How Men Decide You Are The One
If you have ever wondered how a man decides whether you are the one for him, read this article!
Perhaps you are dating a guy casually, but what you really want is to become his girlfriend. Or maybe you are already in a relationship but aren’t sure whether it’s headed towards commitment. This article will help you understand how men decide whether to take your relationship to the next level.
A man decides whether to have a serious relationship with a woman, and whether to commit to a particular woman for life logically. For that reason, he may be feeling very deeply in love with a woman, and still not be sure whether he wants to commit to her.
The way a man’s brain operates is very different from a woman’s brain, and when it comes to relationship decisions, it gets even more complicated.
But to make it easy to understand, imagine that a man’s is like a filing cabinet. When you first meet him, that filing cabinet is empty.
But the longer you date, the more events there are to log into that filing cabinet. Some of the events create positive experiences, some create negative experiences, and some create neutral experiences.
When you do something that a man feels good about, he associates these good feelings with you, thus a positive experience is logged into his filing cabinet.
When, on the other hand, there is a negative experience, that negative impression is logged into his filing cabinet as well.
Your man will most likely not tell you anything about the negative experience, and how he feels about it, but he will surely log it into his filing cabinet.
After dating for a while, he takes an inventory. He looks at the positive versus negative. And at that moment he decides whether he wants to move the relationship forward.
This process happens at every stage of the relationship – from the first date, till the wedding.
If a man feels good on a first date, he will ask you out for a second date. When a man feels good and positive about dating you, he will proceed to become your boyfriend. When the relationship feels good to him at all times, he will start thinking about committing to you for life.
Now, of course, that process has something to do with love and affection. But it also has to do a lot with compatibility.
When all three criteria – love, affection, and compatibility are present, this is when a man starts to feel you are the one for him!
But how do you create all three of these components?