Decoding The Mystery Behind Your Ex Boyfriend FaceBook Posts
Decoding the mystery behind your guy’s FaceBook posts is something we women love to do! Have you ever read or seen something on your guy’s FaceBook profile and tried to decode what that would mean in a relation to you? Yep, I hear you. I get lots of emails from women asking me to decode what this and that means. In today’s article I want to address a question I received recently from a subscriber.
I love your newsletters and articles. I thought I would ask you a question that has to do with my ex.
We broke up almost a year ago. Before that we had an off and on relationship for two years. We could never work it out so our relationship just fell apart slowly but surely. We still talk on the phone as friends. I have been dating other guys, which he knows about. To my knowledge he is still single.
I had kicked him out of my FaceBook friends, but recently I got a suggestion to add him as a friend so I sent him a friend request and he approved.
Today I saw his comments in my feed when I logged onto FaceBook and I went on his profile to check them out. I noticed that he had some new pictures posted.
I went to browse his new albums and saw that just about a month ago he added some pictures to his FaceBook. Most of the new pictures were from the countries he recently visited, but one of the pictures was my head shot (that was his favorite picture of me I had sent him when were we still together).
I thought he’d uploaded it by accident when he was uploading other pictures, so out of curiosity I called him to ask about it. He answered the phone and said he had just landed and that he was in South America and would call me when he returns (next week). So, I said, hey just a quick question; are you aware that there is my picture on your FaceBook profile? He said, yeah, I’ll call you when I get home. Then he texted me that he will be back in a week (he travels constantly for work).
So, Elaine, what does it mean when your ex puts your picture up on his FaceBook wall? It looks like it was uploaded on his FaceBook wall and that’s how it got to that album.
My first assumption was that it was an accident but he responded affirmatively when I asked whether he knew that picture was on his profile.
Here are a few points I want to make:
- Your ex still keeps a picture of you, which shows that he thinks of you. He has kept it on his computer for a year after your break up. This shows that he still has tender memories even if the break up was a mutual decision. It can’t be that bad if he keeps a picture of you and knows the location of the image file on his computer.
- The fact that he uploaded this picture on his FaceBook is kinda strange. I don’t know what kind of a statement he was trying to make especially since you were not even on his friends list and could not see when he uploaded it. I could understand if it was a picture of both of you, but uploading a head shot of his ex girlfriend on his profile is not something a guy would normally do unless: a. He wants to show off (maybe to his friends or co-workers who have not met you before); b. He just wants to keep it there for himself so that he can look at it from time to time.
- It is apparent that the memories of you are pleasant. If they weren’t, he clearly would not have put your picture up there (we usually get rid of bad memories and reminders, and certainly do not reinforce them)
- Another thing that is worth mentioning is that he uploaded this picture just recently. This tells me that the anger and the negative feelings that are unavoidable in every relationship break up have subsided and he only has tender memories of you right now.
This would be a good time to reconcile if that is what you want, and the fact that you’ve asked me about what this means suggests that you still care about him as well.
If you want to get him back this is the time. In my book Get Your Man Back System I recommend waiting for at least two months before attempting to get back together. You’ve been broken up for almost a year, but this doesn’t mean that you can’t get him back. It seems to me that now is the good time because it wasn’t until now that he demonstrated by uploading your picture that he is over whatever the negativity he felt in the breakup.
It is important that you take the right steps if you want to get back together with your ex. It is best if he is the one contacting you on FaceBook first! To learn step-by-step how to get your man to contact you through FaceBook, Read This Page!