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Your story really got to me. I am currently in a 3 year relationship and we live together. When I first started dating my boyfriend I was not completely slim, since I have never been the skinny type, but slimmer than I am now. I have gained about 20 pounds since I have been with him. I am not blamming him for my weight gain, but due to his drug addiction I became really depressed and relied on food for comfort. Since I was 12 I went on diets and would work out. I have to admitt that my workout routines are not consistent, but I do know when I am gaining weight and will diet and work out when I gain a few pounds. My boyfriend has always complaint about my eating habits and workout schedule, but lately it has been a lot more. He told me that it really bothers him that I do not keep a consistent work out schedule. Today, I looked through his web history and he was looking at a website that stated “what to do if your wife is getting fat”. It really hurt me and I am currently re-considering our relationship. I am not sure that I want to marry someone like him. I am really hurt. Not only does he criticize my workout habits, but also my eating habits (although, I make an effort to cook healthy for us) and what I watch on television. He has stated that I am lazy and do no physical activity. When in fact,I have a full time job and do most of the chores and errands at home. He states that my job is more flexible and that I do not have commute like he does. He is also a clean freak and freaks out even if I leave a coffee cup out for a few hours. It has turned out to be a hard situation for me. I am debating if I should stay with him or leave this relationship now. Currently, I started to work out and to diet, not for him, but for me. In fact, I tried to hide it from him, because I didn’t want him to think that I was doing it for him. I am debating if I should stay with him or leave this relationship now.It really hurts, because I really thought he was the man I was going to marry.

I am a 21 year old female, and in late November of last year I began communicating with a 28 year old male on e-Harmony. After talking for several weeks, we went on a date in December. It went well, but I had to go home for Winter Break. We could not see each other for a month, but continued to talk on the phone a few times a week, with him initiating communication.

During this time talking, he set up a date with me in January, and asked me to go to Maine with him to a wedding. We were happily dating from January to mid-February. (This is a long distance relationship, with a driving distance of about 90 miles.) On February 13th he had his bday and asked me to come see him the night before and see him on the afternoon of his bday. He wanted me to leave mid-afternoon, though…because his good friend and friend’s girlfriend were coming to see him and they were all going out. He said he wanted a “guys’ night out.” This really just sounded to me like he wanted to spend the evening stag with a couple. I went to see him but left early the next day and told him I was upset that he would ask me to come and then leave to hang out with a couple.

He left the country for about 6 days, and when he came back he wanted to see me. I told him I needed him to apologize to me for how he acted and for hurting my feelings (I was really hurt that he did not want to see me at all on Valentine’s Day.) When he saw me a few days later, he came dressed up, brought me an orchid, and wanted to take me out. We had a nice time……but I didn’t really feel better. The next day he called and said he was coming into town in a week for work and would like to see me. He refused to stay with me, however, saying he wanted to stay in a hotel. “But that I could stay with him in the hotel.” I felt like this was really weird, since I had routinely spent the night at his house when I was invited to go see him.

So, I freaked out and broke up with him. The next day, I texted him and said I was really sorry and that I had overreacted. I called him, left a message saying the same thing. I heard from him a few days later in a text. He said that he had been thinking, and that we shouldn’t see each other because he didn’t treat me the way I wanted to be treated to should be. I asked him if we could discuss this fiasco, and he agreed. But as he was on a Bachelor party weekend across the country, we waited about four days to talk.

When I called him to talk about this situation I had created, I apologized, took the blame, said I had acted like a crazy person, and asked him if he thought we could still date. He said he did, and wanted to see me that week. So when he came to town, we had dinner and watched a movie. It went fine. He said we might be able to see each other on Friday or Saturday.

I asked him if he would like me to drive to see him on Friday, and he said he had been “debating it” because of his work schedule..but that I was “of course invited.” I ended up going to see him, and again, everything went fine. After I left on Saturday, though, I thought about my time with him and realized he had been disengaged. He seemed reluctant to engage in conversation with me….He just seemed quiet.

I was driving to see my family (an 8 hour drive) from his house, and about 6 hours in I decided to call him and ask if he was okay. He didn’t pick up. And didn’t call me back.

That was last Saturday. On Monday I sent him a text asking if he had had a good break from work, and he said it was fine, but that he hadn’t gotten enough done. He also, however, said that he hadn’t forgotten about our deal…(a deal that if I told him my favorite “parts” about him, he would tell me his favorite parts about me.) So he responded, but he didn’t ask me anything. Again, a refusal to engage. I haven’t heard from him since the text on Monday. I sent him a text yesterday saying that “I hope you had a good day,” but I have not called or emailed him.

I am not sure what to do at this point. I think I am in between the scenario of “We went out on more than 3 dates over a period of a month or 2 and then he stopped calling” and also “Why didn’t he call after we got back together following a break-up?” I feel like he is evaluating our relationship-but I am worried that he has decided not to see me. I am also worried that because of my past psychotic behavior, too much pressure will make him run screaming.

What is your advice? Do I call him…It’s almost been a week since we have talked…Or do I need to leave him alone? Is there any hope here for our relationship?