He Says He Needs Space – What To Do

December 8, 2011 by  
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Have you ever been in a situation when you date a guy you really like, and everything seems to be going great, but after a while he tells you the dreaded “I Need Space”?

Perhaps he tells you that you both need to take a time off, or that you should start dating other people?

If this has ever happened to you and you didn’t know what that meant, read on because in this article I will explain in great detail why this happen more often than not, what that means and the biggest mistakes women make making assumptions that leave them alone and heartbroken.

If you found yourself in this situation, don’t worry, because after you read this entire article, you will be on your way to fixing your relationship before it’s too late!

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So, what does it mean when he says I need space, or we need time away from each other, or we should start dating other people?

The reality of it is that when a guy starts to realize that he isn’t feeling it anymore for the woman he is with, he will want out. He feels suffocated, and he feels that he wants to be single again, and perhaps even explore the greener pastures.

But he doesn’t know how to let her know his decision, and he certainly doesn’t want to hurt her.

He wants to make the breakup as painless as possible, so he says those common phrases most of us say when we want to leave peacefully and without drama, without causing anyone heartache.

The reason he doesn’t want to be blunt and tell you he’s had enough and he wants the relationship to be over is that he is being nice and doesn’t want to hurt your feelings.

But these kinds of comments only cause confusion, and perhaps you think that if only you gave him the space that he needs he will come back to you.

Truth is, if you let him have his space away from you, he will use that time away to re-establish his single life, and most likely explore what else is out there.

Perhaps it’ll just be a few dates with someone or he’ll ask a few women out, without it going anywhere further.

He might, however, find someone else in that time frame, and at that time, my dear, you will be history!

So, what should you do when you hear the dreaded I need space? What do you say when he asks for a time away from you?

Too many times we are tempted to hear what we want to hear, and to hope for the best. But don’t fool yourself! You have to be honest with yourself! Being honest with yourself at this critical time of your relationship will help you salvage your relationship and bring back the person you want in your life!

Unless you recognize that he is pulling away, and unless you TAKE ACTION NOW, you will allow the man you want to slip away through your fingers!

Read This Page to discover how to bring back the man who is losing interest before it’s too late!


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How to Get Him Back When He’s Moved On

October 25, 2011 by  
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If you have recently broken up with your boyfriend and he’s already moved on, but you still have strong feelings for him, you may be wondering if you can still get him back.

Truth is, every relationship can be saved, but you have to know exactly what to do, and exactly what steps to take to get your ex boyfriend back when he’s moved on.

There are certain things many women tend to do immediately following a break up that completely ruin their chances for getting their ex-boyfriend back especially if he is already dating someone else.

I want to teach you how to avoid making those critical mistakes right in this article.

First of all, you must understand that your tendency is to talk to your ex-boyfriend about his new date or his new girlfriend in a derogatory and condescending way. You may try to put her down, tell him how unattractive she is, or how bad she is for him. You may think that saying bad things about her will make him realize she’s wrong for him, and make him like her less.

Truth is, that saying negative things about his new woman will only make you seem jealous and pathetic. It will certainly not make him change his mind about dating her, or make him reconsider breaking up with you.

Instead, try to become his friend, and act like you are on his side.

Men appreciate having female friends in their lives, especially if it is the ex-girlfriend who is still a good friend who cares about him and is looking out for him.

If he wants to talk to you about his new woman, let him do so, and avoid judging and putting her down.

When he sees that despite his attempts to make you jealous, you seem calm and cool, he will gain more respect for you, and see you from a different perspective.

Don’t try to make friends with her, however. If you feel jealous and insecure around her, there isn’t a point in you two hanging out together. You definitely don’t want to be the supporter for her when things turn out badly between you and him. Stay neutral, but don’t put yourself in a situation when you become her friend, instead of his friend.

Develop a friendship with HIM, that goes beyond casual dating, regardless if he is still single or is with another woman. The key to getting your ex boyfriend back from another woman is building a strong connection with him despite the breakup.

There are certain behavior patterns and rules you must follow if you want to get your ex boyfriend back after he’s moved on. Although there are no guarantees in life, your chances from getting him back from another woman are much greater when you follow those rules.

