My Boyfriend Wants Me To Lose Weight
July 22, 2010 by admin
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Hi Elaine,
My boyfriend told me lose weight. I feel very hurt and don’t know how to react. The problem is that he is a good guy and he tells me he doesn’t want to hurt me, but I can tell that since I started gaining weight in the past six months he is not as attracted to me as much anymore. He tells me I am wonderful and beautiful, and he really wants to be in a relationship with me but he feels that me gaining weight has taken a toll on our relationship.
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He is a photographer and he photographs models for magazines. He says that physical beauty if important to him because he is very visual and even though he knows it’s shallow he can’t help it because this is what he is attracted to.
But I still feel very hurt and rejected. I don’t want to break up with him because we have a good loving relationship, but I don’t know what to tell him, and how to respond. I am not fat but not model-skinny either.
I don’t know how to react to this. He feels guilty for telling me this but he says that it’s better to be honest and not hide how he feels about this because we have open communication. One part of me is glad he is open with me because it would be much worse if he didn’t tell me how he feels about this issue and instead started cheating with someone skinnier.
What should I do? I want to know if there is anyone else who has experienced this problem with a boyfriend or a husband, and how they solved this.
Thanks
Maria
Hi Maria,
How do YOU feel about your weight? Do YOU want to lose weight? This is what it really comes down to. Listen, if you are happy with your appearance you should not alter who you are and what makes you happy. However, you need to ask yourself if this is the kind of sacrifice you are willing to make for your boyfriend to be happy, and how this will reflect on your relationship. There is a bigger issue behind the question of losing weight; your boyfriend may feel that you don’t respect him and his wishes, and that you are not willing to do your part in a relationship to make it work.
Do you feel that your boyfriend’s request is unreasonable? Or do you feel that you NEED to lose weight?
One of the reasons men drift away from a relationship is the loss of physical attraction. As I explain in my book Guide To Commitment, physical attraction and chemistry is a paramount ingredient of a healthy relationship. It is not the only thing that needs to be present in a relationship, but one of them; a very important one. You need to decide how YOU can balance being who you are and pleasing your boyfriend. If being yourself is incompatible with being in a relationship you should decide what’s more important to you – your authenticity or your relationship. That’s a decision YOU need to make.
Elaine
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Have to admit I have not read the full story – mainly Elaine’s reaction. I have had a overweight boyfriend, and would have loved him to be some slimmer, to be more attracted. In the end though, I would marry him, love him for life, and so on, even if he had not lost weight. I was very hesitant to tell him, but I felt I had to as the attraction might be lost otherwise, or the honesty. At the same time, I was actually aware that it was probably mostly my own insecurity and/or other sex issues, as honestly, when you can look into two beautiful pairs of eyes and a radiant smile, have all the love you wish for as well as lots of fun – weight does not, should not, matter. Hope this helps.
Hi,
It is terribly painful to have your man not attracted to you anymore, or have the attraction you need from a man coming very ‘conditional’
In my opinion, if you love your boyfriend and want to lose weight for yourself and think you can do this – go for it and have his support with you, until, when you feel better and look better, the celebration of mutual attraction will be a ‘prize’.
If you speak openly and tell him you need his love and friendship and support in becoming that attractive woman you were when you met and think constructively together, and that you accept his being attracted only to certain type of appearance – maybe this could work.
There can be a problem if his standarts are completely out of touch with reality – for example, when you get older and so on.
The alternative is to break up and find a man who is attracted to you even when you gain weight.
I call this ‘sexual compatibility’.
That is unless your boyfriend is willing to try and change his sexual attitudes – but it is possible that he just can’t.
sometimes looking good is not purely for ourselves.. if we love the other person, we also take his comments and feelings into consideration.. if losing weight is a request to him and sounds reasonable to you and it is something we can try and do about it, why not just show him your effort in losing weight?
his request has to be realistic though… if you are not model skinny and never can be one and he expect you to be one, it is just too hard work and painful to stay with someone who constantly criticise you and make you feel demoralised… dump him… … he could be in love with the idea of love and in the first place, how can he ever feel completely satisfied with you if his dream girl is a model skinny figure and he hasnt grown out of his boy dream?
if you try and show him you respect his wishes and do something about it and it doesnt make you drop weight to his ideal, at least he knows you bother to do something about it and he could be pleased with your trial… if you insist to stay the way you are thinking and refuse to do anything even though the truth is you have indeed put on some weight, it just show you didnt care about your own body and have give up hope and give way to the negative circumstances…
afterall, if you manage to lose weight and the relationship still breaks up one day, you still walk off with a confidence body and held your head high and not blame it to the fact that he dumped you beause you are fat and feel even more depressed and sorry about yourself…
looking good on your body is always a win win situation, isnt it, if not for him, but for yourself..
