Get Him Back By Changing This One Thing
If you’ve gone through a break up with your ex but still aren’t over him, you may be wondering, what can I change in order to get him back? In this article I will share the one secret that alone will help you get your ex back – guaranteed!
There is one and only thing that in itself will help you get your ex back – identify the main reason he left you, and fix the problem that caused him to leave you!
You may be saying, it’s easier said than done. What if you are completely oblivious as to why he left you?
If you are not sure what caused the break up, you can try talking to him. You can ask him in a non-threatening way if there was something that made him want a break up.
Be prepared that he might not be receptive to this kind of conversation. This is because when we break up with someone we expect them to react emotionally. We expect an awful reaction on their part. We know from experience that breaking up with the person who still wants us will trigger an awful feeling of rejection, and it hurts. Most people act emotionally to rejection. They might start crying, they might become angry and get into an argument or a fight.
We naturally try to avoid these negative consequences of breaking up with someone, and often we hide and disappear from their radar instead of confronting the other person and telling them why we think the break up in the best option. Typically we don’t expect them to act with emotional maturity, and thus we often avoid any explanation.
So, in order to get an explanation as to why your ex left you, you must fist show him that you have emotional maturity to handle this conversation.
Start off by saying that you respect their decision and that if they feel this way about the relationship then it’s for the best to end it. Tell them you agree with the break up, and that there is probably someone better out there for the both of you.
Tell the person that you are grateful that they informed you about the break up, and that knowing about it will help you cut all contact and start a new life without your ex in it.
If they are receptive to this conversation, tell them you want to know what caused the break up and if it was something you did or didn’t do. Tell them that you are only asking for your information so that you won’t repeat the same mistakes in the future with someone else.
Tell them you will be very appreciative if they let you know why they broke up with you, and if they choose not to inform you that you respect their decision either way.
You might be surprised at how willing to open up your ex will become.
When he knows you will handle his response with grace and dignity, he will want to let you know what caused the break up.
Once he tells you about the reasons for a break up, be sure you stand by your word and keep your promise to not overreact. Be sure you take his answer for its face value. Don’t argue with his reasoning. And definitely don’t try to prove him wrong.
He has formed an opinion about you during your relationship. Arguing and trying to prove him wrong will do no good at this time.
Take his answer with gratitude, because he has just given you something to work with. Now that you know what caused the break up you can work on resolving this issue by yourself.
Take your time and stay away from your ex for now. There will be a time when you will need to take action in order to pull him back to you, but first you will need to fix the issue that caused the break up in the first place.
The reason many people fail to get their ex’s back is that the issues that caused the break up in the first place never get resolved.
Before you attempt to get him back, work on yourself, and be sure that you are aware of the reasons he broke up with him by using these tips.