They have been tested time and time again, and if you want to know the guidelines you need to follow to ensure you can get your ex boyfriend back from another woman, even if it’s been a while since he moved on, continue reading on This Page >>>




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Rebound Relationships

September 20, 2011 by  
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This article is in response to one of my subscribers who asked me how to get back the person he fell in love with who recently went back to her ex boyfriend breaking his heart in the process.

You can read his email and questions he asks here.

And here is my response to Ken:

“Dear Ken,

I am afraid to disappoint you, but asking how to get back the person you fell in love with in your specific situation is like asking how to get back something you’ve never had.

Let me explain;

The relationship you had with this woman was a rebound relationship.

You said in your email that when you first met she was fresh out of a relationship with her ex boyfriend.

When people jump into a new relationship days after their previous relationship ends, the only reason they do so is to fill the hole created by the breakup temporarily.

A person is not in any way ready and healthy enough to start a new relationship and to actually offer a good relationship to someone when they have not healed from the breakup.

There are many things to deal with emotionally and those who do not take the time in between relationships do so because they are not strong enough to deal with their issues on their own.

Another reason we choose a very specific person to have a rebound relationship with is because the rebound partner is typically the opposite of the ex in ways we did not like about the ex.

In your situation the woman you dated had a partner who was emotionally abusive as follows from your email. After the breakup with him she choose you because you sound like you are treating her completely differently – with a lot or respect and adoration.

She thought that was what she wanted – a partner who has what her ex didn’t. But after a couple of months she realized that she was fooling herself into thinking that she could replace one person with another, deducting the qualities she didn’t like and replacing the partner who had negative qualities with one who didn’t have them.

Love isn’t that easy. Love is complex. It’s not a puzzle in which you can take one piece out and replace it with another, and live happily ever after.

The reason she keeps going back to her ex is that he must have some redeeming qualities and not everything about him is bad.

I know you’ve mentioned the bad things – and I am sure he has those bad qualities. But along with his bad qualities, he must have some good ones. And those are the ones that make her go back to him.

You may or may not know what those good qualities are, and perhaps they are more important to this woman than the good qualities that YOU have.

The bottom line is, you have gotten yourself involved with a person on the rebound. And as I say in my book Get Him Back, rebound relationships almost never last.

As far as your question, should you stick around and wait for her to decide what she wants to do, my opinion is that whatever she decides to do about her relationship with the ex, you have no bearing on her final decision, and there isn’t anything YOU can do to influence her decision in regard with her ex.

If and when she decides to end that relationship she will need to heal first and become ready for a new relationship that has no encumbrance of the past.

You deserve a relationship in which the person you are with chooses you because they appreciate YOU, not because you are the opposite of their ex!

There is a fair chance if you weren’t the opposite of her ex if ways she didn’t like about him, she may not have chosen you for this rebound relationship in the first place, so I suggest that you move on with your life and not allow her to use you for her own selfish emotional needs”.

Now, a question for you, my subscribers – Have YOU had any experience with rebound relationships? – Please share your story in the comment section below!

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3 Reasons Why He Is Scared Of Falling For You

September 17, 2011 by  
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If you have been with a man for a while but he isn’t sure what he wants or if he has started avoiding you after the initial few weeks of dating, or he tells you that you need a break from each other, you may be desperately trying to figure out what to do to change that.

He could be losing interest, but it could also mean that he is falling for you but is scared of his own feelings.

Or perhaps you went out on a date or two with a man who pulled away and isn’t chasing you like he used to.

The 3 reasons why men are afraid of falling in love are often easily overlooked.

If your man isn’t chasing you nearly as much as he used to, you may start questioning the reasons why his behavior has changed so drastically.

Sometimes men have a hard time trusting the new feelings they have not experienced before or have experienced before but got hurt, and the 3 major reasons why men are afraid of falling for a woman after the initial dating phase could be summarized as:

1. The fear that it is not going to work out
2. The fear that their love isn’t reciprocated
3. The fear that the new relationship is going to end just like the one before did – painfully and without recourse

When a man is overwhelmed by these scary emotions, it is not unusual for him to pull away.

He is running away from what he is afraid of, and especially if his last relationship ended badly, he will often assume that the new one will cause him just as much pain if not more when it ends.

He may just decide to end before it even takes off the ground.

If this is your situation, you can mistakenly feel powerless to change this.

You may be panicking and acting out of your fear, driving him even further away and confirming his decision to break up with you or to stop seeing you.