Would you like to lose your weight?
Tell your boyfriend to take a hike. There are way too many overweight women no where near ready to enter any beauty contest who are either dating or married to great, nice, respectable and even very handsome men who absolutely love them for who and what they are. The underlying notion to his request is either he’s truly not happy with himself and putting the blame of that responsibility on someone else (you) and/or will have something else to gripe and complain about even if you did lose weight. Tell him to love you “As-Is” or move the heck on and this is not coming from someone with a weight problem.
The advice above is a prime example of how to utterly fail at relationships.
For those of us with good manners and high standards like myself, we all know that men are wonderful visual creatures, where as us women are initially captivated by a man’s status.
1st step is to substantially cement the reality that natural attraction occurs this way for men and women. And 2nd, decide if you like being bigger or not. If your happy being bigger then it’s in your best interest to align with a partner who enjoys bigger women. Or if you want and are determined to lose weight then there’s no point in breaking up since he’s such a great hubby to you besides, he’ll likely make love to you harder and better.
Unless you desire a life of loneliness and depression, then take Gina’s advice.
I think it is good that he was honest with her, about his feelings. Now she needs to decide if she wants to do this or not. She says she is not fat.
One thing I have encountered alot, men can be overweight,(sometimes to the extreme) but they seem to think that they are still *Hot*. I have known guys 50 + pounds overweight, who will not date a woman unless she is slim and trim.
When my “boyfriend” (and I use the term lightly) told me it looks like I’ve gained a few pounds and wanted to know if I was depressed, I told him to go fu** himself and that although I know I needed to lose a few pounds (and by that I mean 5-7 lbs at most) I was generally happy with the way I looked. Keep in mind I’m 5’3″ and a size 4, and am still a size 4; and think I look pretty damn good for a 44 yo woman who most people think is still in the mid-30′s. He will pinch my sides or touch my stomach and make comments such as “I want my old girl back”. All I’m thinking is “are you kidding me?” … But it gets better…if he sees me reaching for food to nibble on such as cheese, he will grab it out of my hands. Actually while I’m typing this, I’m realizing what a major ass he is. I love how when (insecure) men meet a confident, vibrant woman they will stop at nothing at trying to knock her down.
I will let me know that I’m going to lose a lot of weight … about 175 lbs to be exact.
Good for You! Don’t settle for less!
I ran into the Val’s so called “problem” a few days ago. This weight issue is just another form of verbal abuse and control from a very insecure man. I’ve been in and out of this verbally abusive relationship (which once got physical) for almost 3 years. I’m finally seeking therapy to help me make the decision to dump him for good. Its very difficult, especially if there is genuine (albeit occasional) caring between the parties involved.
I had gained the proverbial 5 lbs after the holiday season. My “boyfriend” said he’d prefer me to be thinner ( I’m an athletic age 60, 5’7, 145 lbs, large boned, a size 8). He even went on to say that if I gained 5 more lbs he’d have some serious things to say. That evening for dinner he ate only half a small pork chop, saying he wasn’t hungry. I know it was a ploy to make me eat less! How ridiculous is that?
I am a successful, highly educated, independent, financially secure woman with a great social network of friends and many outside interests. I am also considered to be reasonably attractive for my age. In addition to being a few pounds heavier, this man complains about the time allocated to hobbies and most outside interests not related to him. My message to anyone’s significant other who complains about a few extra pounds is that you are destined for worse. You will be entrapped like me and experience some serious psychological damage from this person. Before this “relationship” I was a stronger woman, in much better charge of my actions. Get out NOW or else you’ll be hundreds of dollars poorer from all the therapy you may need!
Maria,
As Elaine has stated, being your authentic self is very important. If U want to lose the weight & would have done on your own, go girl. Otherwise, your boyfriend may consider himself honest for voicing his concerns to you; however he is also somewhat superficial. Modelling is a very superficial field as we all know. The photos are of anorexic looking females & the photos are touched up. We would never recognize the woman if we ran into her on the street.
