He Says He Is Not Ready 3 Choices You Can Make When He Says He Is Not Ready
When a man you’ve been dating or even your serious boyfriend suddenly tells you that he has been thinking about your relationship and is now not sure if he is ready for the kind of a relationship you want or the kinds of relationship you deserve; or that he actually knows that he is not ready for a relationship, or anything serious; or that he just doesn’t want a relationship at the moment, or that he is just not ready to date after all, and many other excuses, you will more than likely be devastated and rightfully so.
You may be feeling lied to and mislead. And you are probably wondering, does it mean that all these great dates didn’t really mean anything? All the intense feelings and loving words; are they just fluff?
Unfortunately men do this often and say the exact same thing often; and the reason men say these dreadful words is because they get the vibe from you that you want something more which they are not willing to give you at this time.
What should you do?
There are three choices you can make.
First and the most often chosen by most women option is to stay in a relationship in a waiting mode hoping that it’s the time that he needs.
It’s actually pathetic that men who were the ones to push the relationship forward in the beginning now come up with excuses and even drop hints that they’ve heard somewhere or read somewhere that you need to spend at least a year with the person to decide if you even want a serious commitment with that person. Or two year; or whatever the case is in your situation; he’ll come up with something to justify his lack of commitment toward your relationship.
Ever wonder how that is? He was the one pushing forward and now he is discounting his promises by taking back what he had said.
Let me tell you; staying in a relationship that is uncertain hoping for it to change with time is a sure-fire way to get yourself nowhere in this relationship.
Trust me; because I have seen this happen to so many women. They patiently waited for years since hearing the ‘not ready’ excuse and they are still there in the waiting mode; and he is still not ready, even years later.
The second choice you have (and about ten percent women chose this option) is to tell him that if he is not ready she is ready for a relationship with someone else – anyone, the one who is ready for a relationship with her.
This is a plausible and honorable choice to make; and I am sure a lot of relationship coaches will give you kudos for this.
This is what you want to do, well, unless the guy you are with is the one you want and no one else!
This is where the hard part comes – you don’t want thousands of guys who want a serious relationship and want it now; you want this one guy!
This is where the option number three becomes available at your disposal; unfortunately most women don’t know there is an option three; but there sure is a way to stay with the same guy AND encourage him to take the relationship to the next level.