Comments on: My Boyfriend Wants Me To Lose Weight http://commitment-relationship.com/my-boyfriend-wants-me-to-lose-weight/ Commitment Advice, Relationship Advice, How To Make a Man Commit Mon, 14 May 2012 06:10:28 -0700 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 By: RETA http://commitment-relationship.com/my-boyfriend-wants-me-to-lose-weight/comment-page-1/#comment-1301 RETA Wed, 09 May 2012 02:20:33 +0000 http://commitment-relationship.com/?p=201#comment-1301 Hi JB, Your story really got to me. I am currently in a 3 year relationship and we live together. When I first started dating my boyfriend I was not completely slim, since I have never been the skinny type, but slimmer than I am now. I have gained about 20 pounds since I have been with him. I am not blamming him for my weight gain, but due to his drug addiction I became really depressed and relied on food for comfort. Since I was 12 I went on diets and would work out. I have to admitt that my workout routines are not consistent, but I do know when I am gaining weight and will diet and work out when I gain a few pounds. My boyfriend has always complaint about my eating habits and workout schedule, but lately it has been a lot more. He told me that it really bothers him that I do not keep a consistent work out schedule. Today, I looked through his web history and he was looking at a website that stated "what to do if your wife is getting fat". It really hurt me and I am currently re-considering our relationship. I am not sure that I want to marry someone like him. I am really hurt. Not only does he criticize my workout habits, but also my eating habits (although, I make an effort to cook healthy for us) and what I watch on television. He has stated that I am lazy and do no physical activity. When in fact,I have a full time job and do most of the chores and errands at home. He states that my job is more flexible and that I do not have commute like he does. He is also a clean freak and freaks out even if I leave a coffee cup out for a few hours. It has turned out to be a hard situation for me. I am debating if I should stay with him or leave this relationship now. Currently, I started to work out and to diet, not for him, but for me. In fact, I tried to hide it from him, because I didn't want him to think that I was doing it for him. I am debating if I should stay with him or leave this relationship now.It really hurts, because I really thought he was the man I was going to marry. Hi JB,

Your story really got to me. I am currently in a 3 year relationship and we live together. When I first started dating my boyfriend I was not completely slim, since I have never been the skinny type, but slimmer than I am now. I have gained about 20 pounds since I have been with him. I am not blamming him for my weight gain, but due to his drug addiction I became really depressed and relied on food for comfort. Since I was 12 I went on diets and would work out. I have to admitt that my workout routines are not consistent, but I do know when I am gaining weight and will diet and work out when I gain a few pounds. My boyfriend has always complaint about my eating habits and workout schedule, but lately it has been a lot more. He told me that it really bothers him that I do not keep a consistent work out schedule. Today, I looked through his web history and he was looking at a website that stated “what to do if your wife is getting fat”. It really hurt me and I am currently re-considering our relationship. I am not sure that I want to marry someone like him. I am really hurt. Not only does he criticize my workout habits, but also my eating habits (although, I make an effort to cook healthy for us) and what I watch on television. He has stated that I am lazy and do no physical activity. When in fact,I have a full time job and do most of the chores and errands at home. He states that my job is more flexible and that I do not have commute like he does. He is also a clean freak and freaks out even if I leave a coffee cup out for a few hours. It has turned out to be a hard situation for me. I am debating if I should stay with him or leave this relationship now. Currently, I started to work out and to diet, not for him, but for me. In fact, I tried to hide it from him, because I didn’t want him to think that I was doing it for him. I am debating if I should stay with him or leave this relationship now.It really hurts, because I really thought he was the man I was going to marry.

]]> By: Realist78 http://commitment-relationship.com/my-boyfriend-wants-me-to-lose-weight/comment-page-1/#comment-1152 Realist78 Mon, 26 Mar 2012 19:16:20 +0000 http://commitment-relationship.com/?p=201#comment-1152 The advice above is a prime example of how to utterly fail at relationships. For those of us with good manners and high standards like myself, we all know that men are wonderful visual creatures, where as us women are initially captivated by a man's status. 1st step is to substantially cement the reality that natural attraction occurs this way for men and women. And 2nd, decide if you like being bigger or not. If your happy being bigger then it's in your best interest to align with a partner who enjoys bigger women. Or if you want and are determined to lose weight then there's no point in breaking up since he's such a great hubby to you besides, he'll likely make love to you harder and better. Unless you desire a life of loneliness and depression, then take Gina's advice. The advice above is a prime example of how to utterly fail at relationships.
For those of us with good manners and high standards like myself, we all know that men are wonderful visual creatures, where as us women are initially captivated by a man’s status.
1st step is to substantially cement the reality that natural attraction occurs this way for men and women. And 2nd, decide if you like being bigger or not. If your happy being bigger then it’s in your best interest to align with a partner who enjoys bigger women. Or if you want and are determined to lose weight then there’s no point in breaking up since he’s such a great hubby to you besides, he’ll likely make love to you harder and better.
Unless you desire a life of loneliness and depression, then take Gina’s advice.

