Why Independent Women Can’t Keep a Man

February 26, 2010 by  
Filed under Commitment Issues

┬áIf you have been following the latest trends, reading all kinds of women’s magazines and listening to you girlfriends giving you advice on how to have a relationship with your man, you know that men like independent women.

But ironically, a woman’s independence is one of the major contributors into relationship break ups.

How could that be?

See, the reason we unwittingly drive a man away is by being independent, not showing emotions in a healthy way and being aloof, as if not needing a man.

But what makes a man attracted to a woman is how she makes him feel.

And a man most of the time won’t tell you this, but he will keep track of the things you say and do.

He wants to know that the woman he is with makes him feel important.

And if he can’t feel important around her, why be with her?

Men are driven by accomplishments and success. If you are with a man, he wants to know you need him because this will show him that he is important.

So, how can you be independent and still show him that you need him without being overbearing or needy?

It’s the little things that count.

Men want to be able to add value to your life. If you can talk to him about something you don’t really understand, for instance, how to fix some minor things in your car, how to fix your stereo system, where to take your can for a break job, a good place to shop for hardware, why your computer is acting up, and many other things that you may very well know but he doesn’t necessarily know that you don’t need his help with them, he will be glad to show you and to help you.

Always appreciate when he does something for you, even if you know that you could do it better.

Don’t tell him, oh thanks but no thanks, I can do it myself…. if he wants to help you, let him.

This is how you can maintain your independence and still show him that he is needed and important.

On the flip side, do not EXPECT things from him, and don’t take him for granted. If you put it out there that you need some help moving furniture and he doesn’t offer his help, don’t expect it from him and don’t ask. If he already knows that this is something you are doing, and yet fails to offer his manly hand, perhaps you should re-consider if he really is the guy for you.

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7 Responses to “Why Independent Women Can’t Keep a Man”
  1. Walter says:

    “what makes a man attracted to a woman is how she makes him feel”

    This is really the take home message of this post, perfectly encapsulated in one short sentence.

  2. Levi says:

    to drive a man away is by being “to”independent, not showing emotions in a healthy way and being aloof, as if not needing a man. this is 100% true as im going threw this right now with my girlfriend.

  3. bob sultini says:

    this very attractive woman i just split with was totally independant..life in her home was a nightmere..what started with me hanging the toilet paper roll the wrong way turned into,teaching me how to make coffie,squeeging her shower.keeping my shoes 8 feet away from her garage entry door to the house,where then i could yes could put on slippers to stay in the 8 foot zone..8 frickin cats that she treated like the man she will never get..oh yeah her car bar..oh yes the car bar…never leaves home without a 5th of vodka,ice cooler and of coarse a travel mug..this is my christian mingle girl…the ultimate christian woman..the story gets better..or worse depending on your level of pain..hit me back,i got a millian more..way to go sammlady

  4. bob sultini says:

    oh dont want to be too tough on her..i forgot she also brings tonic water in the bar..46 years single no kids…ya think..yeah…or as she would say yay…but she loved me big time..ok baby pour another just like the other……your awesome boyfriend bob

  5. frank says:

    so many women nowadays just can’t seem to COMMIT to only one man anymore, since many women of today, THINK THAT THEY ARE ALL THAT with such an ATTITUDE PROBLEM which many of them have now. how could us GOOD STRAIGHT MEN meet a GOOD WOMAN today, since many of them are not into RELATIONSHIPS today? years ago, many men and women ACCEPTED each other for who they were, and now that so many women have HIGH PAYING JOBS it seems to have MESSED UP THEIR HEADS. then again, there are so many women out there now that are LESBIANS, that certainly add to the problem.

  6. sanjay mehta says:

    Dear sir/mem, i am looking women for long life relationship , she may be a divorced, seprate, widow lady age 30 to 40years, plz write me

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