’s worse, he has added his new woman on FaceBook and is posting flirtatious comments addressing her on his wall.
He may even be posting pictures of them together having a good time, potentially at a party, a concert, or some cool fun venue you and he used to go together.
And it seems like he is completely happy with the new woman and a thought of you doesn’t even cross his mind.
Should you be worried?
From what I’ve seen, this type of behavior is only targeted to get YOUR attention. After all, if he was serious about this new woman, wouldn’t he be more careful about flaunting his new (read, fragile) relationship publicly? Wouldn’t he be more careful about protecting it and waiting for it to get stronger before putting it on a display for everyone to see?
If anything, I see this kind of behavior as a pathetic attempt to get your attention and to make you jealous. In which case, this is a good thing if you still want to get him back because this means that he is still not over you and is definitely thinking about you.
As long as your ex is doing things that would normally get your attention (provided you still care), he is not over you and the chances of you getting him back are still good.
But I get asked this question a lot; do rebound relationships ever last?
The answer is two-fold; it depends on whether the new woman he is with is up to his standards.
What does it mean?
Well, often people get into rebound relationships just to numb the pain of the breakup. That’s why they are called rebound relationships. They are meant to serve as a buffer to protect from pain.
When a relationship ends, typically both people feel loss even if the relationship wasn’t always pleasant. Of course, there must have been some problems or disagreements, and this is why it ended. But there must have been something good about the relationship. And when the good part of the relationship is gone, we feel great loss.
So, to numb the pain of that loss, people find someone just to fill the void.
The person who enters a rebound relationship with a new partner may or may not feel overly excited about that new person. But even when he is extremely excited about the new woman, that still doesn’t mean that he won’t change his mind about her later. It all depends on the other person.
If the other person is someone your ex would date under normal circumstances, than the relationship has a potential to develop into something serious. But what I’ve seen rather often is that people who are hurting in the breakup the most enter new relationships or start dating just about anyone who comes along and returns their interest. They don’t care about who the person is, as long as it is someone.
Usually those rebound relationships end quickly, and after the person on the rebound realizes that he isn’t that into the new person anyway. And if this kind of relationship lasts, it is usually not fulfilling at all, and it feels even worse being in that relationship than being completely single.
Being with a new person whom we don’t feel much of a connection with intensifies the pain of the break up, so essentially it worsens the problem instead of fixing it.
In fact, if you are broken up with your ex right now, and know that he is dating someone else, I highly recommend that you let him date that other person or even go on dates with multiple people, because if your relationship had any substance at all (which I assume it did, or you wouldn’t be reading this), he will compare everyone to you, and you will always win.
So, is there a chance that his new relationship will turn into something more substantial? Yes there is. But this will only happen if the person he is with right now is a better fit for him than you were, or at least equally compatible with him as you.
I am not talking about being prettier, thinner or sexier than her. This is one of the most common mistakes I see people make after a break up.
They compare the new person in the looks department, and then they end up questioning their ex’s choices when the woman isn’t as pretty as them.
Looks have absolutely nothing to do with whom we choose. If your ex was with you, that means he was attracted to your looks. If he is dating someone else now, this means that he is attracted to the new person’s looks enough to date her.
What matters is overall compatibility, passion, commonalities, etc.
Do they have a lot of fun together? Do they get along well or do they fight? Do they have good communication? Are they strongly attracted to each other sexually and are they sexually compatible?
One or two dates don’t mean anything. But what if your ex has been dating someone new for a while?
Is there a chance he may end up with that person and leave your relationship behind?
There is. And this is where you need to know how to go about showing him that you are better for him than the new person.
Not only that, but if he falls in love with the new person, you will have missed your chance.
What you need to do right now is to make him fall in love with you again with a renewed passion.
And I will show you how to do that, so Read This Page >>>
When you feel that your relationship is in danger and is coming to its end, you often become emotional and lose composure. This will inevitably result in you making one or more of the most common breakup mistakes women make.
Take a look at this list of mistakes, and see if you are making any of them:
~ Using sex to save the relationship
One of the most common mistakes women make when their boyfriends or the men they date initiate a breakup conversation is enticing them with sex hoping that the intercourse will make the men feel different about the break up, or make them forget the reasons why they want a breakup.
