Why Men Leave Women After a Long Time

March 10, 2014 by  
Filed under Commitment

At some point in our lives we are bound to experience a breakup. No one is exempt from breakups, except for maybe a handful of couples who get together very young, get married and stay together for the rest of their lives. The rest of us have and will experience a break up or a few. Breakups suck, especially when you are the one on the receiving end of a breakup. But even when you are the one breaking up with someone, there is always a sense of failure, and a sense of a loss of something that could have been and never was, or perhaps seemed to be something special at one time and turned out to be a lie.

Many people want to know though why someone would break up with them, especially when the person ending the relationship doesn’t give an explanation. They just stop calling, leaving you agonizing about what went wrong and what you could have done differently to prevent a break up. And more importantly, you just want to know what mistakes you made in the past so you could prevent a break up in the future.

In this article I want to talk about the most common reasons men break up with women (by the way, these are the same reasons women break up with men, they are universal but for the purpose of this article we will refer to men).

So, here it goes.

A man will break up with a woman when he gets disappointed in her ability to be the one he hoped she would be and to fulfill his desires he hoped she’d fulfill.

This reason is applicable to every stage of the relationship from the first date to casual dating to a serious relationship and marriage.

Let’s talk about some specifics starting with a first date.

Let’s say you meet on a dating site and go on a first date. You seem to enjoy your time together. But for some reason your guy never calls to follow up. You are probably confused, and think that you two had a great potential. Why isn’t he calling? The answer is simple; something that he determined on the first date tells him that you will not fulfill the desires he is looking to fulfill in dating (or a relationship). For instance, if he is looking to have children one day and you’ve told him that you desire no children in the future, and he is a serious man with serious intentions who is looking for a wife, he isn’t going to waste his time dating a woman who is not a wife material for him, no matter how much he enjoyed spending time with her.

Or perhaps you’ve told him during your first date that you plan on moving to another state in a few months, and he doesn’t want to start a relationship with someone when there is no future.

Or maybe (if this is a situation with online dating) he expected you to look different than what you look like in person.

Or perhaps he didn’t like the way you treated the waiter, or the way you moved, talked or laughed. I can continue this list indefinitely, but you get the idea.

So, let’s move on and talk about the reasons men dump women after dating them for some time.

Let’s say you past the first date stage. You go on a few dates and he stops calling. You think that up until that point everything was going well. What happened?

The same situation here; when you first men, he thought you had a potential to fulfill his certain desires. But after a few dates he realized that you two aren’t a good match.

Now, what about a man who leaves a woman after dating her for a long time?

Same thing here; after dating for a few months or even a few years he’s realized that you aren’t the one he wants to spend the rest of his life with.

This is because for some reason he did not see that you could meet the 3 Requirements men have for the women they marry.

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3 Responses to “Why Men Leave Women After a Long Time”
  1. Monica says:

    I don’t necessarily agree with this article 100%. I dated someone for 9 months & the next 9 months we’ve been broken up and I’ve only allowed him to see me once which was my birthday last year. He aggressively tried reconciling our relationship and I either said no to his advances or ignored them altogether. Wasn’t because I didn’t love him, but had no patience or interest waiting for his divorce to finalize. His last email to me was 1-1/2 months ago where he said “I will always love you and you still mean a lot to me.” I didn’t respond for 2 weeks and my text had nothing to do with he and I. He immediately responded & said he’d get back to me after work that day but never did. I emailed him 13 days ago & very surprised he hasn’t responded to my message yet. Guess I’m getting a taste of my own medicine. Cant say he’s now in a serious relationship with anyone because he’s active on a dating site. He even bought me a Christmas gift I didn’t acknowledge. Only trying to understand the dynamics of wwhere this is now. His divorce finalized 2 months ago according to his last email. Please advise. Thanks

    • Elaine AmDee says:

      I am not sure why you disagree with the article, specifically which points of the article. Seems like you broke up with the married man you were seeking because your expectations of a boyfriend are such that he may not be married (to someone else).

      As far as your question, you are still very much hang up on that man. If you weren’t, you wouldn’t be checking his activity on a dating site, etc. You enjoy the attention when you get his attention, but when you don’t, you panic. If you want to be with the man, stop playing games. Good healthy relationships are not based on cat and mouse games, those are only used by insecure women who feel that they need to play games in order to remain attractive to a man.

      • Rosemary says:

        If you have ANY communicable diesaess, you need to let a person with whom you could reasonably assume you might eventually become intimate that you have something. They have the right to choose whether or not to continue dating you. Waiting until you are close enough to have sex is like taking a birth control pill the day you’re going to lose your virginity: it doesn’t work!

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