Why Men Won’t Commit To Marriage
Why men won’t commit to marriage is a question many want to know the answer to. If you have been dating a man for a long time and he has yet to ask you to marry him, you may be wondering, why won’t he ask me to marry him? If your relationship seems to be good overall it seems like a logical step to take it to the next level. And yet, your man is not in a hurry to propose to you.
You may be going crazy trying to understand the underlying reasons for his lack of commitment or desire to formalize the relationship by making the wedding vows, and yet, the reason for a man’s reluctance to make a proposal is not as difficult to understand once you know the thought process of a typical man when he is involved in a serious relationship with a woman.
A typical man who doesn’t want to get married is happy with the way the relationship is as long as he is getting everything he needs from the relationship. If you are providing him with intimacy and companionship, if you are washing his clothes and cook meals for him, if you spend every weekend together and go away on a vacation together, unless he wants children he may not want to commit to a marriage. Why buy the cow when you can have all the free milk you want?
If you want to give your man an incentive to commit to a marriage, you must be willing to give him more in a marriage than you are already giving him. But if you are asking, what more can I possibly give him, you may already be giving him all he wants.
If you are spending every waking day together, why would he want to get married? The only incentive he has to marry you is if he sees that a marriage will provide more than what he is getting now.
And I am not saying you should stop what you are doing, at least not all of the things that you are doing, but just some selected things. If you have been overly pleasing to your boyfriend, perhaps you should put yourself first and ask yourself, what is it that I want? Am I getting all I want from this relationship or am I settling for less than I deserve? If the answer is the latter, change the dynamics of the relationship. Granted, it is good to put the person you love first, but only he is doing the same for you. If he puts his priorities above you, do the same. Only when both persons are on the same page, will you achieve harmony in your relationship.
Another reason that men don’t commit to marriage is because they are simply not sure they want to spend the rest of their life with their current girlfriends. Make Him Commit explains why men who currently have girlfriends, and are even living with their girlfriends are reluctant to making a marriage commitment. It’s not that they are commitment phobics; it is simply because they are killing time with their girlfriends so to speak. They are unsure whether they want to make a commitment to their current girlfriends. In fact, the opposite is true – they are sure that their girlfriends are NOT the ones to spend the rest of their lives with. As shocking as it is, a man can date a woman for months and years fully knowing that he does not see her as his future wife.
If you want to learn how to make a man commit to a marriage, read Make Him Commit!