My concern from personal experience is, how would he react if you had a major illness & became disabled??? If U came home to tell him you had breast cancer, would that be a turnoff to him? Read Betty Rollins book, First You Cry. She thought she had a great marriage until she got breast cancer & her husband could not look at her anymore, make love to her & left.
You don’t tell what weight you are dealing with, so we don’t know whether you are slim & have gained a few lbs or getting heavier as time goes on which is a concern for him. He may be concerned about your health too?? Only you can ask him that.
Best of luck.
My now ex-husband, at year 3 of our 11 year marriage told me that he was afraid that if I got fat, he’d cheat on me. I was 24 and had gained weight since we’d gotten married – I had ballooned to 200 pounds (due to birth control and cessation of all the athletic activities I did when I was single).
At the time, I told him that I couldn’t lose weight for him, and I wouldn’t do it for him. When I was ready, I would lose the weight because I wanted to. When I graduated college (about 6 months later), I started seeing a dietician and working out. Over the next year and a half, I lost 60 pounds.
I also told him that the only person who could choose whether to remain faithful or cheat was him – it had nothing to do with my weight. What I didn’t realize (until years later when I was going to counseling for my divorce), is that the reason I found myself hiding food from him was the same reason he would tell me I was lazy in order to get me to clean the house: He was controlling and emotionally abusive.
All in all, I lost the weight for me, and learned how to eat in the process. I learned how important nutrition is and have continued to make eating right and exercise a part of my lifestyle. And I’m much happier without him in my life.
Hi JB,
Your story really got to me. I am currently in a 3 year relationship and we live together. When I first started dating my boyfriend I was not completely slim, since I have never been the skinny type, but slimmer than I am now. I have gained about 20 pounds since I have been with him. I am not blamming him for my weight gain, but due to his drug addiction I became really depressed and relied on food for comfort. Since I was 12 I went on diets and would work out. I have to admitt that my workout routines are not consistent, but I do know when I am gaining weight and will diet and work out when I gain a few pounds. My boyfriend has always complaint about my eating habits and workout schedule, but lately it has been a lot more. He told me that it really bothers him that I do not keep a consistent work out schedule. Today, I looked through his web history and he was looking at a website that stated “what to do if your wife is getting fat”. It really hurt me and I am currently re-considering our relationship. I am not sure that I want to marry someone like him. I am really hurt. Not only does he criticize my workout habits, but also my eating habits (although, I make an effort to cook healthy for us) and what I watch on television. He has stated that I am lazy and do no physical activity. When in fact,I have a full time job and do most of the chores and errands at home. He states that my job is more flexible and that I do not have commute like he does. He is also a clean freak and freaks out even if I leave a coffee cup out for a few hours. It has turned out to be a hard situation for me. I am debating if I should stay with him or leave this relationship now. Currently, I started to work out and to diet, not for him, but for me. In fact, I tried to hide it from him, because I didn’t want him to think that I was doing it for him. I am debating if I should stay with him or leave this relationship now.It really hurts, because I really thought he was the man I was going to marry.
Point being made………if you marry someone you dont in turn divorce them because they’ve gained or loss weight because it no longer coincides with your physical expectations of what they should look like to appease you. How vain and shallow can you get. If you cant indefinitely love someone “As-Is” then you should never go beyond girl/boyfriend mode. Marriage would be out of the question for those reasons.
I am in the exact same situation. I think we need to accept that men are socialised to focus on the physical. If he’s trying to express his needs rationally, then I think he’s doing his best. My personal choice is to lose weight to the extent that I move into the healthy weight range for my height, accoridng to my BMI. It’s not sensible to be underweight for any man, but it isn’t good for my health or wellbeing to be overweight, so I am prepared to give it a good shot. Good luck Maria with whatever you decide.
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My hubby pesters me about my weight all the time…even if it’s just to make sure I stay at my target. It used to really hurt my feelings and I’d let him know it. Eventually I understood that he was just looking out for the long term; both of our relationship, and my health. As a result, I still look and feel great, and now I get to pester him about the same thing when necessary. No paunch in this relationship!
Dear Elaine, he is love you very much. your weight his say beacause heavy weigh ill all time his not walking long way nervas, and 40 age after every human very diffarent sick (diabitise, sugar, boby pen etc.) .that reasen he said you lose your weight, because your helth fit your allway happy & fun . you happy your boyfriend happy.
ok your little fridends say somethig please do not feel your mind.Rangela.
I have the opposite problem. I initiated the weight loss.
He now begs me to put on some weight.
