He Lied About His Age Is It a Deal Breaker
It’s easy to be dishonest in your dating profile and there are some folks who fully take advantage of the anonymity of the Internet dating.
Some of the biggest lies I have encountered on dating sites is exaggerating the height, embellishing the income, and lowering the age by as much as 10 years!
While body type is subjective, and what one perceives as athletic and toned appears to be big and beautiful to another, or slim to one can mean average to another, the age is really what it is – if he is born in 1965 that makes him 45 years of age, not 37 and not 42; forty five!
How hard is it to do the math?
It could be very frustrating to find out that the man you’ve been seeing in the hopes to marry him one day and have a bunch of kids together is in reality 52 and not 42 as you had hoped.
To me, if a guy is dishonest upfront, this is a serious red flag. If he lies about things like his age, to me it means he has no qualms about not being completely honest. Maybe to him it seems like a minor embellishment; to me it indicates that the person cannot be trusted. Even if he lies about his age by 3 or 2 years.
There are things you can do to minimize the potentially harmful effects of deception. For instance, prior to meeting in person you can request a picture of the driver’s license e-mailed to you to verify the age. If you have talked via e-mail and on the phone and got to know each other a little, you should not feel discomfort asking about a copy of the driver’s license. If he has nothing to hide he will not have any problems sending it to you.
Men understand that women are cautious on dating sites. If he’s got something to hide he will refuse, or even get pissed off at you. In this case you know you’ve just saved yourself time and simply move on.
In my book Find Your Future Husband I give you lots of great tips on how to do your own homework and investigate the truth about a man you meet on a dating site before you get too invested in him and to avoid potential heartbreak, so check it out Here>>>
Is it a deal breaker when you find out he’s lied about his age?
Can you forgive someone who’s lied to you once or does it mean to you that he is a pathological liar and that’s what’s expected going forward? Or will you dump a guy and not look back when you catch him?