Why Men Won’t Commit To Marriage

February 7, 2010 by  
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Why men won’t commit to marriage is a question many want to know the answer to. If you have been dating a man for a long time and he has yet to ask you to marry him, you may be wondering, why won’t he ask me to marry him? If your relationship seems to be good overall it seems like a logical step to take it to the next level. And yet, your man is not in a hurry to propose to you.

You may be going crazy trying to understand the underlying reasons for his lack of commitment or desire to formalize the relationship by making the wedding vows, and yet, the reason for a man’s reluctance to make a proposal is not as difficult to understand once you know the thought process of a typical man when he is involved in a serious relationship with a woman.

A typical man who doesn’t want to get married is happy with the way the relationship is as long as he is getting everything he needs from the relationship. If you are providing him with intimacy and companionship, if you are washing his clothes and cook meals for him, if you spend every weekend together and go away on a vacation together, unless he wants children he may not want to commit to a marriage. Why buy the cow when you can have all the free milk you want?

If you want to give your man an incentive to commit to a marriage, you must be willing to give him more in a marriage than you are already giving him. But if you are asking, what more can I possibly give him, you may already be giving him all he wants.

If you are spending every waking day together, why would he want to get married? The only incentive he has to marry you is if he sees that a marriage will provide more than what he is getting now.

And I am not saying you should stop what you are doing, at least not all of the things that you are doing, but just some selected things. If you have been overly pleasing to your boyfriend, perhaps you should put yourself first and ask yourself, what is it that I want? Am I getting all I want from this relationship or am I settling for less than I deserve? If the answer is the latter, change the dynamics of the relationship. Granted, it is good to put the person you love first, but only he is doing the same for you. If he puts his priorities above you, do the same. Only when both persons are on the same page, will you achieve harmony in your relationship.

Another reason that men don’t commit to marriage is because they are simply not sure they want to spend the rest of their life with their current girlfriends. Make Him Commit explains why men who currently have girlfriends, and are even living with their girlfriends are reluctant to making a marriage commitment. It’s not that they are commitment phobics; it is simply because they are killing time with their girlfriends so to speak. They are unsure whether they want to make a commitment to their current girlfriends. In fact, the opposite is true – they are sure that their girlfriends are NOT the ones to spend the rest of their lives with. As shocking as it is, a man can date a woman for months and years fully knowing that he does not see her as his future wife.

If you want to learn how to make a man commit to a marriage, read Make Him Commit!

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  1. The duke says:

    Real reasons why men don’t waant to commit western women:

    1) uneven divorce laws
    2) marriage is a women business
    3) why buy the cow since you have milk for free?
    4) there’s nothing good in a marriage for men
    5) women are selfish, egoist, carrier minded and egoist zombies
    6) no fault marriage is the new gold-digger sport women do nowadays
    7) babies are used by state to collect assets, house and money from men
    8) women lost their valours since many of them doesn’t even take care of the house nor are able to cook
    9) once being married, women let their beauty fades away and relax upon state laws insurance
    10) women is the reason why the word “cheat” was writen in the Vocabulary,
    11) If a woman want to cheat, she simply ask a man and 100% get laid, 100% free, no hassle, no problem..men haven’t this power until they just find one woman who want to cheat and pay a lot of money for her in the process (dating, drinks, restaurant and even the condom he must use to get sex)
    12) there are NO GUARANTEES in marriage anymore.. if you marry a woman due you are afraid to die alone, keep in mind that we ALL die alone, once the reaper call, its you he’s looking for.
    13) women says that single men are stupid since they will die alone, well since many women who marry men do not permit them to keep their friends, think about how many people you can meet since you stay single

    and much more i don’t want to write but im totally sure you can figure out by yourself..

    one last word.. today, if you want to make a MAN(*)commit, you should have a LOT of money,your home, being able to cook, give sex, being faithful, keep your shape up, be his best friend and don’t try to change him

    (*) since if you haven’t all this qualities, you’ll get a doormat and one day you simply dump it due he is BOOOORING

  2. Damien says:

    ::::Why Men Increasingly Avoid Marriage:::::::

    Across the internet, women have begun making statements such as:

    Why are men avoiding marriage?
    Why do guys avoid commitment?