Some women may even feel that since the sex is always good it can effectively make the man dismiss the reasons he wants a breakup and to stay in the relationship for the sake of sex.
The reality is that while it is easy to entice a man with sex, using sex as the single tool to fix an impending breakup is simply not effective and will not result in the desired outcome. While a man, in many cases, will not turn down an opportunity to have sex with the woman he is about to break up with, chances are it will be their final sexual encounter, or worse yet, it can turn what used to be a full-fledged relationship into an occasional booty call.
Never use sex in an attempt to keep a man. If a serious relationship is what you want, don’t give sex without a man’s full commitment.
~ Contradicting your man’s reasons for a breakup
When your man brings up his reasons for ending the relationship during a breakup conversation, many women often are compelled to disagree with his statements, contradict them, and even fight with his opinion.
Remember, that a man’s opinion is just what it is – his opinion. It doesn’t mean he is right and you are wrong. It doesn’t mean he is wrong and you are right. It simply means that you two don’t see things eye to eye.
When Ben told Katie that he couldn’t be with her because he didn’t feel she was nurturing, she yelled at him “How can you say these things about me? I love my children and I am a very nurturing mother!” What nurturing meant to Ben didn’t mean the same to Katie. The reality was that Ben did not feel nurtured. It didn’t matter if she was nurturing toward others. While she was a very loving mother, her entire love bank was dedicated to her children. Ben, however, did not feel that she was as loving toward him as his ideal girlfriend would be.
Katie wasn’t wrong for not giving her loving care to Ben and choosing to give it all to her children. Neither was Ben for wanting to be loved and nurtured in a relationship. It was simply the fact that Katie, in her current situation, did not have any more to offer to Ben who felt short-changed. Their expectations of a relationship and their capacity to fulfill each other’s needs simply did not match.
~ Promising to change
Promising to change is another common wrongful tactic women often employ during a breakup conversation. In reality, people rarely change. Moreover, when people do change, they usually do so because of their personal growth, their own reasons, or simply with age. Granted, our interests change over time; we grow; we become more mature; we learn from our life experiences. But making promises to change overnight is no different from committing fraud. A woman can sometimes promise to make changes under pressure when her relationship with the man she loves in at stake. Living up to those promises proven nearly impossible, however, and while it may work for a while, it will inevitably cause long term negative effects.
Dave complained that Mary didn’t share his love for the outdoors. He told her that he couldn’t see his life with a partner who did not want to participate in that integral part of his life. Mary was in love with Dave and would do anything to keep him. At the critical moment in their discussions about the future, Mary made a promise to Dave to participate more in his outdoor activities. Dave decided to give the relationship another shot. Mary went on a few hikes with Dave after which she started resenting him. She became passive aggressive, afraid of telling Dave how she really felt, and how much she resented going on hikes with him. Her negative attitude was, however, apparent. She became irritable, moody and unhappy. A month later Dave broke up with her anyway.
The key to keeping a man in your life is not about changing who you are; it’s about making him accept you and love you for who you are and for who you are not.
~ Pressuring your man into staying with you
Often, the threat of a breakup will make a woman so emotional that she’ll try to do anything to save the relationship right on the spot. A woman can even resort to threats, and while they won’t usually be physical threats, she can promise to pull some strings to make a man’s life more difficult.
When Sarah found out that her husband Matt was seeing Anabella whom he promised to end his marriage with Sarah, she started threatening him with outrageous child support demands, threatened to not release her interest in his business and to not allow him to have any part of their family home which was recorded and mortgaged on her name. She also stated that she would do anything in her power to not let Matt have any part of custody of their young children. Eventually Matt and Anabella ended their affair due to the stress Sarah’s threats created in Matt’s life. After Matt’s affair ended, Matt and Sarah tried to make their marriage work, but Matt always felt that he was coerced by Sarah. He resented her so much that several months later he started another affair with a woman he met at the local Chamber of Commerce.
As you can see; none of the strategies commonly employed by women at the treat of an impending break up works. There are, however, real effective tools to save a relationship, prevent a break up, and to get a man back even after the break up occurs. On this page I’ve outlined more common break up scenarios Click Here to Read>>>
We used to think that when a relationship ends, the partner who initiates the break up is the one who remains un-affected. This, however, isn’t necessarily true. In fact, studies show that while the person who is on the receiving end of the breakup is often negatively affected immediately following the breakup, the one who initiates the break up suffers a lot more after a while.