But fortunately, in this day and age, and with the development of the latest technology, you don’t have to act desperately like call him and demand an answer.

You can let this new technology do all the work for you – regain his interest, make him want to date you again, and make him want to contact you on his own initiative.

Read more about how you can use the latest technology to bring back the man who got away on This Page


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How To Attain Or Regain His Interest

September 16, 2011 by  
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–       Is your ex-boyfriend ignoring you? Do you want to know how to regain his interest and beg you to take HIM back?

–       Are you still not over The One That Got Away and want to make him to come back to you?

–       Are you still baffled why the man you had incredible chemistry with never called you again and want to make him get in touch with you?

Don’t give up on him just yet!

YOU CAN

GET HIM BACK!

With the power of the Internet & social networking what seemed to be impossible just ten years ago is EASILY achievable TODAY when you know how to utilize the latest technology to regain the interest of any man who got away whether it’s your ex, a guy who never called or a man you have always wanted but never had!

Whether it is a man you went out with on one date or several dates, your ex boyfriend who dumped you, or the man who flirted but never asked you out, YOU CAN GET THIS MAN!

The beauty of social networking is that it CAN BRING YOUR MAN TO YOU easily and make HIM come to you without you trying too hard, without seeming like a stalker, and on his own initiative!

I am going to teach you how to GET YOUR MAN BACK if he has completely lost interest in you or forgot about you!

You can harness the power of social networking to get your guy back even if he has no interest in talking to you, seeing you and being in a relationship with you right now!

And the best of all is that your man is going to think that it was all HIS idea to get YOU back into his life!

Once you implement the secret strategies and techniques I am going to teach you, your man will start thinking about you, fantasizing about being with you all the time. You will be on his mind constantly. He won’t be able to get you out of his mind!

He won’t be able to think about any other woman. You will be constantly on his mind, when he can’t wait to hear your voice again, see you again, and hold you in his arms!

Yes, your man will literally start obsessing about you once you implement my secret techniques and strategies!

If you are like most people who recently got dumped, you are probably doing all the wrong things trying to get him back.

But it is important that you know what you should never do after a break up if you want to have a chance with your ex:

First of all, if you’ve been calling your ex, texting him, and trying to get him to talk to you, you should stop doing all those harmful things right now!

And if you haven’t done any of those things yet, don’t even start!

Because none of those things work!

And also because there is something better! And I am going to teach you exactly what to do to get your man interested in you again, wanting to be with you more than ever and beg you to take him back!

You can simply implement the strategies I am going to teach you, sit back and relax, and make him do all the work to get YOU back!

Once you do as I say, you will see how your man’s attitude toward you will change almost magically!

He will try very hard to get you back, and he will do all the work to get back together!

But first I will reveal a few secrets about break ups, and what you can do to fix it starting right now!

When you first started dating, your man probably couldn’t get enough of you. But after a while he started losing interest, gradually, slowly, but surely.

And if you are like most women you probably didn’t understand what you did wrong that made him lose interest.

But the truth is; it’s not your fault!

The reason men lose interest after dating you for a while is because you don’t give your man enough opportunities to miss you and to fantasize about you.

And if you are like most women, right after the break up you were always in his face trying to convince him to get back together, trying to get him to talk to you, and trying to fix the things that caused the break up.

And your attempts to get him back made the situation even worse.

He may have started avoiding you altogether. He may have even started dating a new woman to get away from you!

This is why it is important that you stop doing all those harmful things that drove your man even further away from you, and start doing the right things.

But you may be wondering, how can I get him back if we are not talking, if we are not seeing each other? Won’t he drift even further away?

Here is the thing; if you don’t do anything at all, he will, definitely drift further away and find someone else very soon.

But don’t worry because I have created a system that will make your man miss you, want to be with you, and will make him reconsider his decision to end the relationship. And the best thing is that you won’t have to do anything, just sit back, relax and watch your man crawl back to you, and do all the work necessary to get back together.

Here is what this secret is about – you can send your man messages that will make him want you again by using the power of social networking!

Are you and your ex friends on Facebook? If not, don’t worry because I am going to teach you how to get him on your Facebook friends list, so you can start sending him subtle messages starting today.

You won’t have to contact him through Facebook, but what I will teach you is how to get him to contact you!

And it’s really easier than you think.

