Why Men Withdraw The Number One Reason Why Men Withdraw
Have you ever wondered why men withdraw?
Has this ever happened to you?
You start dating a guy and everything seems great in the beginning. But after a while and as soon as you start developing stronger feelings for him he withdraws.
Have you ever asked yourself, why can’t I have THIS GUY I WANT?
The reason men leave women is because when you start to care about a man so much that it hurts, you can’t help it, but develop certain feelings and emotions that begin to drive him away!
And if you’ve ever witnessed with your own eyes when a guy who seemed so much into you suddenly start to avoid you, this is because you, as your feelings for him developed, start to unintentionally act out of insecurities.
You are probably thinking, but I have never been needy. WAIT! I am not talking about being needy. I am talking about how a woman’s behavior changes when she starts to like a guy too much.
And it’s not that you should hide your emotions. You should show a guy that you like him and that you are not indifferent toward him HOWEVER in most instances, even when the guy likes you, you will develop insecurities and act on them!
This is a fact! This is the female nature!
If you are not sure whether you are acting insecure with the man you really like, ask yourself, does my behavior change when I start to like a guy too much?
And the next question you need to ask yourself is, how does my behavior differ from the type of behavior I display with men I am not into?
And you will see that even with a man you were not all that into in the beginning, as you start to develop feelings stronger and stronger, you start to act differently around him!
You start to question if he still likes you.
You start to think about how you will be perceived by him if you say this and that; or if you do this and that.
Now you are acting with your guy in mind!
Instead of being your true and authentic self you begin to act based on your own assumptions of what he will think about you and whether he will like it when you say or do something.
And if you change your mind about saying or doing something based on your assumption that it is not safe to say or do these things around him out of fear that he won’t like you because of that – there you have it!
And when you start acting with him on the back of your mind, that’s when he subconsciously feels that there is something wrong; that you are not as fun anymore; that you are not as easy-going anymore; and that it is not as enjoyable for him to be around you any longer!
Unfortunately many women do this over and over, in every relationship they get; and every time this starts happening the man withdraws and stops calling; and eventually you find out that he is already dating someone else!
Some women knowing this weakness about themselves start to play hard to get. But the truth is, that when you play hard to get you look ever more pathetic because while you are still acting out of insecurities you at the same time are pretending to be tough, and this is transparent!
For instance, if you don’t hear from the man you like for a few days you start acting like a nervous wreck, but when you finally hear from him you don’t answer the phone.
You do both these things out of insecurities:
You panic in the first place because you are afraid he is never going to call;
Secondly, you don’t answer the phone when he does eventually call because you are afraid that he is going to think you are needy, so you are sort of playing hard to get, but the end result is, if you didn’t care this much you would never have to play hard to get!
See, what I am saying?
If you still don’t believe me, ask yourself, have I ever played hard to get with a man I don’t care about whatsoever?
Imagine there is a guy you don’t like and you don’t find attractive. Will you play hard to get with him? Will you refuse to answer the phone if you haven’t heard from him in a week because you care about his opinion of you? I don’t think so. I think you may not answer the phone because you don’t care, but if you are bored you will answer the phone as if nothing happened.
Will you care if what he thinks of you as if you have nothing going on? I don’t think so.
This is because you are not trying to get him to like you.
And when you try so desperately to get a man to like you, your insecurities come out in their full force and take the best of you!
And you spend a lot of time trying to be independent and doing your own thing but even the most powerful women can become sick puppies when they start to fall in love with a man.