Why Men Go Hot and Cold 3 Reasons Why Men Go Hot and Cold
September 8, 2010 by admin
Filed under Commitment Issues
The number one reason men will blow hot and cold is that the woman herself starts acting too pushy too early on and pushes him away. When a man you are dating hasn’t decided yet he is ready to commit to a more serious relationship with you, and you already hear the wedding bells in your head, the emotions you project during your dates and the things you say to him make it transparent that you are looking for a relationship that is more serious than what he is currently offering you.
In this situation you need to re-assess your own behavior and how you come off. If you are finding that after a heartfelt confession on how much you like him he is pulling away, you’ve just scared him off. Take the time for his feelings for you develop with the same intensity before he makes a commitment to a serious relationship.
The most important thing to remember is that it has to come from him.
Reason number 2 men blow hot and cold is that they often need time to process their emotions and need a little readjustment before taking a plunge to make a more serious commitment to the woman in his life.
You may find that after spending a fabulous weekend together he doesn’t call you for three days or immerses into his work.
Don’t worry and give him time. Sometimes after smelling roses for a couple of days a man will want to get back to pursuing his goals. He may get scared that spending romantic time on the beach will take over his life and leave nothing else, so he will want to jump into work just to feel like nothing has changed and he is still the man he was before he met you.
Lastly, reason number three why men blow hot and cold is that he wants to keep you in his life but doesn’t want to commit to you completely. He starts pursuing you when you pull back out of fear to lose you entirely, but when he feels that he is back in the comfort zone in which there is no threat that you will leave him, he goes back to the cold mode.
Astonishingly in studies that I talk about in Guide To Commitment which were done on unmarried couples, majority of men currently living with their girlfriends said they did not want to marry their girlfriends because they didn’t see them as their soulmates. Those men also identified what they’d consider their soulmates and the kind of woman they’d commit. You can learn more about it on This Page – Click Here To Read!
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hello, i’m Sofia P. and i would to ask for your help…there has been a man in my life for more than 7 years…we never had the chance to go on a date or sth else since last January…until then i used to have a phone or eye contact whenever he was around …in the past few years i found out that he was married ..but that didn’t stop me or him i was always careful…because until then my feelings for him had grown…last January we went out for dinner and ended up in bed…the problem is that from January since now we have met for about 5-6 times…and the thing is that i see him everyday and we just say hello and he keeps on staring at me…he’s doing the thing that u have already mentioned in your article…from hot to cold….he will now call me as soon as he realises that he’s losing me..or sth…and then he disappears for a time although we meet everyday in the street.i really don’t know what to do…i really care for this man but the problem is that although he seems to care and be attracted to me he just keeps on pushing me away…i know that it might sound crazy..but i respect his family…although he’s just married ” in papers” meaning that his marriage doesn’t stop him from having other affairs…i can feel that he cares but i really don’t know how to handle this situation…i’m not the type of woman who will call him everyday 24/7 and press him…on the contrast, i’m very careful when we r in public together or with other friends or people around…in order not to get the attention and s’one realises that there is sth going on between us…there have been many times that i wanted to call him and ask him to meet in order to clear things up…but i’m afraid of losing him….
i would appreciate if you could help me and advice me on what to do…
yours sincerely,
Sofia P.
Here it goes… We have been togather seven months..We live togather and for the second time he thinks we are moving to fast…He works out of town for weeks at a time.. This last time his 11 yr. old would not talk to him for a few weeks… I get along with his kids and absolutly love them but, his ex wife is a whole nother strory.. I have not meet her and really dont want to..So after we break up again he tell his ex and now the son is talking to him again.. I think this ex is using these children (aweful, bad human being). but, why does he fall for her BS????…. He will be back on sunday, i have to pick him up from airport so he can come here get his thing and vehical and leave again… i dont know what i should do… ofcourse my emmotions are out of controll… I am not speaking to him at this point..