Why He Starts Acting Inconsistently When He Is Falling In Love With You
Have you ever asked yourself, why would a man who used to be all over you in the beginning start withdrawing or acting inconsistently just as soon as things start to progress?
You knew he was developing feelings for you; you could just feel it. The way he talked to you and the things he said all pointed out at the fact that he was very much into you.
He told you that he thought you had something special, and that you were more than just friends. He told you that he wanted to be with you all the time, and how much he enjoyed talking to you, sharing and just being with you in his arms.
You knew it was the beginning of something very special; something that doesn’t happen too often, and that perhaps he could be The One.
He may have told you he wanted a serious relationship in his life and that he was ready. He made you believe you could have been The One for him.
Things progressed so well that he became comfortable in your new relationship knowing that you weren’t going to flake out on him because you were always there for him when he needed to talk, you always willingly offered your help, you offered to do things with him and allowed him to do things for you.
And then something went wrong.
He started developing fear. Fear that he may lose you – the woman who provided such needed comfort; the woman who made him feel so amazing and special.
You and he got along so well that he began to wonder if it was too good to be true.
So he started developing insecurities. His fear made him see things where none existed.
And when he was influenced by fear he started acting like a jerk. He was too afraid that the feelings he has started developing made him vulnerable, and that if the relationship did not work out in the end, he would get really hurt.
So, he started withdrawing. He started avoiding you. Instead of communicating his fears and insecurities clearly, openly and honestly, he decided that he was just going to shut down, stuff his feelings inside and fight them.
But you did not understand why he acted this way. Your friends tell you he is a jerk and a player. But you know in your heart of hearts that what you had was real!
And this is where it is critical to recognize that a man who withdraws from you in a situation like this does that because of his own insecurities.
Perhaps he hasn’t felt this way about anyone in a long time, and now he is deeply fearful of his own feelings.
It doesn’t mean that he doesn’t love you anymore. It just means that you need to be able to identify what he is experiencing.