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SHAME SHAME SHAME ON YOUR BOYFRIEND!!!!! Let me ask you? I know unconditional love is something that is hard to find but everyone gets older. It’s harder to lose weight as you do. Everyone starts looking older. We all age and get wrinkles. What if you get into an accident and lose a limb? Will he be there then? I think not, if he is going to not be attracted to you because you gained a few extra pounds. You need to find a man that is not going to be so critical, that will always be loving and supportive of you no matter what happens. Besides it now will always be in the back of your head that he is not attracted to you.
Ha ha this stuff is why your guys are in my bed. Most women just don’t get it man, I swear.
Karma is going to bite you in the a$$. You don’t get it, I swear.
I know it’s been a year almost to this day that you posted this comment, but I truly hope you have changed. Otherwise, hear this: if “our” guys are in “your” bed, this means that you are the flavor of the day and you are not worth anything more. Good for you for your good looks I suppose, if it floats your boat. I am considered to be a very attractive woman, but I would NEVER EVER think or say such things. Karma WILL get you. That is a FACT. I pitty you.
You’re a dumb a$$. You can’t get your own man so you got to TRY and take someone else’s? Please chic.. get over yourself. A man is a MAN at the end of the day. If you’re willing to put out, he’s going to take it whether you look like Miss Piggy or Ms. America.. There’s nothing special about you.. You put out so they take it.. end of story. Good luck and make sure you have google handy to locate your nearest STD clinic.
You know what? I can see both sides of this..
I myself am in the same situation. My husband constantly tells me that he would like me to commit to becoming “fit” and dropping some weight. At first, I took it personal and thought that he just wanted to change everything about me, etc. But then I looked in the mirror and realized… Hey I really CAN stand to lose a few pounds. I know he doesn’t love me any less. But fitness is really important to him as he is very fit himself. He’s never mean about it. And I know he finds me attractive.
To the ladies… If you find yourself in this position, just take what your partner is saying and see why he may be saying it. Us women are very quick to say – if he loves me, he will love me how I am. But WHAT IF, you are unhealthy? What if, you have high cholestrol? Or your family is at risk for Diabetes, or heart disease etc. These are all things that your weight can effect. Secondly, (more importanly rather) make changes primarly for you. Your partner will more than likely benefit from it but you should do it for YOU. Think about how much more confident you will feel about YOURSELF. Yes, your spouse should love you exactly the way you are. But who said they don’t?…
FLIP SIDE..
To the men… as a woman, what helps me see my spouses point of view is that he helps me to understand that he REALLY does find me attractive and he REALLY does love me – even while I am overweight. Some men are very mean about this topic because yes, they are SHALLOW. Why should any woman oblige a request of a man who is like this? Now, if you want to SUPPORT a change that your partner wants to make, GREAT! But the last thing you need to do is to Beat her over the head with the fact that she may be overweight. Believe me, WE DO KNOW if we are. A mild suggestion is okay. But to INSIST that we make this change to satisfy your need to see someone thinner is extremely selfish.
I firmly believe that it’s okay for a man to suggest to his woman that she can lose a few pounds – but its ALL ABOUT THE DELIVERY and how you make her feel as your WOMAN afterwards that makes the difference… If you make her feel that she cannot make you happy unless she is slimmer, then chances are you don’t deserve her anyway. BUT if you make her feel that you love her and you ARE attracted to her but SHE would benefit from losing a few pounds, then you are on the right track…
It’s all about how you make her feel as your woman because remember…. there is always someone out there that will adore her – overweight or not
Well this has been a hot topic around my house lately. I DO need to lose weight. I am 5’2″ and weigh over 200lbs. I am Type 2 Diabetic–I NEED to lose weight. I am engaged to a wonderful, WONDERFUL man who (in my heart) I know loves me. He has mentioned me losing weight on several occasions. He started off saying it was b/c he wanted me healthy. We recently set a wedding date and he has actually given a number to shoot for. My feelings are SO hurt b/c I love him. He looks great physically, but could stand to lose a couple of inches around his midsection. But I would NEVER say that o him b/c I know he would be very sensitive about it. I am stuck between wanting to lose the weight b/c I NEED to and I would love to be thinnner, but not wanting to even try b/c I don’t want to give him the pleasure of ‘making’ me do it. I’m trying very hard to get over the hurt feelings and just make the changes….