I will teach you how to send him information in a subtle way that you want him to know about you. And I will teach you exactly what kind of information your ex needs to get about you that will make him want you again with renewed passion and desire.

See, the power of social networking cannot be underestimated. With the right tools you can achieve unbelievable results. But if you don’t know what you are doing you can also mess up your situation even more.

In my guide I reveal the secrets of using Facebook the right way, sending the right messages and the right updates to your ex, when he will see them and wonder about what you are doing and will want to be a part of your life again.

These little messages and updates you will post on your Facebook will make him want you more than anything. And after you do as I say you will get back into the driver seat of your relationship, regain control of your relationship and your love life, and you will be the one deciding whether you even want your ex back.

In this guide I will reveal every little trick my private coaching clients have used to get their ex boyfriends back, to reconcile with their estranged husbands, and to bring the love back into their lives, and keep it!

–       Even if you aren’t FaceBook friends now, I will show you how to make him add you as a FaceBook friend as the first step in making him contact you! And I will show you what to do next!

I will teach you how to refresh his GOOD memories of you, remind him of the GREAT CHEMISTRY YOU HAD, and make him want to chase you with renewed desire!

When you follow the EXACT STEPS I have outlined for you in this system, you will remind him of you in subtle ways, attract him, make him wonder about you, regain his interest and make him want to contact you first!

Don’t Worry! You will NOT come off as a stalker!

I will show you how to do all of the above in a way that you will never come off as a stalker.

This is very important!

If you don’t do it right, you may damage the situation even more, so it is CRITICAL that you learn how to do it in the CORRECT WAY!

Introducing: FaceBook Your Ex Into Your Life

This comprehensive guide will teach you how:

You can increase your ‘perceived’ value in his eyes so that he will think higher of you

You can contact him subtly and indirectly so that he will not think of you as a pest

You can let him change his initial perception of you to a lot more favorable impression of you

You can get HIM to chase you and turn the tables around completely

How to grow your connection and make your relationship better than it’s ever been before once you GET HIM BACK!

This guide is NOT about doing all sorts of things to make him jealous by creating fake guys profiles and befriending them, and it is not about posting questionable quality pictures of you embracing various guys to make him jealous. Doing so is very transparent and it will only hurt you.

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– How to use these strategies even if neither one of you is currently using FaceBook

– What to do once you are FaceBook friends with your ex to MAKE HIM WANT YOU BACK

– And many more details on how to use the power of social networking to gain the interest of the One That Got Away to BRING HIM BACK INTO YOUR LIFE!

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– How to go from your first post-breakup meeting to FULL BLOWN COMMITMENT

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Should You Un-Friend Your Ex On FaceBook

September 12, 2011 by  
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Have you broken up with your ex? And if so, you are probably wondering what you should do about your FaceBook status or your FaceBook friendship with you ex.

Should you delete your ex from your friends list or should you keep him on your friends list?

Here is just one of the emails I have received in which one of my subscribers asks, Should I Un-Friend My Ex On FaceBook?

Dear Elaine M.D.

I just read your book, 101 reasons why men don’t call. It was very good and I needed that information under my belt-especially now!

Here is my situation and question:

My Ex and I broke up October 1st. We did not speak for 2 months, yes I emailed him first bc he is a soldier and I found out he got deployed to Iraq. When he came back, he called me, we saw each other several times casually, it was nice, we never discussed our breakup or anything about our relationship. We did NOT get back together nor did it become physical other than he kissed me and held my hand. I could tell he still had feelings for me, though. During that time I found out he was going back to Iraq then to Afghanistan. He has a very dangerous job, he is in a special divisions unit and has a pretty high rank and he is also a Commander.

I freaked out bc we did not clear the air between us or discuss anything that had happened between us. I made a decision to write him an email as if I would never see him alive again. (BTW because of his job, I did this, I have NEVER EVER EVER done this with any guy I’ve dated & broken off with in the past-EVER) Yes, I told him that I missed him, still loved him. I told him how much I admired him and how sorry I was that things did not work out between us, that if he thought it was a good idea, I would like to spend time with him when he got back to repair our relationship. He wrote back a beautiful email, basically saying that he missed me, too, that our break up was all his fault, not mine and he felt terrible about it,but between his kids, and his job and an possible relocation, he was not in a place to be in a committed relationship, but that he wanted to maintain contact with me. I said I understood, not to worry and to focus on his job and staying safe. He kept in touch the rest of the time he was over there with emails. He told me he would let me know that he made it home safe. 2 weeks after he was scheduled to return, I had not heard from him, I wrote him asking him to let me know if he got bk OK without any complications, he wrote me back immediately apologizing, saying sorry he had not written he was so busy, etc…..that he was bk in the country and would call me when he got back from his latest trip. That was 4 weeks ago, NOTHING. I have not contacted him either.

