Is He Giving Her Mixed Signals? Guys Giving Women Mixed Signals

Have you ever been with a guy who seems to be giving you mixed signals? You know, when one day everything seems great, and the next, he pulls away, doesn’t call you and doesn’t respond to your phone calls? Here is an e-mail from a reader:

Hi Elaine,

This guy I used to date is giving me mixed signals. I don’t understand if he is playing games or if he is just not interested. Sometimes I think if he was just not interested than why won’t he just tell me? Why does he keep me hanging on?

Thank you,

Katie

Dear Katie,

You didn’t explain in detail how exactly he is giving you mixed signals and what you mean by mixed signals. One thing I know for sure – guys don’t intentionally mislead you. If he is loving and caring one day and the next day he doesn’t call you, this is just bad manners. You may want to reconsider how much importance you place on this relationship. If, on the other hand you have just started dating, he is just taking it slow just like most any guy I know. You know, guys don’t usually jump into a serious relationship after a few dates, except those men who are insecure and needy, and who need constant re-assurance.

I explain in depth the dynamics of a relationship development in my Guide To Commitment. But I wanted to briefly mention that the way women and men see the development of a relationship varies greatly. We, women tend to make up our mind about a guy rather quickly. Men, however, come to view relationships from a completely different standpoint, which is covered in Guide To Commitment. Of course this response is brief and doesn’t even scratch the surface of what this Guide covers, but I wanted to briefly mention so that you understand this. He is taking his time.

You may be wondering just when will he make up his mind? It really depends on the guy, the woman and the relationship they build together, but it is critical to understand that you can’t pressure someone into committing to you sooner than they are ready. You have to be on the same wave length. A relationship should unfold naturally, without pressure on either part as I say in Guide To Commitment.

Sincerely,

Elaine

So, this is the question and answer. Do you have an opinion about this? Have you ever been in a situation with a guy who is giving you mixed signals? Please, leave a comment in this post if you would like to share your experience, stories, and opinion.

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