How To Make Sure You Are More Than Friends With Benefits

Have you been dating a guy for a while but aren’t sure how he feels about you?

Are you sleeping with a guy but aren’t sure where you stand with him and what this relationship means to him?

Read this article very carefully because after you have read it you will have a very clear picture of what your relationship is for him.

When you and your guy are soul mates you just know it and you don’t question it.

If he takes care of you when you are sick and buys you your favorite ice-cream flavor when you have had a bad day at work you know he is in love with you.

When he turns down a night with the boys to cuddle on the couch and hang out with you know he is special.

When you can share your bed with him and feel like you have had the best night’s sleep ever you know it can last.

When you wake up next to him and smile at the sight of him lying beside you.

If he tells you, “You look amazing” while you are in your pajamas and have no makeup on he is for keeps.

If you aren’t sure he is all these things for you, you are probably making excuses for him.

You should not have to make excuses for anyone, especially for the man who is supposed to be closest to you.

Recently I have been asked a lot of questions about this subject.

Well here is the situation: you are in a relationship with a guy you really like. He starts behaving differently, missing dates and not calling so often.

Well to protect this man you love so much from the other people in your lives (friends and family) you make excuses; it starts with minor white lies.

He was supposed to take you to the movies, but cancels at the last minute without a reason. You just tell your friends he wasn’t feeling well.

Next, he doesn’t call you for a week. You tell your friends he is having commitment issues and he is scared. He is seen out with another girl and you tell people she is just a friend from work.

You are putting on a brave face but we all know how it feels to be hurting. The worst part is you are keeping all of that pain inside and that starts to damage you self-esteem.

Your friends will start catching on to these excuses and asking you about them,  asking what he is doing and that maybe just maybe he is not the great guy he is. However, you’ve spent so long making excuses; you almost have started to believe them yourself.

Then comes the defense stage. As soon as your good friends start saying bad things about that guy you love, you suddenly start to defend everything he does and almost alienate your friends from your life.

Remember girls, a friend will go through it all with you as long as you let them. A good friend won’t judge you, but try to give you advice. Their advice will be from the outside of the relationship and sometimes that’s exactly what you need to have a clearer view.

If you feel you need to make excuses for the man you love, it probably means his actions are not what you expect out of a relationship and therefore you should not be putting up with them.

Instead of ignoring your friends and family’s advice or even hiding your guy’s actions from these people, it’s time to listen and take action to change your relationship to be the kind of relationship you deserve!

So stop making excuses for him, accept the fact that your relationship is not exactly what you want it to be, and start making changes.

Trying to force your opinions on him will just push him further away from you and further into the arms of another woman. If you want to get the life-long love and commitment you desire more than anything with the man you’ve always dreamed about, it’s time to turn the tables around and to actively build the relationship you want for yourself!

On this page I teach you how to ensure your man develops a life-long emotional attachment for you that goes well beyond simple lust, how to get your dream man to commit to you and stay with you forever by simply understanding the basics of commitment and nurturing a relationship that lays a solid foundation for commitment and marriage!

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Is He Ready To Commit Quiz – Will He Commit

Many women want to get commitment from their men. In an attempt to find out how he feels about commitment we often initiate ‘the talk’. But having a serious talk with a man about your relationship is often a sure-fire way to scare off a man who is not on the same page with you. Surprisingly, most people want commitment in their lives, but commitment often means different things to different people.

For women it often means getting married and having children. For men however, commitment means financial responsibility, and generally increased responsibilities. Because commitment is tougher on men than on women, and if you’ve heard this expression, ‘women are never happy until they marry, men are always happy until they marry’, this is not true but ironic, many men are leery of commitment.

So, how do you know when your guy is ready to commit to YOU?

Ask him these questions and you will not only be closer to the truth, but you will also get a deep and profound insight into his mind as well as yourself. Tell your man to ask HIMSELF these questions:

- Do I want to have a loving and supportive partner who supports my goals and helps me be a better man by my side?

- If and when I find that person, am I prepared to be a loving, devoted and supportive partner to them?

- Why do I not have that person in my life right now?

- What can I do to find that person, or what makes me disqualify the people I am dating right now? Tell specifics on why the person you are dating right now is NOT that loving and supportive partner. List things that would make that person an ‘ideal’ partner to whom you would commit in a heartbeat.