    Being single sucks.

    A Carl Weisman study showed American men are increasingly avoiding marriage. In many other countries, like Italy, Spain, Australia and so on, Men fear getting involved in bad marriages with bad wives. This fear is partly driven by the Nazifeminist based anti-husband messages of women’s magazines, TV and writers.

    For example, look at those femminine Magazines, many claims their marriage survey shows moms are angry at their husbands “at surprising levels”. They state husbands “often don’t notice what needs to be done around the house or with the kids”.

    They also claim husbands have “more time to themselves” as compared with moms. Their survey stated 46% of moms get irate with their husbands once a week or more. Lisa Bain, executive editor of Parenting Magazine said “The truth is if you prick any one of us with a little pin, anger comes out”. Female writers of ABC News and the Associated Press discussed the survey and expressed outrage at husbands.

    However, the magazine’s survey completely ignored husbands. No husband was asked anything. His opinions were considered unimportant. His efforts at work were ignored and he was largely unappreciated by his wife, also this trend is the same when someone interview people in the streets, very few men and a lot of women.

    Another example: One stay at home mom participating in the survey stated she was angered at her husband (who worked 11 hour days) because he set aside some time one day a week to be an independent music producer – something he enjoyed. Another wife responding to the survey stated though her husband did 60% of the housework plus his job, she was angered she had to ask him to do housework.

    Single men wonder why is he doing 60% of the work plus his job. They think:

    Why should I get married if my opinions don’t matter?
    Why would I want to marry a woman who will be mad at me every week for the rest of my life because I don’t do things her way?
    Why is she my boss?

    It should also be noted none of the wives in the survey report stated they help their husband with house repairs. Additionally, Glen Sacks stated, according to the Bureau of Labor Statics, men’s time to themselves is a meaningless 1% higher than women’s.

    Another example: aMERICAN women’s magazine “Double X”, promotes books where wives cheat on their husbands. The book ‘Prospect Park West’ was promoted with the headline “Mommies Want to Have Sex, Just Not With Their Husbands”.

    The book ‘The Seven Year Itch’ was promoted with the question “is it still realistic to expect wives to remain faithful to their husbands?” Conversely Double X continuously criticizes cheating husbands. The feminist notion its acceptable for a wife to cheat but wrong for her husband to be unfaithful has also been promoted by the online women’s magazine Ivillage (though not all its writers agree with this mentality), female writers of the online magazine Askmen and, incredibly, Men’s Health Magazine. Additionally, female reporters of ABCNews & Good Morning America continuously criticize cheating husbands. They refuse to criticize cheating wives.

    Single men think:
    Why get married if its ok for my wife to cheat but I have to remain faithful?
    Why should I give up dating different women to be married to a cheating wife?
    Why should I accept abuse?

    Many husbands around the world have begun asking these same questions and have begun dumping their cheating wives in increasing numbers. This has given rise to websites such as “Stop Your Divorce in 4weeks” and “Cheatingways”. These sites seek to prevent husbands from divorcing their cheating wives. The 2nd site (owned by a woman) actually encourages wives to cheat on their husbands. It offers wives a wealth of tips on how to deceive and fraud their husband. The site apparently was not founded with this intent but, like most of the countries all over the world, drifted into an anti-husband mentality!

    Single men think:

    Since marriage means the exploitation of husbands then why the hell should I get married? Do they think I’m stupid?

    Lastly, in many countries (e.g: U.S.A, Spain, Italy and so on) divorce laws also cause men to fear marriage.

    The feminist judicial system often rules against husbands in divorce. Husband’s are usually ordered to pay large alimony / child support payments to the ex-wife. Some claim the child support payments contain hidden alimony. In many countries, these payments don’t decrease if the ex-wife’s income dramatically increases after the divorce or if she get another man/husband.

    Though some wives with high paying jobs have been ordered to pay alimony/child support to their ex-husbands, many judges are reluctant to apply divorce laws equally. Additionally, if the husband later loses his job & fails to continue child support payments, he will be jailed or punished severely!

