How Can I Get Him To Commit

April 12, 2012 by  
Filed under Commitment

If you have been with a man for months or even years but the marriage proposal isn’t on the horizon, you are probably asking a question, how can I get him to commit? You know your man is everything you’ve ever wanted in a husband, but for some unknown reason he is dragging his feet, and you want to know if there is anything you can do to get your man to commit to you.

Whether it’s committing to seeing only you, committing to the relationship, getting serious, or popping the question, you know you aren’t getting any younger, and your biological clock is ticking making you anxious to know whether there is a way you can gently push or even encourage your man to commit to you.

If the above describes your situation with your man you are in luck because in this article I want to answer your most burning questions about commitment, and how men view commitment. The most exciting news is that you can get a man to commit without nagging, without the serious talk, and without trickery by just learning the things about commitment that men don’t want you to know.

In this article I want to not only answer your question How do I get him to commit? in simple terms, but I will give you an overview of how men view commitment in a relationship.

First of all, men and women view commitment differently. It means different things to women than what it means to men.

Most often, women are looking for marriage commitment since the young age. Men, unlike women, are dedicated to achieving their primary purpose, which has nothing to do with marriage commitment.

A primary purpose for a man is the goal in life that he wants to achieve before anything else will take precedence.

If you understand what drives a man in life, he is much more likely to commit to you, because you are the kind of a woman who will help him in achieving his primary purpose.

Thus, in answering your question, how do I get him to commit? the first and foremost way to get a man to commit to you for a long term is to show him that you can be a supporter in his journey to achieving his purpose.

On the other hand, if you are the kind of person who in his opinion stands on his way of achieving his greater purpose, you are very likely to stay in a relationship that’s stalled forever. So, if you want to get your man to commit to you, the only thing you need to be most worried about is whether you are supporting your man’s goals in life or are standing on his way to achieving them.

No one but you will be able to answer this question. Men want different things in their partner, but they all want one thing – is the woman who stands by her man.

There is a saying, behind every great man there is a greater woman. If you can be that woman for your man, he will commit to you without ultimatums and serious talks.

He will be the one committed to you in his heart and in his mind.

What is your man’s greater purpose?

How can you support his greater purpose?

Do you know what he needs in order to achieve his primary purpose?

Feel free to leave your question about your man who is not committing in the comment section below and I will try to answer all of them!

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10 Responses to “How Can I Get Him To Commit”
  1. Maksa says:

    after a 3 years relationship with my ex and a happy valentine day! suddenly he pulled up and went on a date with a girl who was not a good one !!
    I asked him why u did like this? he just answered I’m sorry I didn’t think about what I was doing!! but I want to be just a casual friend with u too!
    after then I went on a death silence and ignored all his calls that day!
    Its been a week & nothing has happened,plz tell me what is a wise action? forget about it completely or can I do something new?
    I’m waiting 2 hear ur advice,thanks!

    • admin says:

      Please give more information for me to be able to evaluate your situation. You said you were in a relationship with your ex for three years. What happened after? Why do you say he is your ex? Does it mean you broke up at some point before? Do you mean that when he went out with a new girl after he stopped dating you? If so, when did you stop dating? Also, what was your relationship like? Was it a serious relationship? Did you live together or did you just date? Has he ever said that you two were in a serious relationship or were headed toward commitment? Or was it a casual in nature relationship?

      • Maksa says:

        yes it was serious,many times he told me we are going to marry!(may be he was cheating!I don’t know),many times he told me he wants us to having a future together,marriage kids and so on! but after valentine’s day he changed & every thing was getting cold for 1 month,finally he informed me that its time to break up but He wants me to be his casual friend too! I found that another woman was involved during that month(she works in his office!)
        so I accepted what he said & left him alone but told him casual friends is not needed cause a real friend doesn’t cheat!
        I’m so sorry for 3 years of my life that went on a cheat!! It was not fair I think !
        I waiting for ur advice:)

  2. Joe says:

    Hi admin terrific blog

  3. Belmira says:

    wow, nice article…keep sharing…

  4. Daniela says:

    i loved coming to your website, from now on i will be always coming back here to visit

  5. Belina says:

    Thanks for sharing your insight and I appreciate your advice.

    I believe that I have been too available for my man, he knows when he calls to see me I usually go with him.

    I am sure that he knows that I am confident but he is also sure of how I feel about him.

    I never smothered him, but I should also point it out to him if his attitude is not to my standards.

    I followed Rori Raye advice on sharing feeling messages with the man, that is why I sent those messages.

    I could tell that these just make me feel weak in his eyes, so he is sure if he goes away, I will wait for him.

    I feel alot of anger and resentment at the moment. The more I accept his bad behaviour the worse it will get.

    I do sense at times that he may be gone for good, yet other times I hope that he won’t. I shut off my cell phone anyway.

    I am taking time out.

    Do you think he will call? I hate to feel rejected and abandoned and I can deal with that when the time comes.

    Do you have any advice for me?

  6. Andressa says:

    I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years and no marriage talk.. I don’t want to bring it up but I want to know where our relationship is going… we have a great relationship, he doesn’t cheat, we do a lot of things together, he is great in every sense. I love him and I know he loves me too, but I want marriage and family in the near future. How do I make him propose to me? Is there a way I can talk to him about marriage and tell him how I feel about it. I have tried to drop hints of marriage in the past but he seems to ignore them like he doesnt know what I am talking about or why I talk about these things. But I never asked him about us directly. SHould i just ask him if he is going to ever marry me or propose to me. and what do I do if he says he is not going to commit to me? I love him and I dont want to lose him, but on the other hand, I want commitment and marriage. Please help me! Thajnks much

  7. Luciana says:

    hey great stuff, thank you for sharing this useful information.

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