What Does It Mean When Your Boyfriend Is Not Ready For a Relationship
When your boyfriend says, I am not ready for a relationship, I am not ready for commitment, or I am not ready for anything serious, you may be wondering, what does it mean when he says he is not ready.
This subject causes a great confusion. Often women ask, does this mean he doesn’t want to have a relationship with anybody? Does it mean he’s been hurt in the past and doesn’t want to get hurt again? What the heck does it mean?
Well, it really depends what prompted him to say that. Usually a guy will not volunteer this kind of information if you don’t ask. With that said, it is usually the girl that asks him about the future of the relationship. And then, when he feels he is not ready for the all seriousness with which she is pushing for a relationship, he says he is not ready.
He was honest with you in telling that he was not ready for a relationship after only a couple of dates. I don’t blame him; jumping into a serious relationship after a couple of dates is not wise in my opinion either. At this point I don’t know if you can get him back because you only went out a couple of times and do not have a bond necessary to get couples through the break up time. He made up his mind about you rather quickly.
Here is what happened. You and he met, there was initial attraction and he wanted to date you. But instead of allowing him to date you, you’ve eliminated the dating phase by acting as if you were already in a relationship with him when there was none and by being emotionally demanding. That turned him off. If you want to keep a man, you can’t act like a girlfriend after one or two casual dates. No one likes to be with someone who is emotionally dependent and demanding, but it is tolerable for some people to be with an emotionally dependent person once he is in love with such person. Until that happens, we don’t tolerate emotionally dependent partner.
The worst possible thing you could do now is to try to get him back and act on it. If you want a chance of him coming back you must move on because if you don’t move on, you will be sending him desperate vibes all the time; and trust me he’ll know it. You don’t want to be perceived as a stalker.
You need to start going out and meeting other people. If you want to keep a man beyond a couple of dates you must stop acting as if you are in a relationship with a man you’ve met for a couple of dates.
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