Forum | He Says He Loves Me But Won't Commit

Hi, my name is Kyla and Im 31 Im hoping someone whos experienced what im going through can help me make sense of what im going through right now in my life. For the past three days ive been researching answers to men who are supposedly inlove or love you but dont want to commit. I have not been in anything like this in my life. The sad part is I havent been inlove in over seven yrs and now its happend again but with someone who doesnt want a relationship. I have been seeing this man whos 27 for five months now, we had an instant attraction and immediately began to be very sociable with eachother. We spent almost everyday every time we could get together. later we also became intimate.Hes came out and told me he loved me and then I came to that realization myself not to long afterwards and told him. Shortly afterwards we both confessed that we were inlove. So you would think that it wouldnt be an issue when it comes to going to the next step which is a committed relationship. However i brought it up and he just tells me hes not ready yet and wants to make sure whoever he goes to that point with is the right one for him and vise versa.He's also brought up financial reasons as well. I tried to understand this and continued seeing him because i love him and dont want to pressure him into anything especially if it would ruin our relationship we have now. But im getting mixed signals from him. He tells me he wants kids one day and his mother wants grand kids. He ask me how many do i want and do i want anymore since i already have some. He also says he wants to be married one day too. Im confused, cause dispite this, he doesnt want to take the intial steps to get to that point. Well atleast its not looking like its with me. Im so hurt, I feel used not woman enough for him and that hes probably running game or lying to me. The worst part is the past few days since ive been bringing up how im not liking this anymore and i deserve better and think i should leave hes been acting very strange. So i tried to renig the next day on what i said because of his behavior and not to mention it was new yrs. asnd i didnt want to bring in the yr with him like that. We talked on the phone and he explained again his feelings towards a relationship that i mentioned earlier. I mentioned ok and i wouldnt mention it to him again but he made me realize that bringing up how i felt was probably right and i should have stuck with my guns. He didnt return none of my text or calls that day and the next day. I then sent him a textb telling him that i should have stuck with wat i orignally said and that it was over. now hes been calling and texting me ever since untill today. I am very hurt that its had to come to this and i dont know what to do but i dont want to be like the woman ive been reading about this past three days that give up their hearts time body and everything to a man for yrs playing relationship and house and then he never makes things legitimate and the title of a real woman in his life. That is scary, and im scared to death but dont want to loose him either. SOMEONE HELP ME PLEASE!

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