    A husband may also face false accusations of sexual and child abuse during the divorce. In those countries with heavy feminist bureaucracy, the husband will have to prove his innocence while stay in prison.

    Some wives will interfere with the husband’s visitation rights to his children. In feminist oriented countries, the courts will do nothing to stop her. And paternity fraud remains legal.

    ::::::The divorce system is designed to trap men in bad marriages with bad wives.

    An increasing number of men in many countries are now reaching the conclusion that being a husband is not worth it. The better deal is to remain single and have a series of relationships with different women while pursuing hobbies and life goals.
    Additionally, a college educated single man can have a very good life.

    What if everything were reversed.

    What if only a husband’s perspective was important in marriage and cheating was only wrong for the wife?
    What if the family court system discriminated against wives?
    Would women want to become wives to the massive degree they do today?

    Doubtful.

    By nature, men and women are companions. By Nazifeminism, men and women are now adversaries.

    No word of lie, I withness men who was involved with women who would complain if they took the garbage out and put in the wrong trash can. She had two, and they both went out to the curb on Mondays, but if they put it in the can further from the door going outside, there was hell to pay.

    Still another would bitch at me for doing my own laundry…the wrong way…meaning “not the way I do my own”.

    Guys, you get married and you will always be wrong. Now I understand that these are smallish things over which to get upset, but if you get this kind of treatment for stupid and pointless shit, what kind of treatment can you expect with more important stuff?

    Marriage is voluntary slavery for any man. The only joy a wife has is complaining about everything you do, everything you say, and everything you believe. They may not all be ball-busting bull dykes, but they sure as hell think of you as nothing but a child needing her guidance; and a stupid one at that.

    Women wonder what happened to all the nice guys. When they say they want someone nice, they mean someone who never rebels, never disagrees, and only talks about what she wants to talk about. Don’t even think about considering yourself a self-realized human being. At best, you are an errant pet. Don’t believe me? Watch how they all spit venom amongst themselves when the men-folk are out of ear shot. It isn’t enough to merely be a decent if flawed man. You have to be “nice”.

    ::::Men’s reproductive rights? none!

    It doesn’t matter if it’s planned or not, NO MALE has any reproductive rights whatsoever.

    Meanwhile women have dozens of means of contraception, the right to abort WITHOUT the other parent’s consent, complete control over any male’s reproductive destiny, the right to simply dump babies they don’t want and more.

    It’s way past time women were required by law to acquire the father’s consent before proceding with any pregnancy. His involvement in the process should be both voluntary AND consensual.

    The only fact is that women have control over every part of the reproductive cycle – from pre-conception via contraceptives, to pregnancy via legalized abortions, and even post-birth via adoption and no penalized abandonment. A woman does not have to be a mother, if she so chooses.

    Now let’s look at what reproductive rights men have. They have none!

    If a woman gets pregnant, and can easily terminate it or give it away, she can choose to keep it so she can extract money from the man. Conversely, she can choose to kill the unborn baby, even if the man wants it.

    So I must disagree with statement that both parties should pay out of wedlock. Until men have equal reproductive rights (funny how women only want equality when it benefits them exclusively), all responsibilities should be solely placed on the woman who chooses to become a parent when she can opt out of it at any time.

    Marriage is the biggest source of depression and soul-crushing malaise for men in many countries. Nothing else even comes close.

    It is no wonder that the marriage rate is dropping fast everywhere, and that 40% of people say “marriage is obsolete”. Data from the U.K. that has not been cherrypicked to favor marriage shows that men who don’t marry are happier then men in any kind of marriage; And men who never marry have less heart disease than married men now. The old saw about married men “living longer” has also been disproven, with newer, better data.

    :::: Divorce: Men are doomed, women wins the pot!

    The only certain way to avoid losing the house, children, money, cars, and mental and physical health is not married.

    Each strategy, action plan and various precautions that you may take before get married, do not solve two major problems related to marriage in a feminist society like ours.

    The first of these two main problems arises when you get married: your wife from that moment, takes the knife by the handle.

    The second problem is that in case of separation, in most cases is the man to lose everythings.

    Regarding the first problem, your girlfriend just became “wife” is automatically invested by State laws with a great new power that earlier, during the normal relationship, did not have.

