Serious Talk – Should You Have a Serious Talk With Your Boyfriend

January 5, 2010 by  
Filed under Commitment

Often a serious talk spells disaster. Should you talk about commitment with your boyfriend? This article will be an eye opener if you are considering talking to your boyfriend about commitment.

The problem many women face when they are in a relationship with a man is that after months and even years of dating, commitment is still up in the air. Some women will try to talk to their men trying to convince them to commit. But pressuring someone to get married is not the right way to get commitment from a man.

Instead of talking to him about commitment, ask yourself, are we already committed? Does my boyfriend act as if we were already in a committed relationship? Am I his best friend and lover in one?

If you feel that you are in a state of limbo with your boyfriend, and even if you are together and loyal to each other, that does not mean you are in a committed relationship. Men will and do stay with women out of convenience and security of knowing that he has someone in his life for mere companionship. But the problem is that a man can take it or leave it. He doesn’t see a relationship as a life-long commitment and marriage.

A man who is not committed to a woman may never cheat, and yet when a woman who he really wants to commit to comes along, he will simply leave the woman he is currently with.

So, when should you have a commitment talk? You may feel that you want to get it straitened out. You want to know that your life is on the right track. And you don’t want to waste time with men who are only with you temporarily. You want the security of knowing that one day you will have a family, and that he is the one.

Here is what I suggest. If you have started sleeping with your man without him giving you commitment, you may now feel that you don’t want to start dating other men. But the problem is that in his mind, even though you and he are exclusive, he has no intention of marrying you. With that said, you can continue or restart dating other men and exploring your options.

You don’t have to sleep with a hundred of guys, but you need to let him know that you want commitment and marriage as a destination in your own life, and that because he is not offering you commitment you will look for a man who will.

You don’t have to break up with him. Although it may seem like the right option. But you have already wasted a lot of time and invested your emotions and time in this relationship. For that reason you should always let the guy know from the get go that you don’t want to date forever, and that you want to date a man who is open to having a committed relationship one day. You should not start sleeping with a guy unless you know that he is open to possibilities, and that he likes you enough to consider exploring whether you two are compatible enough to have a committed relationship one day.

But what should you do if you are already heavily involved with your boyfriend, and you missed your chance to let him know beforehand that you want marriage and commitment one day?

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3 Responses to “Serious Talk – Should You Have a Serious Talk With Your Boyfriend”
  1. Christy says:

    Thank you for this informative article. I will keep reading your blog.

  2. Janice says:

    Im in my 40s with a man for 5 years. He was seperated when we met and has 3 grown sons. We got engaqged after 3 months and after I got the ring, he told me he would start the divorce papers. We have been through alot of instability in 5 yrs as I only had 10 months work and he has a drinking problem. We moved alot and have lived seperate for 1 year now. His mom just died 2 wks ago and the first thing he did was call his ex-wife and she came and took him and his dad to the hospital and i was left alone in his dads place. Him and the ex talk too often and are still too attached. They seperated in 1998 and now its 2012. He was with another woman before me and had a child with her and their breakup was for the same reason and it started fights as it does with us. His ex has a livein for 5 years now, he was not at the funeral which was a small family gathering. She is also overextending her boundaries-this makes me very uncomfortable. She was very close to his mom so now maybe things will change. I was hurt that I was not invited to the hospital and my bf said its because you are not considered immediate family! (and I take it neither is her man of 7 years!). But an ex-wife is not considered immediate family when they are no longer together either it just infuriats me to no end! I dont know what to do about it anymore I get so upset. He is still a married man and Im given every excuse in the book as to why that is but somehow I dont believe what is being said to me………

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