Meanwhile, he is still my friend on facebook. I post tons of photos of myself out, at parties, Balls, events, etc. I have almost 500 friends on facebook and am an ex model who still looks terrific. I have a great group of friends all over the world and make good money as a financial advisor now. I still wear a size 6 and am very popular. (see attached) I know he goes to my profile to check out what’s happening with me, but I have not heard a peep from him. No email no phone call.

Here is my question: Should I “UN FRIEND” him on facebook? I have kept him as a friend deliberately bc I found facebook to be a perfect place to upload all my old modeling photos and photos with family, travel, out with friends, etc. looking marvelous and living a happy life without him.

If you think I should unfriend him, when? Or should I just leave it as it is as if I did not notice? I do not intend to contact him further at this point.

Thank you in advance for your help with this question.

Rose (Name changed for privacy)

My Response:

Dear Rose,

Of course it’s your choice but I do not recommend un-friending him since you already know you won’t contact him first. If you un-friend him, this makes a statement and shows him that you still are not over him. If you didn’t care about him you would not ever notice, and you would not mind staying in touch as friends if you didn’t have any feelings left for him. The only situation in which I recommend un-friending him is when you feel that you will not be able to keep yourself from contacting him through Facebook.

In fact, there is a way to Use FaceBook To Regain His Interest

You can find out more about it on This Page!


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Get Him Back With The Help Of Your Memories

March 16, 2011 by  
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If you’ve broken up with your ex you may be thinking that pushing the memories of your ex away from you is the way to lessen the pain of the break up. This is a common mistake people make when they break up!

Trying to think of your ex less frequently only aggravates the pain when it comes back because the more you try to suppress your feelings and emotions the harder it is to stay in control of your emotions when they eventually overpower you!
But what most people who are going through a breakup don’t know is that your positive memories associated with your ex can actually help you bring your ex back!

Let me explain;

You and your ex were together for some time. During that time, both you are your ex did some things that left memories some of which are positive and some of which are negative. The trouble is that if it was your ex who initiated the break up, chances are that your ex at this point remembers more negative things about your relationship than positive.

The key to getting your ex back is in bringing back the positive memories and diminishing the negative ones in your ex’s mind.

Think of three of the best and most memorable moments you and your ex had together.

If your relationship lasted for more than a couple of dates, you will come up with at least a few memories that are very special to you.

Now, I want you to think of the three memories that you think are the most special to your ex.

Write those memories down, both for yourself and your ex. Make two columns – one for your ex and one for yourself.

After you have finished writing down those things down, carefully look at them. Are your best memories the same as ones for your ex?

With some couples you may find that your ex’s best memories of your relationship are different of the ones you have identified as the best ones. That’s ok. If you think that your most memorable moments are the same as the ones that your ex would consider his best memories, even better!

All you need to do is to bring back the memories that made your ex feel in love with you, and you are two steps closer to getting him back even if you feel that it’s over.

Even if you think that it’s all over, I get great news for you – most relationships can be saved! Many couples reunite after a break up. The key is in doing the right thing, and avoid doing the wrong thing.

Unfortunately, many people are clueless what is the right thing and what is the wrong thing to do when you want to get your ex back.

For detailed information on what to do to bring back lost love of your life, read this page


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Decoding The Mystery Behind Your Ex Boyfriend FaceBook Posts

November 7, 2010 by  
Filed under Get Him Back

Decoding the mystery behind your guy’s FaceBook posts is something we women love to do! Have you ever read or seen something on your guy’s FaceBook profile and tried to decode what that would mean in a relation to you? Yep, I hear you. I get lots of emails from women asking me to decode what this and that means. In today’s article I want to address a question I received recently from a subscriber.

She writes:

Hi Elaine,

I love your newsletters and articles. I thought I would ask you a question that has to do with my ex.

