He Likes You But Is Scared

September 10, 2011 by  
Filed under Dating Tips For Women

If you have read my emails from last week, you probably remember the story Is He Afraid Of Getting Hurt in which I share an email from one of my readers.
I wanted to hear from other readers of my blog before posting my response I sent to this woman via email.
In this article I want to share my initial response to her.

If you haven’t read the last week’s article, you can read it here.

And here is my response:

Hi Jessica,

It seems that he still is attracted to you, meaning that physical attraction is present.

However, as they say, once bitten twice shy. He asked you out and you rejected him. He doesn’t want to try again.

My advice would be to move on and find someone else. But this is probably not what YOU want.

You want THIS GUY back, and no one else, from what I am hearing in your email.

Getting back into guy’s good graces after rejecting him requires a lot of patience and sometimes a long time.

You’ve done your part by showing that you are still interested, but HIS issues are still there, and he won’t be too eager to jump right in with both feet once he’s been burned once.

Act friendly, and do not be pushy. I know you may want the straight answer whether it’s good or bad.

I don’t recommend putting him on the spot though. You both may end up in a very uncomfortable situation if you do.

But if you are prepared to handle the truth, even if it’s not pleasant, you can ask him in a casual conversation why he doesn’t ask you out and see what he says.

You can listen to his response and determine if he is being truthful or not.

Let me know if you have any follow-up questions.

I wish you all the best!

So, this was the email I sent to Jessica in response to her questions.

If anyone has something they want to add, or to share your experiences and advice, please leave a comment in the comment section down below!

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18 Responses to “He Likes You But Is Scared”
  1. empress says:

    I have that same situation except. My ex says he has no feelings for me i have pushed him away but i love him and have been pushing him Away i know i did it but i could not help it i wanted him back soo badly. To the point where i pushed him away he said he got a new girlfriend but i dont belive him.

  2. kris says:

    Im in the opposite position….my ex wants me back after burning me. Its hard to let go of the past hurt to have the ability to move forward with him…its always on the back of my mind that he will hurt me again. Everything worth having is worth the wait 🙂 Yall have a great night!!

  3. brendasstar says:

    We met a year ago, instant attraction for both of us. Problem- I am involved with someone else but there is no love (or sex)involved. We met a couple weeks later, it was hot and heavy, then he backed off- he said because of other guy. We continued to run into each other, I just can’t get him out of my mind and I told him this. We drifted apart. Then after a few months while I was out with the one I am involved with ( no love) he comes and sits down beside me while other guy goes to restroom. He runs his hands up my leg and talks of meeting later. We meet after 2 weeks and it was like being on fire,it was very intense, so much so I was left with bruises on my lips from his kisses. This has never happened to me before.Why would a guy kiss you hard enough to leave bruises???? Was he angry or what?

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  5. Zandi says:

    hey i read what you going through girl & i’m also going through the same thing but worse.I hope you sort it out & i don’t know you and all but can you live an Elaine’s Email address please.Best of luck to you

  6. Lolamarie says:

    I want my boyfriend back so bad but I will not call him no matter what. He says he likes me, thinks I’m wonderful and that I am his best friend, but I told him I cant be his best friend because I am in love with him. He says he csnt give me what I want and deserve better. Maybe so but i told him I would give up my crown as queen and be his pheasant girl for love. He has been married and hurt 4 times so this Wil not be an easy egg to crack I know. He is a good man that I know but after 16 months if taking things Sloooooow I finally ask him his feelings, if he has any but he won’t answer so we felt the best thing Yo do was To go our seperate ways cause he isn’t ready. I call it scared but nontheless he needs time to figure things out but if I meet someone in the meantime I am not waiting around but at the moment still love and pray that he will come to turns and want me back. Love can be so cold and lonely sometimes. Is it always this Confusing and tipsy turvy?
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  7. shiela name says:

    i have a lot of quedtion on my mind? why my boy he doesn
    t say i love you untill now we been going 1year nxt month. he always telling that he care for me a lot..so i really dnt know what kind of relationship we have?

  8. Denise says:

    Hi Elaine,

    This is my story and i hope you can tell me something as i am so in love with this man, i’m crying all the time and i cant seem to want anyone else.I met this man over two years ago. I took his taxi and we quarreled about the music that he played and he apologised and turned it off. The second time it was the same thing and i stopped taking his cab. After a while i started taking it again and he is always in a good mood.I realized that i was having some feeling for this man that i did not understand as my husband had walked out on me two years befor and i told myself that i was finished with men as they were too wicked.I needed a counter to be built in my kitchen in July of last year and when i took his cab one evening i asked him if didn’t know anyone who could build it for me and he said yes he could. He came to my house and looked and told me what i would need and ask when i wnat him to start. I told him the next day and he took me to order the sand etc. The next day he came and took me to the hardware and ordered the things i needed and carried them himself in his car. Long story short we started getting close and after a couple of months i felt that he was not giving enough of himself and i ended the relationship. For the following months i was devasted, i could not eat, sleep, stand to see him or hear of him. I cried all the time. A friend of mine told me to tell him how i feel and i told him and we started seeing each other again. Some of his attitudes has changed for the better but i cannot seem toget this man to spen as much time with me as before. We are quarreling these day about him having women (which i have never seen him with) or him saying i have men (which he has never seen me with). I dont know what to do and he is not saying anything as to why he cannot sleep over some nights. He has denied living with someone and even denied having any affair whatsoever.

    Please tell me what to do, if i should end the relationship again or what. I am nearly going crazy now and he even refuses to talk. I cant seem to be able to talk to another man.

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