]]> By: Lisa Morgan http://commitment-relationship.com/my-boyfriend-wants-me-to-lose-weight/comment-page-2/#comment-1148 Lisa Morgan Wed, 21 Mar 2012 13:19:49 +0000 http://commitment-relationship.com/?p=201#comment-1148 I have been dating a man for 3 years who talks about how other women appear to him. It's not always good. He will look at someone on t.v. and say things like, she's not aging well or she's the skinny/fat. He'll say things like, she has a great body but her face is not pretty. Most of the time I don't see what he means. He's very visual to the point of the things that he mentions about the other women makes me feel that I'm not up to his standards. He's never mentioned a future with me. I don't bring it up either. Call me old school but I won't. I am not exclusive with him because it is apparent to me that he needs a super model...definitely not me. I guess I'm no better than most men but I will keep seeing him because other than this odd thing he does we have great chemistry and a lot of fun so I keep him around. Is there something wrong with me? I am not in love with him mainly because of this one thing. I have been dating a man for 3 years who talks about how other women appear to him. It’s not always good. He will look at someone on t.v. and say things like, she’s not aging well or she’s the skinny/fat. He’ll say things like, she has a great body but her face is not pretty. Most of the time I don’t see what he means. He’s very visual to the point of the things that he mentions about the other women makes me feel that I’m not up to his standards. He’s never mentioned a future with me. I don’t bring it up either. Call me old school but I won’t. I am not exclusive with him because it is apparent to me that he needs a super model…definitely not me. I guess I’m no better than most men but I will keep seeing him because other than this odd thing he does we have great chemistry and a lot of fun so I keep him around. Is there something wrong with me? I am not in love with him mainly because of this one thing.

]]> By: Jory http://commitment-relationship.com/my-boyfriend-wants-me-to-lose-weight/comment-page-2/#comment-1146 Jory Tue, 20 Mar 2012 19:47:59 +0000 http://commitment-relationship.com/?p=201#comment-1146 I am in a similar situation. My boyfriend of 2 years has been with me since I had my 2nd daughter, I was 160 when he met me and now I'm 200. He know's it's normal to gain weight and stuff, because he has also gained some weight during our relationship. He says he wants me to lose weight, but also wants to lose weight himself. The problem is he works full-time, so he sort of see's it as MY duty to lose weight to motivate him....fair? I don't know. I know I'm definitely not happy with my body. But my boyfriend is not rude about my weight gain, he has said in the most tender way that he doesn't want to date a "fat" girl lol Basically, I agree with Elaine. If YOU feel like you want to lose weight, then do it. But don't do it FOR him to feel happier. I know it's confusing because you'll get the feeling that you want to lose the weight so that he's happy thus making you happy. But who know's....maybe he just said it wrong? Everyone is beautiful. <3 If you feel that you'd benefit from losing weight and your relationship would as well, then go for it. Keep your chin up and look towards the horizon. You can do it :/ I am in a similar situation.

My boyfriend of 2 years has been with me since I had my 2nd daughter, I was 160 when he met me and now I’m 200. He know’s it’s normal to gain weight and stuff, because he has also gained some weight during our relationship.

He says he wants me to lose weight, but also wants to lose weight himself. The problem is he works full-time, so he sort of see’s it as MY duty to lose weight to motivate him….fair? I don’t know.

I know I’m definitely not happy with my body. But my boyfriend is not rude about my weight gain, he has said in the most tender way that he doesn’t want to date a “fat” girl lol

Basically, I agree with Elaine. If YOU feel like you want to lose weight, then do it. But don’t do it FOR him to feel happier. I know it’s confusing because you’ll get the feeling that you want to lose the weight so that he’s happy thus making you happy. But who know’s….maybe he just said it wrong?

Everyone is beautiful. <3 If you feel that you'd benefit from losing weight and your relationship would as well, then go for it. Keep your chin up and look towards the horizon. You can do it :/

]]> By: linder, billy http://commitment-relationship.com/my-boyfriend-wants-me-to-lose-weight/comment-page-2/#comment-1094 linder, billy Thu, 16 Feb 2012 14:34:58 +0000 http://commitment-relationship.com/?p=201#comment-1094 ~ linder, billy, Canada i appreciate your work I still laugh every time I think of my husband(now we married). How you impose the adult dysfunctions revenge spell cast on him and got to hear the stories come in. He couldn’t figure out what had happened to him. He tried and run quickly back to me, steering at me all the day, anything over the counter he loves me more under to any situation. After watching him suffer a bit, I was sympathetic and we talked out our differences and I reversed the spell. He still doesn’t know what happened and I still laugh when I think about it.grate ~ linder, billy, Canada

i appreciate your work I still laugh every time I think of my husband(now we married). How you impose the adult

dysfunctions revenge spell cast on him and got to hear the stories come in. He couldn’t

figure out what had happened to him. He tried and run quickly back to me, steering at me all the day, anything over the counter he loves me more under to any situation. After watching him suffer a bit, I was sympathetic and we