    It ‘s the power of using blackmail as a weapon in this Feminist State society, that is threatening the separation with everything that goes with it (the second problem).

    All the grains of the first problem can manifest itself in countless ways. An example: you have children, you want to send them to private school, your wife, to public school. Discuss, argue, and do not come to a compromise. In the evening, or night, your wife decides to revenge about you in a snake way: she doesn’t make love with you, for days, weeks, sometimes even for mouths.

    This weapon, we may name it “sexual blackmail”, she had it also before marriage, but it was fair, since you could oppose the other weapons:

    1) I leave you,
    2) I go with another woman better than you,
    3) I go to prostitutes,

    etc.etc.

    All these weapons, balancing the relactionship between men and women, now doesn’t works anymore!, well, you still have them but you can potentially backfire yourself!

    if you leave it, go with another, go to prostitutes or else your wife could use his new femminist State laws power, which did not had before, and invoke the rules (female), asking for the separation and punish you with everything that goes with it.

    During the marriage your wife can do the good and the bad weather, i doesn’t matter how much “land” you have in a marriage, keep in mind that she always rule on the entire playing field, and this one of those situations where the only way to don’t lose, is not to play.

    In other words, will you board a plane if you already knows that the chances it may crash is above 70%?? Doubtful.

    Do not get married.. We can not and should not entrust our fate to the only “good heart” of the woman you’re set, since for men are missing a number of safeguards that make the marriage the equivalent of Russian roulette (loaded with five bullets..)

    Once you become aware of this, we must consider the underlying problems, and before you ask “is convenient for me to get married?” you Would be better to ask yourself “why I want to get marry?”.

    For believers, this needs may arise to make the sacrament of marriage. But let me tell you.. does this sacrament make sense in a corrupted society, where the marriage seems to have become an excuse to have joy in the church for a day, have a good time for a week going “honeymoon in the Maldives”, only to dissolve this “sacred link “when you wife decide it’s time to” break free from the chains of marriage (but not from your bank account)?

    Is this or not, for believers, a serious insult to the sacrament of marriage?

    Just as in a church, used for black prayers and the adoration of the devil should not celebrate prayers, so in a society corrupted by feminist cancer, a church should not be used to clean the traditions that we have only in the outer shell, but within inside is corrupted and decaying.

    For non-believers, however, the issue is much simpler, and decide not to marry takes a sense of independence from the increasingly oppressive rule from this NAZIFEMMINIST State laws against men in many countries!

    Let me ask you, Why give the State more freedom to enter right into our bedrooms, giving women more options to punish men when she decide that this is right? why let them be the judges of men sentimental/economical life?

    This power, which the NAZIFEMMINIST State laws has used and continues to use to transfer money from men’s wallets in women’s pockets, and to widen the freedom of all proportion to the detriment of women than men, now sees its greatest expression in the Marriage!

    The only solution, TODAY, is: AVOID MARRIAGE.

    If you want to live the experience of married life, you can always experiment with cohabitation, longer or shorter, always provided that they are not made more insidious and misleading laws to equate cohabitation with marriage! talk straight to your partner that you are not ready for marriage and eventually you’ll never be… and if they start to argue with you that you are selfish and you should grow up and get your responsabilities, it means that you should be ready to be enslaved to what they thing is best for you.. so ditch them as soon as you can! if you don’t want to be another bancomat/ATM men with the word “welcome” tatooed in your shoulders, just to remember that you become a new Nazifeminist’s slave!

  3. Katia Swamp says:

    Divorce is not always good. You should constantly work out first the problems in your marriage before settling into divorce. In asian countries, divorce is almost completely unheard of simply because they have lots of patience on their marriage.

  4. franko says says:

    well if there was a decent woman out there for us men that are very serious about meeting one, we can easily commit to just one woman that would make us happy and even get married as well. it is bad enough at one time that i was married, but she turned out to be the filthy whore that i never knew. if i had known in the first place, i obviously would have never married the bitch. now trying to meet a woman is very hard for me again, since many of the women today have such an attitude problem and are so very hard to start a conversation with.

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