Hi Felicia –
I understand how you feel. However, in your case, its SO not about him. You are Type 2 Diabetic. Your healthy is at stake here. He is secondary to that. Do what you need to do to be healthy. And honestly, if you feel like he needs to shed a few pounds, then why not tell him? It’s always about a better, HEALTHIER you. Picture yourself feeling better, looking great and having your Diabetes in CHECK!
Yah, my BF is overweight. I told him to get a personal trainer or I wouldn’t commit to him. He’s not a little overweight, he’s quite overweight ! Its bad for his health, but I’d be lying if I didn’t say its mostly b.c. I want to be more attracted to him. He’s a handsome guy, just needs to lose 40 pounds and tone up, then he’d be like so hot !
Honestly though, if he doesn’t lose the weight, I won’t commit and will move on. Its not being shallow just realistic. I’m fit, I want someone who’s fit also. Physical attraction is important in a relationship. I can deal with a little extra fat, but he’s excessive. And if he can’t shape himself up at 27, there’ no hope for him when he hits his mid 30′s if we marry. He has to get good at staying in shape !
My boyfriend also commented on my tummy that is obviously needed some sit ups to do. But he said it in a nice way by saying, he doesn’t mind if I gained weight anyways his love for me will never changed, he suggested it for my own benefit for myself to look feeling good and healthy. It was sweet of him.
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if my girlfriend starts out thin and curvy in all the right places and really looks hot in a bikini, then later starts looking chubby, that tells me she does not care about our relationship any more. Sorry, shallow as it may seem, that’s the message i get i find it much more passionate to go down on my babe when she is thin and curvy, than when she has a spare tire and chubby. she’s telling me basicly that she does not care about her body or how it looks anymore. So why would I want to feel any physical attraction for her. Sorry i simply can not go down on a chubby girl, let alone anything else. i would be more than happy to take a hike, a long one at that.
You should stay sat the weight he met you at, that is what he likes, what he signed-up for. If you can’t do that then you won’t be able to hold him in the long term as he won’t be physically attracted to you, as a woman I’d be the same way about a man’s weight. it’s a sexual relationship and so physical attraction is very important.
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Hello, I am 21. I weigh 60 kilos, and my height is 1.66 meters. I lost 5-6 kilos this summer. My boyfriend was happy about it, but now he says ‘lose more, you started to gain again’ however I didn’t gain any weight back. Next time he tells me to lose weight, I’ll just tell him that he gotta love me this way and I will lose weight when I want, not he wants. I think I am healthy and my weight is OK. But I feel very hurt and depressed..
I realize that physical attraction is important BUT, when two people are in love attraction should go way deeper then the outward. I am attracted to my fiance’s mind, character, voice, skin, eyes, lips, heart, etc. He has a bit of a belly now that he didn’t have before .. he complains of it but doesn’t do anything about it .. but I love him for him. The only time I would say something about his weight is if it was hurting his health. Period.
When I met my now fiance I was overweight. He loved my curves (his words) and never said anything about my chub. Actually, as I recall he couldn’t keep his hands off me. It was me who was very insecure with my body and he saw that and would tell me ‘lose weight if you want to lose weight’. And I did. It took over 2 years because I did it slow but now he asks me not to lose anymore. He doesn’t want me to lose my curves.
My best friend is overweight. Her man just adores her and is always telling her how hot she is.
My mom is overweight. My dad is just as in love with her as the day he married her when she was underweight. He is concerned with her health though.
Ladies, a real man will love you no matter what. I don’t care what some of the insecure bast@rds on here are saying. I have real-life examples of men who are genuinely good men. If you want to lose weight for you, then fine. But it shouldn’t be for anyone else. I’d say, dump the sorry loser and find someone who is into you regardless. Beauty is so much more then skin deep.
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every one my name is melanie jenkie and i have been married for 4years and i have a break up with my husband 3months ago and i was worried and so confuse because i love him so much. i was really going too depressed and a friend directed me to this spell caster and i made all my problems known to him and he told me not to worry that he was going to make my husband to come back to me and in just 48hours i receive a call from my husband and he was appealing that i come back to the house.
i have never in my life believe in spell and but now it have just helped me and i am now so happy.