We broke up almost a year ago. Before that we had an off and on relationship for two years. We could never work it out so our relationship just fell apart slowly but surely. We still talk on the phone as friends. I have been dating other guys, which he knows about. To my knowledge he is still single.

I had kicked him out of my FaceBook friends, but recently I got a suggestion to add him as a friend so I sent him a friend request and he approved.

Today I saw his comments in my feed when I logged onto FaceBook and I went on his profile to check them out. I noticed that he had some new pictures posted.

I went to browse his new albums and saw that just about a month ago he added some pictures to his FaceBook. Most of the new pictures were from the countries he recently visited, but one of the pictures was my head shot (that was his favorite picture of me I had sent him when were we still together).

I thought he’d uploaded it by accident when he was uploading other pictures, so out of curiosity I called him to ask about it. He answered the phone and said he had just landed and that he was in South America and would call me when he returns (next week). So, I said, hey just a quick question; are you aware that there is my picture on your FaceBook profile? He said, yeah, I’ll call you when I get home. Then he texted me that he will be back in a week (he travels constantly for work).

So, Elaine, what does it mean when your ex puts your picture up on his FaceBook wall? It looks like it was uploaded on his FaceBook wall and that’s how it got to that album.

My first assumption was that it was an accident but he responded affirmatively when I asked whether he knew that picture was on his profile.

Any thoughts?

Thanks,

Beth

Hi Beth,

Here are a few points I want to make:

  1. Your ex still keeps a picture of you, which shows that he thinks of you. He has kept it on his computer for a year after your break up. This shows that he still has tender memories even if the break up was a mutual decision. It can’t be that bad if he keeps a picture of you and knows the location of the image file on his computer.
  2. The fact that he uploaded this picture on his FaceBook is kinda strange. I don’t know what kind of a statement he was trying to make especially since you were not even on his friends list and could not see when he uploaded it. I could understand if it was a picture of both of you, but uploading a head shot of his ex girlfriend on his profile is not something a guy would normally do unless: a. He wants to show off (maybe to his friends or co-workers who have not met you before); b. He just wants to keep it there for himself so that he can look at it from time to time.
  3. It is apparent that the memories of you are pleasant. If they weren’t, he clearly would not have put your picture up there (we usually get rid of bad memories and reminders, and certainly do not reinforce them)
  4. Another thing that is worth mentioning is that he uploaded this picture just recently. This tells me that the anger and the negative feelings that are unavoidable in every relationship break up have subsided and he only has tender memories of you right now.

This would be a good time to reconcile if that is what you want, and the fact that you’ve asked me about what this means suggests that you still care about him as well.

If you want to get him back this is the time. In my book Get Your Man Back System I recommend waiting for at least two months before attempting to get back together. You’ve been broken up for almost a year, but this doesn’t mean that you can’t get him back. It seems to me that now is the good time because it wasn’t until now that he demonstrated by uploading your picture that he is over whatever the negativity he felt in the breakup.

It is important that you take the right steps if you want to get back together with your ex. It is best if he is the one contacting you on FaceBook first! To learn step-by-step how to get your man to contact you through FaceBook, Read This Page!


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Why Men Suffer More In a Breakup

November 1, 2010 by  
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We used to think that women being the emotional creatures suffer more than men when a breakup occurs. However a recent study conducted on over 1,000 unmarried individuals by Wake Forest Professor of Sociology Robin Simon challenges this assumption.

His article co-authored by Anne Barrett, an associate professor of sociology at Florida State University and published in the June issue of the Journal of Health and Social Behavior suggests that according to the conducted studies men are much more emotionally impacted in a break up than women.

Although the logical assumption is that men who are less emotional and generally tougher than women should not be affected by the breakup as much his break-through research showed otherwise.

If you and your boyfriend have recently broke up you may be thinking that the breakup has not affected your ex as much as it has affected you. But if we presume that the above study has produced accurate results it is safe to say that your man is impacted by the breakup more so than you are, and that he is suffering due to your breakup more so than you.

So, if that was true, you may ask, how come he is not making a move to get back together? This could be for variety of reasons.

One reason and the most common is that he still is affected by the negative emotions due to which the breakup occurred in the first place. He may still be hurt by the harsh words exchanged in the breakup or the words or actions that led to the breakup itself.

If you still love your ex chances are that he loves you too. And if you want him back there is a good chance that he wants the same.

