How to Make Him Interested In What You Have to Say
Have you ever felt that you are trying to talk to your guy, but no matter what you say you feel like you are talking to the wall? If your man is not interested in what you say, you are not able to communicate with him effectively. And if you want to get your point across, and most importantly get results, you must learn how to communicate with him in a way that makes him take an interest in what you have to say, make him want to engage in a conversation and share his own thoughts and feelings.
Learning how to talk to your man to get through to him can be a challenging task, but with a little bit of guidance, it could be done.
We are here to help you understand and learn how to communicate with your man effectively.
It seems counterproductive to learn good listening skills first, but if you want to make sure your man listens to you and takes an interest in the topic of discussion, you must first give him the pleasure of being listened to.
When you listen to him, you acquire a good understanding of what he is interested in, and in the way he communicated his thoughts and feelings. Knowing his way of communication will give you a solid understanding of how he wants to be communicated to.
Active listening needs to be practiced. What this means, is that you don’t just keep silent when he is talking, you are actually receiving the information he is sharing.
Humans have strong filtering mechanisms when it comes to communication. When one person is talking, the other is filtering out irrelevant information and hears only what he or she wants to hear, while the point the speaker is trying to make is completely different.
As a result, we fail to understand each other’s message. Thus, we are not being effective in trying to resolve our issues.
When you are listening to your partner, remember to ensure that you are actually getting the message. If not clear on something he is saying, ask him, what do you mean by that? Be sure to understand the concept behind the words, and that he feels heard and understood. Only then you can request to be listened to and to be heard in return.
When your man knows he can count on you listening and making an effort to get his point, he will be willing to listen to you. He will take a much greater interest in what you saying when he knows that your communication is a two-way street.
We all want to feel that when we share our thoughts and feelings, the person we are sharing with is empathetic to us.
Don’t criticize or argue, or try to make a point that your man is wrong in this particular instance. When he opens up to you, he wants to feel that you are on his side. He certainly doesn’t want to be faced with arguments and accusations. All he wants is to be heard.
When you are empathetic with your man, he will feel that you are his true partner and a friend. He’ll stop fearing that whatever he says is going to be questioned and criticized. He will then become more open with you, as well as more interested in what you have to say in response.
When you need to bring something up to his attention, he will take a great interest in what you have to say once you establish a solid foundation of positive communication.
– Don’t Nag
Nagging is the cause of major problems in a relationship. You want your man to do something and you want it done yesterday. But he is still vegetating in front of the TV with a beer and chips. What can you do to make him move and get to work?
Nagging is not going to help. If anything, it will only make damage. Instead, start doing the things you need done yourself. Once he sees that you are trying to fix the sprinkler system, he’ll feel guilty to making you do the job. Just watch how fast he will rush to help you out.
Another reason why it’s so much easier to motivate a man to do things by doing them yourself is that once he sees that his woman is doing his job, he will fell emasculated and will be immediately compelled to change that. Every man wants to be viewed as the provider and protector, the strong one who knows how to fix things. When he sees that his weaker half is trying to do his job, he will immediately stop you from doing it and will do it himself.
Lastly, a man deep down always feels superior to a woman. If you do his job, he will be afraid that you will screw up. He may not be happy about you trying to do what needs to be done and even become grouchy, but in the end, he will start doing what you want him to do.
As you see, with the right communication tools you can get any man to do what you want. As the saying goes, the man is the head but the woman is the neck. Although your man may be in charge, it is your job to navigate in the relationship.
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