Signs He Is Using You for Sex
Do you know when a man you are with has a genuine interest in you and when he is just using you for sex?
If you don’t know how to tell when a man is using you as a booty call, pay attention here because I am about to reveal tell-tale signs a man is using you for sex.
Sign No.1 – You always meet at your home. You never go to his area and he wants to keep it that way. He never invites you over and if he does, you go straight to his house without making a public appearance with him in his neighborhood. He does that because he doesn’t want to be seen with you, which is a sure sign he doesn’t want to acknowledge your relationship as anything more than a booty call.
And this brings you to Sign No.2 – he never takes you anywhere in public.
A client of mine complained that her man refused to take her anywhere constantly making excuses why he couldn’t do it – he didn’t want to be seen with her because of his ex-wife whom he still shared custody of their two kids with, he was a homebody who didn’t really get out much, and the list of his excuses goes on. She insisted that he took her somewhere, perhaps for a bike ride, so he finally gave in and they went on a bike ride, but he only did it under pressure of her ultimatum knowing that if he hadn’t taken her, the continuous and uninterrupted stream of sex he was getting would have stopped.
My point is, if a man doesn’t volunteer to take you somewhere that means he doesn’t want to be seen with you thus keeping your relationship a secret.
You may wonder why he stopped taking you places. Perhaps in the beginning of your affair he took you out and spent money on you, but once you became sexually intimate all that stopped. This is because in the beginning of your dating relationship he had to court you, so that you would consider sleeping with him, but once that started happening, he no longer needed to continue spending money and effort on you.
Sign No.3 – he never makes plans with you in advance.
If you ever wonder why he always seems to text you or call you on a minute notice, this is a sure sign of a booty call. This is because when he contacts you, he is looking for an instant gratification. He is horny and he wants to get some now. Perhaps he went out drinking hoping to meet someone to take home, but that didn’t happen, so now it’s 2 AM and the bar is closing, and he is drunk and horny and wants to come over for sex.
A subscriber to my newsletter writes:
“So he called me last night at 2am. He had been out with friends, some were still in the club and he was like come out and come dancing. The reason I took the call was it startled me and no one usually rings at 2am so I just picked it up without thinking. Anyway, we spoke for about 20 minutes. So we chatted a little and I was like I am not coming to meet you tonight, he said he would be in touch…. Regards, Nicole”
My response: ~ Nicole, kudos on not going over. He should know better than to call you and ask you to come over to his place at two in the morning!
If a man doesn’t make plans with you in advance, and only calls you when he is drunk and horny, and out of other options, this is a sure sign that he is just using you for sex.
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