The difficult part about getting back together is that often people make deadly mistakes when they try to patch up a broken relationship. These mistakes cause the gap between the two of you to widen, and make it even more difficult if not impossible to get back together.

One of the most critical mistake partners make is to jump into dating straight away. Although finding a replacement may seem like a logical thing to do it is hard to find a suitable partner when you are not emotionally healthy yourself. While dating immediately after a breakup can more often result in a rebound relationship rather than a healthy lasting relationship, the fact that you are dating someone else will surely be known to your ex which will lead to more difficulties should you try to get him back.

Another critical mistake people make after a breakup is trying to convince your ex to give you another chance. This never works because if your ex is still mad at you he won’t be receptive to your arguments and attempts to convince him to reconsider his decision. Let the anger and frustration subside and try your attempts of reconciliation at a later time. I will show you exactly step-by-step how to go about getting back with your ex boyfriend – Read This Page!


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Top Ten Reasons Why Men Leave Women They Love

October 31, 2010 by  
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If your man is pulling away and you are on the brink of a break up you may want to find out why men leave women.

In this short article I want to summarize what I have learned from men over the years of coaching women dating and relationship skills.

One of the most frequently asked questions I hear from women is why did he leave me? We were so much in love and all of a sudden he tells me he doesn’t know what he wants and doesn’t think it’s going to work.

In this article I will summarize the men’s responses and what I learned by interviewing men from all walks of life.

First, I wanted to know and asked men this question, would you ever leave a woman you love more than anything? Their first reaction was, No way!

Then I asked them to think about it and come up with a well thought of answer. I asked again, what would make you leave a woman you LOVE?

Here are the answers:

1.  Cheating

No matter how much a man loves a woman, in most cases he will leave his woman if he finds out she has cheated on him. The reason for that is not so much jealously. Cheating is a slap on a man’s ego. A man wants to be with a woman who confirms and boosts his ego. He certainly does not want to be with a woman who makes him humiliated. Knowing about a woman’s affair makes a man humiliated in his own eyes as well as in the eyes of other men he knows.

Fear that other men will find out that his woman is sleeping with somebody else and the humiliation that comes with it, as well as the put-downs he expects from other men make him feel less of a man.

If you have been cheating on your man beware! There is very little you can do to save your relationship. Counseling is recommended for both you and your man in order to save your relationship.

2.  Dishonesty

Closely following cheating is dishonesty. If you have been hiding something from your man out of fear that if he finds out he will leave you, you might as well fear that he will leave you when he finds out you were dishonest with him.

Examples of such dishonesty include embellishing your age (which happens a lot with online dating), being dishonest about your past (even if it’s nothing to be particularly proud of, like drug issues or problems with the law, it is better to be honest with your partner).

If you want true partnership he should enter your relationship knowing who he is dealing with. If you have remorse about something in your past it is better to admit the negative issues in your past and accept responsibility than to make a man enter a relationship not knowing something he needs to know about.

You may be thinking, why should I disclose something I am ashamed of? This is because entering a relationship with the ultimate goal of getting married you should make your partner aware of the things that will matter in the marriage.

For instance, if a woman used to have serious drug or alcohol problems he needs to know about it before he commits. I know men who divorced their wives because they found out about drugs after they got married. I also know men who dumped their girlfriends when they found out about their true age.

The thing is, he has to feel in the position to make an informative decision when he enters a serious relationship. If you are ten years older than you say you are, your actual age will not matter nearly as much to a man as the fact you lied about it.

A man thinks, if a woman cannot be trusted and relied upon regarding the little things, there isn’t trust in a relationship. And without trust frankly not many people will stay in a long term relationship.

3.  Consistent attempts to make him jealous

Consistent attempts to make your man jealous will create uncertainty about the relationship. A man doesn’t think of you as more desirable because you are constantly flirting with other men. A man thinks you are desirable because he chose you, not because you’ve chosen to flirt with other men.

When his girlfriend constantly tries to draw attention of other men what it tells a man is that he isn’t good enough that she has to publically humiliate him. A man will not want to be with a woman who humiliates him (see reason No.1)

When a woman tries to make a man jealous the only really reason she does that is because of her own insecurities. But a man doesn’t see it that way. He looks at it like this – am I proud to be seen with this woman or do I want to hide away? If she makes him want to hide away, she is deflating his ego, and no man wants to be with a woman with whom his ego gets deflated.

