Forum | want my ex back but he already has a new girlfriend....

I’m a girl and would greatly appreciate male perspective as well as female 

My boyfriend of half a year and I broke up a few weeks ago. It was a very intense relationship even if I don’t feel like 6 months was very long at all. He got a new girlfriend less than a week later, told me he had moved on and had 0% for me. I find this a little inhuman and probably impossible due to what we went through together, but I can’t read minds, it could be true I suppose. Even a month later for him to be calm and perfect….seems impossible, I thought our relationship meant more to him, alas.

There’s a few odd things, like the day before we broke up he really didn’t want to break up, and a few days before that he gave me gifts and a card (anniversary) he was majorly apposed to ending it. When I called him a week later to say I still had feelings for him, he said he’d moved on but e also said something along the line of: why didn’t you say that last week? I thought this was a break up and not a break” But I guess there’s no point sitting around analyzing one liners, its been a months now anyway and he’s had the new girlfriend nearly all that time.

The problem here is I still have feelings for him and would like him back, I have red a lot about the subject and believe the only way to do this is with tact, patience and kindness. Time would be better for us anyway, we may have changed. We never fought about anything big and the breakup seemed fairly neutral.

It is however quite upsetting to think one can be forgotten so easily. Since then he got upset with me for trying to move on and cut all contacts with me and sent me some pretty mean emails. Now a month later, he has agreed to talk about being friends, or being nice around others.

Whether it was just a rebound or a planned relationship. probably doesn’t matter. I hate to sound clichéd but despite problems we had he probably won’t find a better match than me and im willing to wait whilst he realizes that. Though he’s probably to proud to ever admit it.

With me he could tell me anything, his deepest secrets, desires, and all the awful jokes he wanted and I didn’t care at all, I simply don’t judge, I just accept no matter how creepy weird or gross something is. He probably won’t find that again easily is all I’m saying.

I’m not waiting, as in I won’t put my life on hold for him at all. I simply plan on making peace with him (contacting him for the first time in a few days) As part of an agreement to be friendly to each other around our mutual friends. If we didn’t have this kind of social group I might not have bothered but due to that we will speak for the first time about being civil in a few days. No tricks or seduction, he has a girlfriend and says he’s completely 100% over me. Any suggestions on what to say?

After reading a lot about exes and getting them back, It would seem the best course for me now, would just be to get on his good side with this peace treaty and be friends, even if we wont talk much at all. Other than that, I just wait until he breaks up with her naturally, when and if that happens I suppose I’ll speak with him more, in the meantime keep living.

Sound like a plan? Any suggestions, advice, experience? I know it’s long but any comments advice or experience relating to any parts of this are greatly appreciated 