Why Does He Keep Me Hanging On?
Perhaps you’ve been seeing a guy for a while, but he doesn’t call you as often as you want him to, and seems to display resistance when you try to get closer. And you start wondering, if he really interested in me or does he just keep me hanging on?
He is not seeing anyone else as far as you know, but your relationship feels stagnated, as if he doesn’t want it to proceed to the next level of commitment. Perhaps not even commitment, but at least something more stable and more consistent.
He calls you infrequently, and when he calls you, it’s usually when you have already given up on him.
It seems as if he does the mere appearance to ensure you don’t completely slip away, but he doesn’t want to get closer, as if he is afraid of intimacy.
What should you do?
It would be nice to know if he just keeps you hanging onto the casual relationship while he is still on the market. Shockingly, in studies I have examined in Guide To Commitment, most men who were currently living with their girlfriends said that the reason they didn’t want to get married was that they did not see their girlfriends as a long-term partner, but rather someone to kill time with until something better comes along.
So, if your guy seems to have one foot in and one foot out, perhaps you should ask yourself, is it something that I don’t fulfill in his desire for a perfect match, or is it just him?
One of my friends, a successful lawyer, in his forties, divorced with two kids whom he shares custody of swore for four years following his divorce that he would never get married again. Well, after a chain of short term dating relationships in which every time a woman got serious he pulled away, he finally found the love of his life.
They met on a dating site. Just like a typical couple they had sex on the third date.
You may be thinking, wow that’s too soon! Guess what? They are now married, only a year later!
So what makes a man commit?
Compatibility, communication, and being a friend and lover in one. And, as one guy said, having a feeling that your partner’s got your back; that she is a true companion, confidant, and a lover in one.
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