And if you are broken up now, especially if your ex boyfriend broke up with you, and you want him back, here are the good news for you; it is highly likely that after some time goes by your ex boyfriend will want to get back together with you!
He may not admit it, but the feeling of loss will start to haunt him, and even if he doesn’t have the clarity to identify why exactly he is suffering, he will experience pain from the loss of your relationship.
It will then be up to you to help him identify why he is hurting, and what to do to stop the pain.
Let me say it again; when he starts experiencing the pain of the break up, you will have the perfect opportunity to show him that YOU are the one he is missing so much!
There are ways to help him see clearly that you are the one he wants back, and I teach you how to go about it step by step on This Page>>>
I have been getting a lot of e-mails from my subscribers lately with many of the women asking me very similar questions. They all boil down to How Do Men Respond To Distance in a Relationship? We are NOT talking about a Long Distance Relationship which is a completely separate topic, and if you want to know more about it, you can visit This Page. Here, in this article, we are going to talk about a different kind of distance – emotional.
And since I can’t answer each individual email I decided to write a post to answer everyone at once.
And if you are like the women who asked me this question, pay close attention, because chances are, you have experienced a situation such as theirs at least once in your dating life, and if not, you sure will encounter such situation in the future, so it’s always good to know how to handle this situation with grace and dignity.
When the man you have been dating starts to pull away after a few dates, few weeks or months of dating, the natural instinct is to close that gap and to bring your relationship back to normal, or back to the way it was.
And in an attempt to bring your guy back, you may start making mistakes that are dangerous to your relationship.
If you feel compelled to fill the communication gaps by calling him, asking him out, and offering to see him or to stop by his house, his natural reaction will be to pull even further away.
To you these actions may seem like a natural way to bridge the gap between the two of you, and to strengthen the connection. To a man, however, this feels like smothering.
What should you do?
Give him some time, and he’ll start reaching out to you again. A healthy relationship is not based on running away and chasing. In a healthy relationship no one is running and no one is chasing.
In a healthy relationship, both people are emotionally healthy individuals who are happy to be together, and aren’t playing head games.
When, on the other hand, one person pulls away, and the other one chases this relationship is based on games and deceit.
And if you want to ensure that your relationship is lasting and healthy, you need to recognize that distance can be healthy when moderated.
If you require that a man calls you several times a day, he may fulfill that need for a while. But there will be times when he will only call you once a day. And that’s ok. He may need that distance here and there.
But if you have noticed that his calls have become less and less regular, that he wants to see you less and less frequently, or starts making excuses to not see you at all, this simply means that he is paving his way to end the relationship with you eventually.
This has nothing to do with pulling away from you temporarily. This is an indication that he is having second thoughts about your relationship, or that he’s met somebody else who he wants to start seeing.
There are ways, however, to return a man who is slipping away from you, and to even get him back from another woman.
If you are on the brink of a break up, and your man is slipping away, or if you have already been dumped, there is a way to get his love back! If you are convinced that what you want is to get your man back, if you are convinced that he is the one for you, then I encourage you to check out This Page >>> – Click Here To Read because only you know that he is the one for you, and your relationship is worth saving because you had something special!
Have you split up with your boyfriend and you’re heartbroken? You CAN get him back – here’s how.
If you have just broken up with your partner you are probably feeling pretty devastated right now. Perhaps you are in total despair because you really want him back.
Don’t worry, with the right strategy it is totally possible to be reunited with the person you love.
To get your ex back, though, you’re going to have to do a few things. Some of these may be the opposite of what your instincts tell you to do. Give them a try though – suspend your judgment until you test them.
1. Accept responsibility. Maybe you feel it was not your fault that the two of you have broken up. It probably wasn’t your idea. Nevertheless, you must be willing to acknowledge that you had a significant role to play in the ending of the relationship. Don’t play the blame game. Instead, acknowledge to yourself and to others that you take responsibility for the situation. In doing this you send a very powerful message that portrays you as someone of strength and integrity. These are qualities that your ex will find very attractive. This step alone may be enough to bring him back to you. However, a word of warning: you must be sincere about this. Be willing to “eat some humble pie” and refuse to point the finger at your ex partner.