Now, list the things that make you NOT loving and supportive partner to them.

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Should You Give Him an Ultimatum and Why Ultimatums Don’t Work

If you have been dating a guy for months and even years, perhaps even living with him, you know how frustrating it can be when your guy can’t seem to pop the question. At some point you get tired of waiting and start thinking in terms, it’s either now or never. I should just give him an ultimatum and if he loves me he’ll have to step to the plate.

If you have been dating a guy for months and even years, perhaps even living with him, you know how frustrating it can be when your guy can’t seem to pop the question. At some point you get tired of waiting and start thinking in terms, it’s either now or never. I should just give him an ultimatum and if he loves me he’ll have to step to the plate.

Wait! Not so fast!

In my Guide To Commitment I explain how to take your relationship to the next level of commitment without the ultimatums, and moreover, how to make your boyfriend think that it is HIS idea to make a commitment to you.

So, why ultimatums don’t work….

An ultimatum, by definition contains a threat. And if you are trying to threaten a man, this will not result in anything positive.

So, how can you get a commitment from a man without the ultimatum?

First off, you need to determine if your boyfriend loves you. If he tells you voluntarily that he loves you, and/or is acting like it, then you know the issue of commitment is not lack of love; it is the fear of changes, fear of financial responsibilities and other fears associated with the increased responsibility of a man in marriage.

If he loves you, he still may not be sure that you are the one. And this may very well be the reason he does not want to commit.

In my Guide To Commitment I have examined research and available scientific data that has confirmed that men who are presently attached are secretly awaiting for the right woman to come along!

Yes, men who are currently in relationships but who are not a hundred percent committed to their girlfriends secretly hope that there is someone better out there.

If you don’t think this is the case with your man, here is a test for you to determine if he is truly not ready for commitment; Imagine a Victoria Secret model with a million-dollar contract tells your boyfriend she wants to marry him…. Would he say he is not ready? If that’s what you think he would say, you may have a point here…. but if you think that he would jump on this opportunity, and provided that that woman has all the interpersonal qualities that he is looking for, and is caring, loving and kind, than the problem is NOT that he is ‘not ready for commitment’. The problem is that you have not been successful at showing him that you are the right one for him.

So, what if you decide nevertheless to go ahead and make a demand – you either marry me or I am breaking up with you….. what happens?

Well, one thing that could most likely happen is that he is going to say, ok what can I do? And if you don’t want to settle any longer for less than you deserve, he will just go with it…

Sure, he’ll suffer for a while, but he’ll get over it eventually…

In fact, men deal with break ups a lot worse than women do even if they don’t show it….

Men also don’t typically take time in between relationships and they tend to want to get back into dating immediately after the break up, whereas we, women do tend to take time in between relationships….

So, if that’s the route you take, don’t be surprised to find your ex boyfriend dating someone else shortly after the break up….

Second option is that you ‘win’. And by ‘win’ I mean that he cower down to your demands and marries you. And you think you have won, but what this causes a hundred percent of the time is resentment. You want your boyfriend to go into commitment wholeheartedly, not because he was afraid to lose intimacy and companionship, not because he was complacent and wanted to preserve what he’s got… you want him to make a commitment to you because it is HIS idea…. at least you want him to think that it is his idea…

Now, knowing men’s psychology I know exactly how to make a man want commitment and more importantly make him think it is HIS idea.

When you learn what I have outlined in my Guide To Commitment, you too will understand how to make a man commit to you, and make him think it was his idea. Read More >>>

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Why Men Won’t Commit – Understanding Men Commitment Issues

There are many reasons for being single. The male who is at mid-point in life may be single for various reasons, including divorce, death, separation, religion, vocation, and interpersonal / developmental issues.

Regardless of the cause, the single male has social, developmental, and relational issues to address and overcome. An increased awareness of how one develops at this stage in life is important if understanding is to be gained.

The information in this article should not be interpreted as stating single status as a condition or an illness, nor is this article intended to be a how to guide; rather, it is intended to increase insight into
developmental causation.

The single male is a sum of his development. It is possible to live a healthy and fulfilled life as a single person provided that developmental issues are addressed and dealt with appropriately.

To learn how to make a man commit, go to Make Him Commit

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