4.  Acting indifferent as if she doesn’t care

When a man approaches a woman; when a man dates a woman, and when a man enters a serious relationship with a woman he wants to see her approval.  No man will proceed further and move the relationship to the next level when he doesn’t think a woman approves of him.

A man will not ask you out if he doesn’t think you will say YES. A man will not ask you to marry him if he thinks you will say NO.

A man has a sensitive ego. He doesn’t want to get his ego shattered by getting a NO.

5.  Acting insecure

When a woman acts insecure this is a big turn off for a man. Acting out of insecurities can take many forms, from seeking approval to fear of abandonment. These are the things that subconsciously tell a man that a woman is not secure enough to know that he loves her and needs constant validation. Only a man who has severe insecurities himself will welcome this behavior. Such man will see his woman’s insecurities as validation to his own. But unless you are with a man who is insecure, acting out of insecurities will drive a man away.

6.  Negative disposition

Have you ever met a woman who is always negative? The weather always sucks; if it rains it’s bad, but if the sun shines it’s also bad because now she is getting sunburn. She speaks badly about everybody (behind their backs). She comes home from work to unload her issues onto anyone who will listen. Do you know anyone like that? How does it feel being around that person for thirty minutes?

No man wants to be around a woman who is negative. We are attracted to people who draw us in with positive energy. If you have tendencies to dump your load onto someone the best advice is to hire a shrink and keep your negativity out of your personal and dating life. Or you can sign up for boxing and get your negative energy out that way – very effective, seriously.

7.  Emotional draining and nagging

Do you know these women who just nag and nag about something? She’s said it once, and yet she continues to bring it up over and over. At some point it starts to sound like background noise. Yep, the more a woman nags the more the man ignores it.

‘Take out the garbage. Take out the garbage. Take out the garbage. Blah, blah, blah.’

Instead of nagging, find a solution. What’s the problem here? The garbage. How can you have this problem solved without nagging? There are many ways to solve each and every problem. It doesn’t have to be him who takes out the garbage. And not even you. The garbage needs to be taken out. How can this be solved?

Restructure your way of thinking from ‘I want him to do this and that’ to ‘what can I do to have such and such result?’

8.  She changed

Have you ever heard this saying ‘a woman marries a man hoping he’ll change but he never does; a man marries a woman hoping she’ll never change but she always does’. If your man is falling out of love in order to get him to feel the love he felt for you before become the woman he fell in love with in the first place.

9.  She was unappreciative

She never says ‘please’ and ‘thank you’. She takes for granted everything he does for her.

When a man feels he cannot make a woman happy he’ll stop trying. When he doesn’t hear words of encouragement and the words of appreciation he will not try harder. A man is like a dog – he sits, he gets a treat. Stop giving a dog treats and he’ll misbehave.

Reward good behavior and show appreciation.

10. She stopped taking care of herself

She was the homecoming queen when they fell in love. Ten years and two kids later she is fifty pounds overweight wearing an old robe and slippers around the house. Her hair hasn’t seen a touch of a comb since yesterday and her brows have not been waxed in two years.

He loves her but that sexy new secretary in makes his heart race when he comes to the office in the morning. Should he leave his wife he loves but doesn’t feel sexually attracted to or should he have a secret affair?

That’s the choice a man should make.

These are the tops ten reasons according to men why they would leave the woman they love.

If you have been guilty of any of the things above, once you change way you relate to your man, you will see significant boost in how he relates to you! But if you are still puzzled and confused as to why he is pulling away even though you haven’t done anything wrong, the reason is that sometimes men get too comfortable in a relationship and start taking you for granted not appreciating you as much as they do in the beginning.

It doesn’t mean that he doesn’t love you anymore. It simply means that he doesn’t feel it anymore. He can’t tell you why because he doesn’t know the reasons; it’s just that you need a plan of actions to make him realize just how important you are to him.

If you are waiting patiently for a man to change his ways you may be missing out on the relationship of your dreams in which you are deeply adored and appreciated.

If your man stopped appreciating you, if he stopped admiring you and loving you the way he used to, there is a plan of action you can start implementing right away to make him fall in love with you again the way it used to be.

Read on to find out how to make him fall in love with you again – Read This Page Now!


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