I was recently told by my boyfriend that I need to lose weight. After being my best friend for 9 months, he finally asked me out. This guy I love and adore, and has done many wonderful things for me, but in all the time we’ve been dating we have not had sex yet. The reason for this, is that he said he wasn’t physically attracted to me, and if I lost weight, it would be better and he would more than likely have sex with me. So recently, I’ve been marking down everything that I eat, only eating healthy things, and working out a lot. He and I have both noticed that I’m considerably slimmer, and he’s been more attracted to me and more affectionate. I love this man to death, and would do anything for him. Of all the millions of things he’s done for me, I think me losing weight for me,and for him, is ok. But at the same time, it stings a bit. He’s gained a lot of weight, but I’m fine with it. In fact, I used to weigh over 152 Ibs, and am now down to 212, and still losing. My ideal is 175, and its slowely getting there. Is what he asking reasonable??
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I’m currently dealing with this exact thing.
I lost 30kg’s 3 years ago. Haven’t put anything on since then so it’s all been good. However I met my boyfriend straight after I had lost all the weight so he doesn’t really know what I went through. He is very active, he wants me to go to gym with him so I can loose my tummy (which is not exactly HUGE?!) and I felt hurt, unappreciated and ugly. So I decided to break up. As no matter how much I cry and bitch and moan he still kept bringing it up and getting angry when I don’t join him at the gym. I do go to gym around 2 or 3 times a week but he insists we do it 5 days.
I read this and thought damn… if something is worth fighting for, isn’t someone worth going to the gym for too? Just a thought that poped into my mind. I think he is
Now I very much regret my decision. Of course there are 2 people. Who both deserve to be happy. At least I know he isn’t looking for love elsewhere, he just wants me, to be perfect for him… food for thought!
My boyfriend wants to lose fat and up his muscle – any ideas?
Before finding this site I had tried just about every website on the internet that had anything to do with relationship advice, my life was in turmoil and I needed help, but there was no help to be found where I was looking, and then one day out of the blue a friend of mine called me and she told me of this website, she knew about my endeavors to get my husband back and to improve my relationship, the fact that it had successfully brought her and her guy back together made my decision to work with a whole lot easier. I just wanted you to know that your hard work and verbal foot in my butt has paid off, Hector and I are back together and we are better than we were ever before, I thank you from the bottom of my heart and if you ever make it to Canada you have a place to stay.
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My boyfriend and I have been together for over two years. We first met in college and used to have sex consistantly. The first time I noticed a significant decrease in our sex life we were arguing a lot, and I found out he had been flirting with girls at his job and getting their numbers.. He claimed he never cheated on me, but I still broke up with him because I felt betrayed.Even after the break-up we were still best friends and talked every day. We ended up getting back together three months later vowing we would both give it our all this time around. 5 months later..(present day)I we have been again..arguing about our sex life..or lack thereof. I am still very sexually attracted to my boyfriend (well I don’t know our status as of this exact moment) but he shows no interest in having sex with me. When I confronted him the first time he said it was because we spent every day, 24/7/365 together so he doesn’t get space that gives him that “Miss U Factor”. Recently (today) he said that I’ve gained a few pounds (litterly 5-7lbs) and that he is no longer physically attracted to me and that he doesn’t have that “passion” for me anymore, but he also says he loves me and still wants to be with me and make it work. That leaves me CONFUSED AS HELL. A sexless, passionless life? How does that even work? So..I told him to get his shit and get the hell out of the apartment. At this point I’m VERY VERY CONFUSED. I don’t know if I overreacted. Should I have just been happy with the fact that he loves me and still wants to make it work? or does that just mean we have came to the end of the road that once was us?? (F.Y.I he doesn’t get girls’ numbers anymore)so I’m not sure what the issue is. Do I loose weight to please him and make him physically attracted to me again? (It’s not like I look that much different than when we first met at all) or do I…move onto the next one?
I want to thank you. After 4 days my ex-boyfriend of two years came back in tears. I read your articles and books, maintained a strong faith that we could be together. I was prepared to lose him forever if that’s what it took. I am a better girlfriend and he is a better boyfriend. I guess that despite the break-up pain, it had to happen to make things better for the future. I am so very happy with the outcome and I want to congratulate you on the excellence of your work. Thanks a lot again, D.
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Dear friends, i had a problem with my girl friend 2year ago, which lead to our broke up. when she broke up with me, i was not my self again, i fill so empty inside me. until a friend of my Walt pen told me about a spell caster who helped him in the same problem too. i email the spell caster and i told him my problem and i did what he asked of me, to cut the long story short. before i knew what was happening my girl friend gave me a call and told me that she was coming back to me and was so joyous to have her back to me. we have two kids together and we are happy with our selves. thanks for saving my relationship and for also saving others own too. continue your good work the great spell caster.
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