Why Men Suffer More In a Breakup
We used to think that women being the emotional creatures suffer more than men when a breakup occurs. However a recent study conducted on over 1,000 unmarried individuals by Wake Forest Professor of Sociology Robin Simon challenges this assumption.
His article co-authored by Anne Barrett, an associate professor of sociology at Florida State University and published in the June issue of the Journal of Health and Social Behavior suggests that according to the conducted studies men are much more emotionally impacted in a break up than women.
Although the logical assumption is that men who are less emotional and generally tougher than women should not be affected by the breakup as much his break-through research showed otherwise.
If you and your boyfriend have recently broke up you may be thinking that the breakup has not affected your ex as much as it has affected you. But if we presume that the above study has produced accurate results it is safe to say that your man is impacted by the breakup more so than you are, and that he is suffering due to your breakup more so than you.
So, if that was true, you may ask, how come he is not making a move to get back together? This could be for variety of reasons.
One reason and the most common is that he still is affected by the negative emotions due to which the breakup occurred in the first place. He may still be hurt by the harsh words exchanged in the breakup or the words or actions that led to the breakup itself.
If you still love your ex chances are that he loves you too. And if you want him back there is a good chance that he wants the same.
The difficult part about getting back together is that often people make deadly mistakes when they try to patch up a broken relationship. These mistakes cause the gap between the two of you to widen, and make it even more difficult if not impossible to get back together.
One of the most critical mistake partners make is to jump into dating straight away. Although finding a replacement may seem like a logical thing to do it is hard to find a suitable partner when you are not emotionally healthy yourself. While dating immediately after a breakup can more often result in a rebound relationship rather than a healthy lasting relationship, the fact that you are dating someone else will surely be known to your ex which will lead to more difficulties should you try to get him back.
Another critical mistake people make after a breakup is trying to convince your ex to give you another chance. This never works because if your ex is still mad at you he won’t be receptive to your arguments and attempts to convince him to reconsider his decision. Let the anger and frustration subside and try your attempts of reconciliation at a later time. I will show you exactly step-by-step how to go about getting back with your ex boyfriend – Read This Page!