2. Change your focus. Instead of dwelling on the past and reliving the pain of the breakup, you must focus on the only two places that can help you. They are the PRESENT and the FUTURE. Tale stock of your current situation and find things to be grateful for that you DO have in your life right now. Be optimistic for the future. By developing a positive mental attitude you also send a message to your ex that is both powerful and attractive.
3. Know that you can and WILL have him back as long as you follow the step-by-step plan outlined on this page. This goes beyond wishful thinking or hope. It is a deep, unshakeable faith that you know you will be together again after you have followed these steps. You must know in your heart without a shadow of a doubt that the two of you are meant to be together, that you are right for each other and that your partner (as well as you) is a better person from the two of you being in a relationship.
When you have this attitude and the right strategy for getting your ex back you have a power that is unstoppable.
It need not be the end of the road for your relationship. Many thousands of couples who split up end up getting back together. Often they thought that it was ‘all over’ and there was no hope. But they did! And you can too. By developing the attitudes and qualities described on this page you can not only get your ex back, but you will become a better (and happier) person too.
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If you’ve gone through a break up with your ex but still aren’t over him, you may be wondering, what can I change in order to get him back? In this article I will share the one secret that alone will help you get your ex back – guaranteed!
There is one and only thing that in itself will help you get your ex back – identify the main reason he left you, and fix the problem that caused him to leave you!
You may be saying, it’s easier said than done. What if you are completely oblivious as to why he left you?
If you are not sure what caused the break up, you can try talking to him. You can ask him in a non-threatening way if there was something that made him want a break up.
Be prepared that he might not be receptive to this kind of conversation. This is because when we break up with someone we expect them to react emotionally. We expect an awful reaction on their part. We know from experience that breaking up with the person who still wants us will trigger an awful feeling of rejection, and it hurts. Most people act emotionally to rejection. They might start crying, they might become angry and get into an argument or a fight.
We naturally try to avoid these negative consequences of breaking up with someone, and often we hide and disappear from their radar instead of confronting the other person and telling them why we think the break up in the best option. Typically we don’t expect them to act with emotional maturity, and thus we often avoid any explanation.
So, in order to get an explanation as to why your ex left you, you must fist show him that you have emotional maturity to handle this conversation.
Start off by saying that you respect their decision and that if they feel this way about the relationship then it’s for the best to end it. Tell them you agree with the break up, and that there is probably someone better out there for the both of you.
Tell the person that you are grateful that they informed you about the break up, and that knowing about it will help you cut all contact and start a new life without your ex in it.
If they are receptive to this conversation, tell them you want to know what caused the break up and if it was something you did or didn’t do. Tell them that you are only asking for your information so that you won’t repeat the same mistakes in the future with someone else.
Tell them you will be very appreciative if they let you know why they broke up with you, and if they choose not to inform you that you respect their decision either way.
You might be surprised at how willing to open up your ex will become.
When he knows you will handle his response with grace and dignity, he will want to let you know what caused the break up.
Once he tells you about the reasons for a break up, be sure you stand by your word and keep your promise to not overreact. Be sure you take his answer for its face value. Don’t argue with his reasoning. And definitely don’t try to prove him wrong.
He has formed an opinion about you during your relationship. Arguing and trying to prove him wrong will do no good at this time.
Take his answer with gratitude, because he has just given you something to work with. Now that you know what caused the break up you can work on resolving this issue by yourself.
Take your time and stay away from your ex for now. There will be a time when you will need to take action in order to pull him back to you, but first you will need to fix the issue that caused the break up in the first place.
The reason many people fail to get their ex’s back is that the issues that caused the break up in the first place never get resolved.
Before you attempt to get him back, work on yourself, and be sure that you are aware of the reasons he broke up with him by using these tips.
Do you want to know the hard cold truth about why sometimes a man will dump a woman when things seemed to be going great with no warning signs?
Read on to find out one of the reasons why men dump women – the honest confession of one woman who was able to identify the problem AND get her man back!
Here is an e-mail I recently received from one of my clients:
I’ve been subscribing to your e-mails since 2010. I read them regularly as they answer a lot of my questions about men and dating.
