How To Make Sure You Are More Than Friends With Benefits
Have you been dating a guy for a while but aren’t sure how he feels about you?
Are you sleeping with a guy but aren’t sure where you stand with him and what this relationship means to him?
Read this article very carefully because after you have read it you will have a very clear picture of what your relationship is for him.
When you and your guy are soul mates you just know it and you don’t question it.
If he takes care of you when you are sick and buys you your favorite ice-cream flavor when you have had a bad day at work you know he is in love with you.
When he turns down a night with the boys to cuddle on the couch and hang out with you know he is special.
When you can share your bed with him and feel like you have had the best night’s sleep ever you know it can last.
When you wake up next to him and smile at the sight of him lying beside you.
If he tells you, “You look amazing” while you are in your pajamas and have no makeup on he is for keeps.
If you aren’t sure he is all these things for you, you are probably making excuses for him.
You should not have to make excuses for anyone, especially for the man who is supposed to be closest to you.
Recently I have been asked a lot of questions about this subject.
Well here is the situation: you are in a relationship with a guy you really like. He starts behaving differently, missing dates and not calling so often.
Well to protect this man you love so much from the other people in your lives (friends and family) you make excuses; it starts with minor white lies.
He was supposed to take you to the movies, but cancels at the last minute without a reason. You just tell your friends he wasn’t feeling well.
Next, he doesn’t call you for a week. You tell your friends he is having commitment issues and he is scared. He is seen out with another girl and you tell people she is just a friend from work.
You are putting on a brave face but we all know how it feels to be hurting. The worst part is you are keeping all of that pain inside and that starts to damage you self-esteem.
Your friends will start catching on to these excuses and asking you about them, asking what he is doing and that maybe just maybe he is not the great guy he is. However, you’ve spent so long making excuses; you almost have started to believe them yourself.
Then comes the defense stage. As soon as your good friends start saying bad things about that guy you love, you suddenly start to defend everything he does and almost alienate your friends from your life.
Remember girls, a friend will go through it all with you as long as you let them. A good friend won’t judge you, but try to give you advice. Their advice will be from the outside of the relationship and sometimes that’s exactly what you need to have a clearer view.
If you feel you need to make excuses for the man you love, it probably means his actions are not what you expect out of a relationship and therefore you should not be putting up with them.
Instead of ignoring your friends and family’s advice or even hiding your guy’s actions from these people, it’s time to listen and take action to change your relationship to be the kind of relationship you deserve!
So stop making excuses for him, accept the fact that your relationship is not exactly what you want it to be, and start making changes.
Trying to force your opinions on him will just push him further away from you and further into the arms of another woman. If you want to get the life-long love and commitment you desire more than anything with the man you’ve always dreamed about, it’s time to turn the tables around and to actively build the relationship you want for yourself!
On this page I teach you how to ensure your man develops a life-long emotional attachment for you that goes well beyond simple lust, how to get your dream man to commit to you and stay with you forever by simply understanding the basics of commitment and nurturing a relationship that lays a solid foundation for commitment and marriage!