talked out our differences and I reversed the spell. He still doesn’t

know what happened and I still laugh when I think about it.grate

]]> By: Hellene, http://commitment-relationship.com/my-boyfriend-wants-me-to-lose-weight/comment-page-1/#comment-1059 Hellene, Sat, 04 Feb 2012 10:17:53 +0000 http://commitment-relationship.com/?p=201#comment-1059 My Love Spells Testimonials In October 2011, I was on the verge of losing my boyfriend. After this love spell I cast I found he still loved me.Before i cast the spell A friend advised me to speak to him and apologies but still. He refused to open up. I asked him about casting a spell. He explained the process and i followed by his words. Within 1 WEEK, his mood completely changed, his outlook improved 100 percent and we made plans for the future. Now we're engaged and the wedding is April 14_2012. Thank you. Viewer's should help me thank him.... I am getting married soon. His spell worked for me in the time-frame he hoped for. Thanks. I felt the power of the Love Spell almost immediately. Results happened! Thanks! -- Hellene, London My Love Spells Testimonials

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]]> By: mark http://commitment-relationship.com/my-boyfriend-wants-me-to-lose-weight/comment-page-1/#comment-1051 mark Thu, 02 Feb 2012 09:57:40 +0000 http://commitment-relationship.com/?p=201#comment-1051 Dear friends, i had a problem with my girl friend 2year ago, which lead to our broke up. when she broke up with me, i was not my self again, i fill so empty inside me. until a friend of my Walt pen told me about a spell caster who helped him in the same problem too. i email the spell caster and i told him my problem and i did what he asked of me, to cut the long story short. before i knew what was happening my girl friend gave me a call and told me that she was coming back to me and was so joyous to have her back to me. we have two kids together and we are happy with our selves. thanks for saving my relationship and for also saving others own too. continue your good work the great spell caster. Dear friends, i had a problem with my girl friend 2year ago, which lead to our broke up. when she broke up with me, i was not my self again, i fill so empty inside me. until a friend of my Walt pen told me about a spell caster who helped him in the same problem too. i email the spell caster and i told him my problem and i did what he asked of me, to cut the long story short. before i knew what was happening my girl friend gave me a call and told me that she was coming back to me and was so joyous to have her back to me. we have two kids together and we are happy with our selves. thanks for saving my relationship and for also saving others own too. continue your good work the great spell caster.

]]> By: Hazel http://commitment-relationship.com/my-boyfriend-wants-me-to-lose-weight/comment-page-1/#comment-1047 Hazel Tue, 31 Jan 2012 14:37:01 +0000 http://commitment-relationship.com/?p=201#comment-1047 You're a dumb a$$. You can't get your own man so you got to TRY and take someone else's? Please chic.. get over yourself. A man is a MAN at the end of the day. If you're willing to put out, he's going to take it whether you look like Miss Piggy or Ms. America.. There's nothing special about you.. You put out so they take it.. end of story. Good luck and make sure you have google handy to locate your nearest STD clinic. You’re a dumb a$$. You can’t get your own man so you got to TRY and take someone else’s? Please chic.. get over yourself. A man is a MAN at the end of the day. If you’re willing to put out, he’s going to take it whether you look like Miss Piggy or Ms. America.. There’s nothing special about you.. You put out so they take it.. end of story. Good luck and make sure you have google handy to locate your nearest STD clinic.

]]> By: Hazel http://commitment-relationship.com/my-boyfriend-wants-me-to-lose-weight/comment-page-1/#comment-1046 Hazel Tue, 31 Jan 2012 14:31:32 +0000 http://commitment-relationship.com/?p=201#comment-1046 Hi Felicia - I understand how you feel. However, in your case, its SO not about him. You are Type 2 Diabetic. Your healthy is at stake here. He is secondary to that. Do what you need to do to be healthy. And honestly, if you feel like he needs to shed a few pounds, then why not tell him? It's always about a better, HEALTHIER you. Picture yourself feeling better, looking great and having your Diabetes in CHECK! :) Hi Felicia –

I understand how you feel. However, in your case, its SO not about him. You are Type 2 Diabetic. Your healthy is at stake here. He is secondary to that. Do what you need to do to be healthy. And honestly, if you feel like he needs to shed a few pounds, then why not tell him? It’s always about a better, HEALTHIER you. Picture yourself feeling better, looking great and having your Diabetes in CHECK! :)

]]> By: Amelie http://commitment-relationship.com/my-boyfriend-wants-me-to-lose-weight/comment-page-1/#comment-1045 Amelie Tue, 31 Jan 2012 03:07:28 +0000 http://commitment-relationship.com/?p=201#comment-1045 I know it's been a year almost to this day that you posted this comment, but I truly hope you have changed. Otherwise, hear this: if "our" guys are in "your" bed, this means that you are the flavor of the day and you are not worth anything more. Good for you for your good looks I suppose, if it floats your boat. I am considered to be a very attractive woman, but I would NEVER EVER think or say such things. Karma WILL get you. That is a FACT. I pitty you. I know it’s been a year almost to this day that you posted this comment, but I truly hope you have changed. Otherwise, hear this: if “our” guys are in “your” bed, this means that you are the flavor of the day and you are not worth anything more. Good for you for your good looks I suppose, if it floats your boat. I am considered to be a very attractive woman, but I would NEVER EVER think or say such things. Karma WILL get you. That is a FACT. I pitty you.

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