Thanks to your advice, your articles and some of your books I have learned a lot about understanding men and have been rather successful at meeting and attracting quality men but still have not found the right one to marry.
This one guy I met recently seemed very promising. Here is my story.
We met about two months ago on a dating site. We instantly hit it off and started dating.
Thanks to your advice I had learned I was a cool girl as you would put it. I wasn’t needy, clingy or desperate. I wasn’t calling him and was only responding to his calls and text messages.
For three weeks things were going great. He was a total gentleman, he courted me and showed me that he cared. He brought me flowers, opened doors, etc.
We talked on the phone regularly and texted throughout the day on a daily basis.
We saw each other several times a week, he introduced me to some of his friends, we went on short trips together.
Following your advice in one of your books I had purchased I did not sleep with him until he said he was committed to me (as in an official girlfriend/boyfriend relationship), took down his dating site profile (which is what I did also at the same time and as per our discussion about getting serious) and he officially started referring to me as his girlfriend.
The first time we had sex was about three weeks into the relationship (after our discussion, thanks to your advice and your books). It happened at his house after our dinner date.
After that our relationship progressed nicely with even more phone conversations, texting (all initiated by him), and doing things together.
The next time we had sex was again at his house on a Friday night after going dancing.
On the following day I had to go into the office to work overtime as it is a busy time of the year for my company, so I got up in the morning while he was still asleep, got dressed before he woke up and left.
We continued seeing each other and keeping in regular contact. No changes at all.
The third time we had sex was on a weekend trip. He had booked a room at a five-star resort and we spent a weekend together.
After this things suddenly changed.
On Monday he did not call me at all. This was very much out of character for him as he used to text me every day and follow up with a phone call after I responded.
I called him the following day as if nothing had happened and asked him what he was up to.
He said he was just at home doing nothing. I told him that I had taken a day off on Friday that week as we had talked about before.
There was silence, so I said, “if you are still interested”, to which he said, “let me send you something”.
I asked “excuse me?” and he said “I need to send you something; it’s on my phone; I’ll call you right back”.
He then sent a screen shot of my other dating profile on the same dating site we met on which I had told him I had before when I met my ex boyfriend three years ago. I had forgotten my user name and changed my e-mail address since then.
What he did was, he searched on the dating site after we both deleted our profiles and found my old profile. It was apparent that I was not logging onto that profile.
I called him back and he told me that he couldn’t trust me and I was dishonest with him. He said he needed to “take a break” (the same like you put so much importance on in your book Get Him Back) which I bought later that day!
I knew from reading your e-mails and articles that I should not argue with him, and I basically knew right away not to do anything until I re-read your articles on how to get your ex boyfriend back.
I re-read some of your e-mails and found a link to your book Get Your Man Back, which I immediately purchased.
I was able to recognize that his excuse for breaking up with me was just an excuse, and the real reason was just like it was described in your book – he just felt like it was too much too fast.
I followed your advice in the book and he got back in contact with me after only two weeks!!!
I have to say that what happened after was just as you predicted in your book!
He followed the exact steps described, and since I already knew what he would do next and what would be the next step he’d take, I just followed the system, and it all worked out!!!
The amazing thing was that I did not have to wonder at any step of the way!!!
It happened just like you described!
He contacted me the same way you said he would. He actually texted me first. But when I did not respond he called me! I knew exactly what to say next and kept the first conversation the suggested length.
Sure enough, he contacted me again. This time he was apologetic, but I did everything exactly as you recommended in your book.
I have to say that in the interim I was doing all of the things you suggested in your book, which is why he decided to contact me again.
When we finally got back together (yes, I made him EARN me all over again – I didn’t make it easy) he told me that when he first made a decision to break up with me his decision was firm, but after I did what I did (which is what I learned from your book, which he doesn’t know about ;-), he had a change of heart!
I am forever in your debt, Elaine!
We got back together and are going stronger than ever before!
I have to say that I can see now how a man can go from being madly in love into a state of indifference, and how spending a lot of time together can contribute into a break up!
I also want to carry the message to all your readers and to say that if someone finds themselves dumped by a guy who seemed great at first – Don’t Give Up! There is a solution! And I have found my solution in your guide Get Your Man Back System which I will highly recommend to any woman who is going through a break up and wants to fix things and get her man back and to get into a committed relationship with him!